My husband and I are going away for a long weekend (all covered by his impressive stash of Frequent Flyer points).
All I want to do is stretch out in a hammock and read, so I've reserved a couple of books from the library.
I've lost some of my mojo for all things Mustachian this past week or so. Not that I'm not willing, but without the time to spend on the forum and updating our numbers, my resolve wavers a bit. And I don't even want to bother with some of the things that are keeping me busy, so it's time to start saying no.
We live apart from much of our family and friends, so we end up travelling a lot to visit them. On certain sides, it's been a long time since the favour was reciprocated. We're apparently young and flexible (true), so it's easier for us to drive three hours here or four hours there for weekends. But then we find ourselves during periods like now, when we have four consecutive weekends away, then my husband overseas for a fortnight, during which I have one lot of house guests then have to travel to visit someone else.
We've prided ourselves on this in the past. We're adaptable, we're fast, efficient packers, we can be ready in no time, we're used to being away from home, we like seeing our friends and families, last year we drove from Alice Springs to Adelaide on two days' notice, over a day and a half with just four hours in Coober Pedy to get some sleep. And because we've always been that couple, people now expect it, and it's hard for us to say, 'We would actually like more than four consecutive nights in our own bed. Occasionally we'd like to be home of a weekend to buy groceries and do laundry. We'd like to remember what it's like to look forward to weekends instead of just remembering where we're going and why. We'd like you to come to us occasionally, and if you don't want to, we're ok with that too, because who actually likes house guests.'
These relationships won't fall apart if we go a few weeks or even a couple of months between visits. I'm sick of us shaping our lives around obligations to others.
(And yes, I understand that I started this post hypocritically by talking about a weekend away. We booked it months ago. Now I wish we were just staying home, but I think it will be good for us when we actually get there.)
Sorry for the incredibly off-topic vent. Normal broadcasting may now resume.