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Re: Mustachian People Problems (just for fun)
« Reply #2000 on: September 29, 2015, 06:34:34 PM »
On a business trip to Vegas, and after work stuff and dinner is over for the day, there is nothing to do.

I like to watch HGTV when I am on work trips. I don't have cable at home.

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« Reply #2001 on: September 29, 2015, 07:06:30 PM »
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On a business trip to Vegas, and after work stuff and dinner is over for the day, there is nothing to do.

Downtown las vegas is actually pretty cool. There is the weird city walk projector thing where they play songs and show weird images. My mom went nuts when they played this:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7JM2ghmhGk0

There is also an indoor zipline.

Anyways, an unfortunate problem I had: I had to deal with credit card fraud last week. I got hit with 1k of charges. I got it all refunded. But I hadn't been looking at my transactions because I hadn't been buying anything.
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Re: Mustachian People Problems (just for fun)
« Reply #2002 on: September 29, 2015, 07:37:47 PM »
That's Fremont Street, and I agree, Vegas is pretty cool just to walk around and take in the sights / people watch.

Not very mustachian but drinks can be very cheap (by out of the home prices) in some places. I assume it's because you'll gamble more if they liquor you up.

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« Reply #2003 on: September 29, 2015, 08:05:28 PM »
Just had a discussion with (non-mustachian) DH because when he complained he's broke this month, I replied "Me too" due to some sudden expenses which swiped out my liquid savings. He got mad because I can't complaint about being broke when I have thousands invested.
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« Reply #2004 on: September 29, 2015, 08:46:14 PM »
Just had a discussion with (non-mustachian) DH because when he complained he's broke this month, I replied "Me too" due to some sudden expenses which swiped out my liquid savings. He got mad because I can't complaint about being broke when I have thousands invested.

I had that before my husband and I were even engaged. For a while there he was only working casual shifts, we were living apart, he had a very expensive commute by car, and his income was irregular. I would often transfer him money for rent or fuel or groceries or phone credit, (he later got a full-time job and moved across the street from his office, which was the start of getting his financial house in order). But it wasn't beyond him to suggest dinner out or a movie, to which I would sometimes have to respond: "Sorry, I don't have the money this week."

He would get frustrated knowing I, as a new grad, had no debt and $10,000 in the bank. This was how I had savings, by transferring the money into my savings account and saying no when I had spent my spending money.

Our financial relationship has improved a lot since then, thank goodness.

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« Reply #2005 on: September 30, 2015, 08:40:19 AM »
Just discovered holes in the elbows of my shirt (again).

Can't decide if I should mend the holes or refashion it into a short sleeved shirt.

Problems indeed!

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Re: Mustachian People Problems (just for fun)
« Reply #2006 on: September 30, 2015, 08:42:48 AM »
Just had a discussion with (non-mustachian) DH because when he complained he's broke this month, I replied "Me too" due to some sudden expenses which swiped out my liquid savings. He got mad because I can't complaint about being broke when I have thousands invested.

I had that before my husband and I were even engaged. For a while there he was only working casual shifts, we were living apart, he had a very expensive commute by car, and his income was irregular. I would often transfer him money for rent or fuel or groceries or phone credit, (he later got a full-time job and moved across the street from his office, which was the start of getting his financial house in order). But it wasn't beyond him to suggest dinner out or a movie, to which I would sometimes have to respond: "Sorry, I don't have the money this week."

He would get frustrated knowing I, as a new grad, had no debt and $10,000 in the bank. This was how I had savings, by transferring the money into my savings account and saying no when I had spent my spending money.

Our financial relationship has improved a lot since then, thank goodness.

Exactly! This is something that he has difficulties to grasp. When he proposes something expensive and I reply that it's an unnecessary expense, and he tells me that I can afford it because I "have the money in the bank". Well yes dear, I have money in the bank because I don't burn it with unnecessary expenses.
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Re: Mustachian People Problems (just for fun)
« Reply #2007 on: September 30, 2015, 08:54:07 AM »
Just had a discussion with (non-mustachian) DH because when he complained he's broke this month, I replied "Me too" due to some sudden expenses which swiped out my liquid savings. He got mad because I can't complaint about being broke when I have thousands invested.
I hate it when people try to equate invested assets with available cash... not that having either one implies an obligation to give it away.

Just discovered holes in the elbows of my shirt (again).

Can't decide if I should mend the holes or refashion it into a short sleeved shirt.

Problems indeed!
I just keep my holey shirts, because they only get holey by being my favorites. DW and I end up having fights over how long to keep them before they get trashed.
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Re: Mustachian People Problems (just for fun)
« Reply #2008 on: September 30, 2015, 08:56:10 AM »
Just had a discussion with (non-mustachian) DH because when he complained he's broke this month, I replied "Me too" due to some sudden expenses which swiped out my liquid savings. He got mad because I can't complaint about being broke when I have thousands invested.
I hate it when people try to equate invested assets with available cash... not that having either one implies an obligation to give it away.

Just discovered holes in the elbows of my shirt (again).

Can't decide if I should mend the holes or refashion it into a short sleeved shirt.

Problems indeed!
I just keep my holey shirts, because they only get holey by being my favorites. DW and I end up having fights over how long to keep them before they get trashed.

You can always tell her you're the Pope every time you wear one :). Plus, if they are really bad, cut them and use them as rags?

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Re: Mustachian People Problems (just for fun)
« Reply #2009 on: September 30, 2015, 09:15:07 AM »
You can always tell her you're the Pope every time you wear one :). Plus, if they are really bad, cut them and use them as rags?
Hahaha... sure, except she's Argentinian so they're as good as related.

I have a couple that will reach that point soon. It's always an emotionally significant event for me. :(
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« Reply #2010 on: September 30, 2015, 10:00:56 AM »
Last year my company screwed up the payroll and over paid some people for about 1/2 of the year.   They recalculated the errors and decided that they would skim paychecks till the end of the year to get the money back.  People owed thousands, they had already spent the money.  There was anger and panic when our personal packet of the recalculated payroll was delivered in a meeting.  I ripped open the legal sized manilla envelope with the confidence of a $20,000 buffer in my savings account and zero debt.  My boss was sitting there trying to consol coworkers that owed 2000, 3000, 5000 or more dollars that they owed with only a few months to pay it back.
I slipped the seal on my packet and it contained a check for $600.  I had a reverse error and had been underpaid.  That didn't make those who owed any happier.
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« Reply #2011 on: September 30, 2015, 11:06:52 AM »
Last year my company screwed up the payroll and over paid some people for about 1/2 of the year.   They recalculated the errors and decided that they would skim paychecks till the end of the year to get the money back.  People owed thousands, they had already spent the money.  There was anger and panic when our personal packet of the recalculated payroll was delivered in a meeting.  I ripped open the legal sized manilla envelope with the confidence of a $20,000 buffer in my savings account and zero debt.  My boss was sitting there trying to consol coworkers that owed 2000, 3000, 5000 or more dollars that they owed with only a few months to pay it back.
I slipped the seal on my packet and it contained a check for $600.  I had a reverse error and had been underpaid.  That didn't make those who owed any happier.

Wow!
Yes, I know many (most really) ppl who would panic.- live paycheck-to-paycheck, but only because are complete spendy-pants. Hard for me to hav a serious conversation with those ppl, esp because leaving that way of living behind is unimaginable. So,  financial conversations are not started by me, but frequently by them- which I guess is good reminder to be grateful to "get it". "I'm so strapped"is something I hear all the time, but if course always buying flashy new clothes, replacing iPhone, going to shows for example. Even, get this: I mention how by laptop from 2009 is basically not fixable (reviewed and confirmed by techie) and I don't need one at this point, friend goes on to Google new Apple laptops! And where I can purchase.
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« Reply #2012 on: September 30, 2015, 11:57:36 AM »
Last year my company screwed up the payroll and over paid some people for about 1/2 of the year.   They recalculated the errors and decided that they would skim paychecks till the end of the year to get the money back.  People owed thousands, they had already spent the money.  There was anger and panic when our personal packet of the recalculated payroll was delivered in a meeting.  I ripped open the legal sized manilla envelope with the confidence of a $20,000 buffer in my savings account and zero debt.  My boss was sitting there trying to consol coworkers that owed 2000, 3000, 5000 or more dollars that they owed with only a few months to pay it back.
I slipped the seal on my packet and it contained a check for $600.  I had a reverse error and had been underpaid.  That didn't make those who owed any happier.

Ah, karma. Optionally, irony.
My apologies, but I found this tale quite funny, but I realize that could upset some folks.
Great that you were prepared and covered, no matter what, and even nicer that you got a $600 surprise.

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Re: Mustachian People Problems (just for fun)
« Reply #2013 on: September 30, 2015, 12:02:10 PM »
Just had a discussion with (non-mustachian) DH because when he complained he's broke this month, I replied "Me too" due to some sudden expenses which swiped out my liquid savings. He got mad because I can't complaint about being broke when I have thousands invested.

I had that before my husband and I were even engaged. For a while there he was only working casual shifts, we were living apart, he had a very expensive commute by car, and his income was irregular. I would often transfer him money for rent or fuel or groceries or phone credit, (he later got a full-time job and moved across the street from his office, which was the start of getting his financial house in order). But it wasn't beyond him to suggest dinner out or a movie, to which I would sometimes have to respond: "Sorry, I don't have the money this week."

He would get frustrated knowing I, as a new grad, had no debt and $10,000 in the bank. This was how I had savings, by transferring the money into my savings account and saying no when I had spent my spending money.

Our financial relationship has improved a lot since then, thank goodness.

Exactly! This is something that he has difficulties to grasp. When he proposes something expensive and I reply that it's an unnecessary expense, and he tells me that I can afford it because I "have the money in the bank". Well yes dear, I have money in the bank because I don't burn it with unnecessary expenses.

I consider myself broke because I cannot fill my TFSA room while repaying 32k$/year over my mortgage principal (balance is 56k$ now, 1.75 year to go) AND shoveling 20k$/year into RRSP AND putting 5k$ toward RESP AND keeping a checking account balance over 10k$ all the time. We "save" 50% of take home salary but it's difficult to make DW understand we are very tight on money...
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Re: Mustachian People Problems (just for fun)
« Reply #2014 on: September 30, 2015, 12:10:24 PM »
Feeling that you can't afford Starbucks while earning $100K/year, saving $50K/year and having $1M in assets is the essence of mustachianism !

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« Reply #2015 on: September 30, 2015, 02:23:38 PM »
Feeling that you can't afford Starbucks while earning $100K/year, saving $50K/year and having $1M in assets is the essence of mustachianism !

I'm not sure about this.  That sounds more like a caricature portrayal of Mustachianism.  Personally, I feel like I can afford Starbucks but choose not to buy it because it wouldn't make me any happier.  If I absolutely loved Starbucks, I'd have no problem buying it. 

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« Reply #2016 on: October 01, 2015, 06:52:43 AM »
On a business trip to Vegas, and after work stuff and dinner is over for the day, there is nothing to do.

I like to watch HGTV when I am on work trips. I don't have cable at home.

But in Vegas, I think I'd just look around and judge the extravagance.

I think I posted this after trying to walk around and judge the extravagance, and the other three people with me oozed cynicism (closet mustachians?) and just wanted to go back to the hotel. A couple nights later I ended up at Cirque du Soleil courtesy of a vendor and then walked the Strip and marveled at the ridulousness of it all.  I enjoyed the trip, but I can't see spending thousands of my own dollars to go there.

On the gambling side, I came out even.  But that's always the case if you don't play...

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« Reply #2017 on: October 01, 2015, 07:02:27 AM »
At the beginning of the month when it's time to sack what's left after paying the bills into savings or investments, and you have so much left that you're wondering ig you forgot to pay something. But nope! All the monies are yours.
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« Reply #2018 on: October 01, 2015, 08:24:42 AM »
Mustachian problem: when Mint doesn't work the last day of the month. Or the first day.

You mean I have to go and track all my numbers MANUALLY?
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« Reply #2019 on: October 01, 2015, 10:55:49 AM »
Mustachian problem: when Mint doesn't work the last day of the month. Or the first day.

You mean I have to go and track all my numbers MANUALLY?

Can't you just filter it to the one month or date range that you want? Most of their tools seem to do that.

I've mostly stopped using their analytic tools anyway. I just dump all the transactions into a spreadsheet that does the analysis and pivots I actually care about. Which has me thinking I should just get rid of Mint entirely, because I'm still a little nervous that they have all my passwords.

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« Reply #2020 on: October 01, 2015, 02:27:16 PM »
Mustachian problem: when Mint doesn't work the last day of the month. Or the first day.

You mean I have to go and track all my numbers MANUALLY?

Can't you just filter it to the one month or date range that you want? Most of their tools seem to do that.

I've mostly stopped using their analytic tools anyway. I just dump all the transactions into a spreadsheet that does the analysis and pivots I actually care about. Which has me thinking I should just get rid of Mint entirely, because I'm still a little nervous that they have all my passwords.

The whole point was it wasn't working the last two days. I always do an end of month recap, and since I couldn't access Mint, I had to go to my accounts directly. Sorry if that wasn't clear. I know how to set a date range on there and all that.
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Re: Mustachian People Problems (just for fun)
« Reply #2021 on: October 01, 2015, 09:43:03 PM »
Just discovered holes in the elbows of my shirt (again).

Can't decide if I should mend the holes or refashion it into a short sleeved shirt.

Problems indeed!

Elbow patches are in again. Slap some leather on that!

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« Reply #2022 on: October 05, 2015, 07:11:58 PM »
Feeling that you can't afford Starbucks while earning $100K/year, saving $50K/year and having $1M in assets is the essence of mustachianism !

I'm not sure about this.  That sounds more like a caricature portrayal of Mustachianism.  Personally, I feel like I can afford Starbucks but choose not to buy it because it wouldn't make me any happier.  If I absolutely loved Starbucks, I'd have no problem buying it.

Agreed, see Mrs Money Mustache's latest post about how awesome it is to make lattes at home, among other things.

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Urchina, I still haven't decided on that shirt but thinking about it inspired me to tackle my mending pile and put 2 pair of work pants back in rotation, 2 pair of jeans back into weekend rotation (maybe, not sure those patches will blend in enough to wear outside the house) and another shirt into at-least-weekend rotation if not back to work-worthy.

Love the elbow patches idea, but it's only a 3/4 sleeve shirt so that would look odd IMHO.

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« Reply #2023 on: October 06, 2015, 09:32:26 AM »
RelaxedGal, +1 on the patches! Even with a 3/4 it should look interesting. Hell, post a thread about mending clothes, maybe. Show pictures of it! I'd be interested, at least.
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« Reply #2024 on: October 06, 2015, 10:36:23 AM »
Here's my problem:

I have a neighbor who is taking up a collection to help another neighbor out.  The person the collection is for has had a lot of medical issues, and likely has very high bills- and they are no longer able to work due to the medical issue. I have no doubt money is tighter than normal.


But they just spent the summer landscaping and are currently putting in some home improvements that I would LOVE to have in my house but while not too expensive, aren't in MY budget.

I don't want to look like a jerk by not giving $25; but I also think if money is so tight your neighbors are offering charity, you don't upgrade the laundry room!

(In their defense, I don't believe they are asking for the money, I think the collector took it upon themselves to surprise them with this.)

So mustachian people problem: I don't want to be a jerk; but dammit, if money's tight stop spending on unnecessary things!

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« Reply #2025 on: October 06, 2015, 10:38:30 AM »
Here's my problem:

I have a neighbor who is taking up a collection to help another neighbor out.  The person the collection is for has had a lot of medical issues, and likely has very high bills- and they are no longer able to work due to the medical issue. I have no doubt money is tighter than normal.


But they just spent the summer landscaping and are currently putting in some home improvements that I would LOVE to have in my house but while not too expensive, aren't in MY budget.

I don't want to look like a jerk by not giving $25; but I also think if money is so tight your neighbors are offering charity, you don't upgrade the laundry room!

(In their defense, I don't believe they are asking for the money, I think the collector took it upon themselves to surprise them with this.)

So mustachian people problem: I don't want to be a jerk; but dammit, if money's tight stop spending on unnecessary things!

Maybe they're planning on downsizing, and they feel these are needed updates to achieve that?
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« Reply #2026 on: October 06, 2015, 10:43:07 AM »
Maybe they're planning on downsizing, and they feel these are needed updates to achieve that?

I really do not think they are planning on moving anytime soon.

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« Reply #2027 on: October 06, 2015, 02:39:21 PM »
Here's my problem:

I have a neighbor who is taking up a collection to help another neighbor out.  The person the collection is for has had a lot of medical issues, and likely has very high bills- and they are no longer able to work due to the medical issue. I have no doubt money is tighter than normal.


But they just spent the summer landscaping and are currently putting in some home improvements that I would LOVE to have in my house but while not too expensive, aren't in MY budget.

I don't want to look like a jerk by not giving $25; but I also think if money is so tight your neighbors are offering charity, you don't upgrade the laundry room!

(In their defense, I don't believe they are asking for the money, I think the collector took it upon themselves to surprise them with this.)

So mustachian people problem: I don't want to be a jerk; but dammit, if money's tight stop spending on unnecessary things!


I don't feel obligated to donate to anyone or anything I don't believe in or feel like donating to. There are other ways to help, that don't involve dwindling my funds.

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« Reply #2028 on: October 06, 2015, 03:31:56 PM »
Here's my problem:

I have a neighbor who is taking up a collection to help another neighbor out.  The person the collection is for has had a lot of medical issues, and likely has very high bills- and they are no longer able to work due to the medical issue. I have no doubt money is tighter than normal.


But they just spent the summer landscaping and are currently putting in some home improvements that I would LOVE to have in my house but while not too expensive, aren't in MY budget.

I don't want to look like a jerk by not giving $25; but I also think if money is so tight your neighbors are offering charity, you don't upgrade the laundry room!

(In their defense, I don't believe they are asking for the money, I think the collector took it upon themselves to surprise them with this.)

So mustachian people problem: I don't want to be a jerk; but dammit, if money's tight stop spending on unnecessary things!

Maybe they're planning on downsizing, and they feel these are needed updates to achieve that?

I would be sooo embarrased if I was the reciever of money some neighbours collected because they thought we were poor. How do you know they don't have massive emergency fund, or became FI years ago? We got a ~30% reduction of our income do to medical stuff, and it was embarrasing enough to explain to family that we didn't want or need their charity, this was well within our budget. Imaging having to explain to strangers that "sorry, I know you meant well, but basicly, eh.... we are richer than you".
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« Reply #2029 on: October 06, 2015, 04:13:11 PM »
It's not a poor neighborhood, so honestly, yeah, for all I know they are millionaires.

If feel better if we were giving them something they needed or helping out with chores she can't do anymore or something like that. I'd be all for, with their health lets all hire a service to plow for them this winter- something specific, that even if they can afford it's just a gift to show we care. Or even if it was "they just had a $10,000 medical bill, let's help out"- but it's so unknown.

I'm going to give the money so I don't look like a jerk to my other neighbors, but I just don't get it. Its clear they aren't living bare bones yet, so it seems so weird to offer help in this way.
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Re: Mustachian People Problems (just for fun)
« Reply #2030 on: October 06, 2015, 10:09:39 PM »
Maybe you'll get lucky.  They could be FI and use the donated money to throw a big party for all the neighbors.  Here's hoping...

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« Reply #2031 on: October 07, 2015, 08:33:46 AM »
If you want to do something really helpful, go rake the yard for them or something like that. Often, no one in the house has the ability or energy to deal with basic chores, etc. When my mom was sick, I spent a week just feeding her, cleaning (major cleaning, not just little stuff), doing laundry, organizing the house, etc. Plus almost taking her to the ER one day, but ended up not needing to do that at least.

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« Reply #2032 on: October 07, 2015, 08:41:18 AM »
If you want to do something really helpful, go rake the yard for them or something like that.

I've run errands for them, like to the grocery store or to take their kid to an after school activity when she couldn't drive.

It's just the money thing that I see as a "mustachian people problem". I don't want to give money to people who are spending their money on stuff I want but don't spend my money on because it's frivolous, but I don't want to look like a cheap jerk.

Helping out a neighbor is very important to me. I don't begrudge that they might need help they aren't asking for; but I know I'd be mortified if people just handed me money...

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« Reply #2033 on: October 07, 2015, 08:54:48 AM »
If you want to do something really helpful, go rake the yard for them or something like that.

I've run errands for them, like to the grocery store or to take their kid to an after school activity when she couldn't drive.

It's just the money thing that I see as a "mustachian people problem". I don't want to give money to people who are spending their money on stuff I want but don't spend my money on because it's frivolous, but I don't want to look like a cheap jerk.

Helping out a neighbor is very important to me. I don't begrudge that they might need help they aren't asking for; but I know I'd be mortified if people just handed me money...

Yeah, you're golden here. Money isn't necessary, and just tell your other neighbor that you're helping out in other ways.

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« Reply #2034 on: October 07, 2015, 09:00:18 AM »
Just discovered holes in the elbows of my shirt (again).

Can't decide if I should mend the holes or refashion it into a short sleeved shirt.

Problems indeed!

 You think you have problems, I bought some swim gloves in Aug, I just noticed I wore a hole
through one finger tip by pushing of the wall in the pool. These cost me $4.46!
  No more pushing of the wall for me.  :-)
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« Reply #2035 on: October 07, 2015, 09:17:27 AM »
It's not a poor neighborhood, so honestly, yeah, for all I know they are millionaires.

If feel better if we were giving them something they needed or helping out with chores she can't do anymore or something like that. I'd be all for, with their health lets all hire a service to plow for them this winter- something specific, that even if they can afford it's just a gift to show we care. Or even if it was "they just had a $10,000 medical bill, let's help out"- but it's so unknown.

I'm going to give the money so I don't look like a jerk to my other neighbors, but I just don't get it. Its clear they aren't living bare bones yet, so it seems so weird to offer help in this way.

  I feel a bit odd when I get a tip from, usually a waitress while working in my small business.
Knowing that my networth is over 100 times hers, if she even has any networth, makes it uncomfortable.

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« Reply #2036 on: October 07, 2015, 01:03:04 PM »
It's not a poor neighborhood, so honestly, yeah, for all I know they are millionaires.

If feel better if we were giving them something they needed or helping out with chores she can't do anymore or something like that. I'd be all for, with their health lets all hire a service to plow for them this winter- something specific, that even if they can afford it's just a gift to show we care. Or even if it was "they just had a $10,000 medical bill, let's help out"- but it's so unknown.

I'm going to give the money so I don't look like a jerk to my other neighbors, but I just don't get it. Its clear they aren't living bare bones yet, so it seems so weird to offer help in this way.

  I feel a bit odd when I get a tip from, usually a waitress while working in my small business.
Knowing that my networth is over 100 times hers, if she even has any networth, makes it uncomfortable.

I'm at odds with valuing someones work based on your own net worth. Now if tipping in your area of business is pressured as a social norm, it's a bit different. If not, accept the compliment graciously and put it out of your mind.

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« Reply #2037 on: October 07, 2015, 01:39:13 PM »

 You think you have problems, I bought some swim gloves in Aug, I just noticed I wore a hole
through one finger tip by pushing of the wall in the pool. These cost me $4.46!
  No more pushing of the wall for me.  :-)
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The ladies on my synchronized skating team were shocked to find out that a pair of over the boot tights ($30ish for the kind we wore) lasted me multiple competitions.  Because you were almost guaranteed to get a hole in them each time, which would turn into a run.

But as soon as I found a small hole, I sewed it up.  No one else even considered you could do that to tights.


Although- what exactly is the benefit of swim gloves? I've never seen anyone at our pool in gloves.

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« Reply #2038 on: October 07, 2015, 01:59:33 PM »
What's with these people taking up a donation for someone's health bills?  Do they not have insurance to cover them? 

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« Reply #2039 on: October 07, 2015, 02:00:54 PM »
What's with these people taking up a donation for someone's health bills?  Do they not have insurance to cover them?

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« Reply #2040 on: October 07, 2015, 04:34:56 PM »
My upstairs neighbor runs their AC a lot more than I do (granted, it's probably a couple degrees warmer upstairs).  At night when mine is off while their continues to run and run and run and build up condensation and drip down on my window ac unit with a loud pelunk that reverberates through the unit and wakes me up.  Sometimes I can ignore it.  I started sleeping facing the other direction so I my head wasn't right next to the window...  one night I was so exhausted I just couldn't handle it.  The room was cool enough, but I had to turn the ac's fan on to create enough noise and drown that pelunk out.  If I ran the ac 24/7 I'd never notice.

We had the same problem! We put an old mat on top of our unit and it dampens the noise A LOT! ~~MMM problem, remembering to remove the mat when the Management Company comes because they complain it looks 'cheap'.
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« Reply #2041 on: October 08, 2015, 11:33:45 AM »

 You think you have problems, I bought some swim gloves in Aug, I just noticed I wore a hole
through one finger tip by pushing of the wall in the pool. These cost me $4.46!
  No more pushing of the wall for me.  :-)
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Can you mend it?
The ladies on my synchronized skating team were shocked to find out that a pair of over the boot tights ($30ish for the kind we wore) lasted me multiple competitions.  Because you were almost guaranteed to get a hole in them each time, which would turn into a run.

But as soon as I found a small hole, I sewed it up.  No one else even considered you could do that to tights.


Although- what exactly is the benefit of swim gloves? I've never seen anyone at our pool in gloves.

I read that as "synchro swimming" since that is more common and was completely lost as to why you were wearing boots and tights and how you got holes/runs in them while swimming.  It was a funny picture to think of a bunch of ladies swimming in combat boots in perfect synch. 

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« Reply #2042 on: October 08, 2015, 12:41:13 PM »
Although- what exactly is the benefit of swim gloves? I've never seen anyone at our pool in gloves.
I've seen web-fingered swim gloves - presumably to give more of an arm workout ?

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« Reply #2043 on: October 09, 2015, 11:43:24 AM »
Forgot about this one, but about 9 months ago I had a very mustachian problem ...

We were planning to buy a home but for various reasons I decided to buy the home in my name alone (my wife lives in another country, 'nough said). Not too much of a problem as the home was £75,000 so I could just buy it cash. That was a mistake. I got grilled by the sollictor on a number of visits as to how I came to be in the posession of £75,000 by the young age of 30. I had to prove (!!) with bank statements from the last 5 or so years that I did save up that amount. Luckily, she never came to know there was another £80,000 at the time tucked away in investment accounts ...

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« Reply #2044 on: October 09, 2015, 11:55:49 AM »
Although- what exactly is the benefit of swim gloves? I've never seen anyone at our pool in gloves.
I've seen web-fingered swim gloves - presumably to give more of an arm workout ?
I'll tell you what - they make me feel like a fuckin' seal!
The increased resistance does make it possible to work the arms harder, but for me it's more about being temporarily faster. I've used them while surfing to increase my paddling power.
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« Reply #2045 on: October 09, 2015, 12:44:15 PM »
Forgot about this one, but about 9 months ago I had a very mustachian problem ...

We were planning to buy a home but for various reasons I decided to buy the home in my name alone (my wife lives in another country, 'nough said). Not too much of a problem as the home was £75,000 so I could just buy it cash. That was a mistake. I got grilled by the sollictor on a number of visits as to how I came to be in the posession of £75,000 by the young age of 30. I had to prove (!!) with bank statements from the last 5 or so years that I did save up that amount. Luckily, she never came to know there was another £80,000 at the time tucked away in investment accounts ...

Yeah, they're serious about that anti fraud stuff. Apparently people like to launder money through real-estate transactions.

It pushed the closing of our home back a couple weeks as I foolishly sold some stock and transferred it into my checking to pay for the down payment. Had to produce statements from both the bank and brokerage to show the money was mine.


Tip: if you're going to buy a house/launder money, have the money in your account 90+ days before you close. Apparently, they don't care/don't require paper trails if it's been there that long.

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« Reply #2046 on: October 10, 2015, 02:03:50 AM »
Forgot about this one, but about 9 months ago I had a very mustachian problem ...

We were planning to buy a home but for various reasons I decided to buy the home in my name alone (my wife lives in another country, 'nough said). Not too much of a problem as the home was £75,000 so I could just buy it cash. That was a mistake. I got grilled by the sollictor on a number of visits as to how I came to be in the posession of £75,000 by the young age of 30. I had to prove (!!) with bank statements from the last 5 or so years that I did save up that amount. Luckily, she never came to know there was another £80,000 at the time tucked away in investment accounts ...

Yeah, they're serious about that anti fraud stuff. Apparently people like to launder money through real-estate transactions.

It pushed the closing of our home back a couple weeks as I foolishly sold some stock and transferred it into my checking to pay for the down payment. Had to produce statements from both the bank and brokerage to show the money was mine.


Tip: if you're going to buy a house/launder money, have the money in your account 90+ days before you close. Apparently, they don't care/don't require paper trails if it's been there that long.

Wow! I'm shocked by this! A bit shocked that someone could not believe you could save up £75,000 by age 30, pretty shocked that 90 days is the furthest they check back, and TOTALLY shocked that you bought a house for £75k! (Presume in UK because in £.) WHERE???

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Re: Mustachian People Problems (just for fun)
« Reply #2047 on: October 10, 2015, 03:35:10 AM »
Forgot about this one, but about 9 months ago I had a very mustachian problem ...

We were planning to buy a home but for various reasons I decided to buy the home in my name alone (my wife lives in another country, 'nough said). Not too much of a problem as the home was £75,000 so I could just buy it cash. That was a mistake. I got grilled by the sollictor on a number of visits as to how I came to be in the posession of £75,000 by the young age of 30. I had to prove (!!) with bank statements from the last 5 or so years that I did save up that amount. Luckily, she never came to know there was another £80,000 at the time tucked away in investment accounts ...

Yeah, they're serious about that anti fraud stuff. Apparently people like to launder money through real-estate transactions.

It pushed the closing of our home back a couple weeks as I foolishly sold some stock and transferred it into my checking to pay for the down payment. Had to produce statements from both the bank and brokerage to show the money was mine.


Tip: if you're going to buy a house/launder money, have the money in your account 90+ days before you close. Apparently, they don't care/don't require paper trails if it's been there that long.

Wow! I'm shocked by this! A bit shocked that someone could not believe you could save up £75,000 by age 30, pretty shocked that 90 days is the furthest they check back, and TOTALLY shocked that you bought a house for £75k! (Presume in UK because in £.) WHERE???
I just sold a house a few months back, for £55k. Its value was falling by hundreds every month, so I managed to get out just in time to clear the mortgage.

Come to Manchester, houses are cheap. And cheaper with every day that passes.

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« Reply #2048 on: October 10, 2015, 10:15:11 AM »
Forgot about this one, but about 9 months ago I had a very mustachian problem ...

We were planning to buy a home but for various reasons I decided to buy the home in my name alone (my wife lives in another country, 'nough said). Not too much of a problem as the home was £75,000 so I could just buy it cash. That was a mistake. I got grilled by the sollictor on a number of visits as to how I came to be in the posession of £75,000 by the young age of 30. I had to prove (!!) with bank statements from the last 5 or so years that I did save up that amount. Luckily, she never came to know there was another £80,000 at the time tucked away in investment accounts ...

Yeah, they're serious about that anti fraud stuff. Apparently people like to launder money through real-estate transactions.

It pushed the closing of our home back a couple weeks as I foolishly sold some stock and transferred it into my checking to pay for the down payment. Had to produce statements from both the bank and brokerage to show the money was mine.


Tip: if you're going to buy a house/launder money, have the money in your account 90+ days before you close. Apparently, they don't care/don't require paper trails if it's been there that long.

Wow! I'm shocked by this! A bit shocked that someone could not believe you could save up £75,000 by age 30, pretty shocked that 90 days is the furthest they check back, and TOTALLY shocked that you bought a house for £75k! (Presume in UK because in £.) WHERE???
I just sold a house a few months back, for £55k. Its value was falling by hundreds every month, so I managed to get out just in time to clear the mortgage.

Come to Manchester, houses are cheap. And cheaper with every day that passes.

Ah, The North... A friend of mine bought a three bedroom house with a garden in Yorkshire for £130k a few years ago. I nearly exploded with jealousy! A move to somewhere like Wales or the Midlands is potentially on the cards for the future, but right now our lives, friends and jobs are in the south-east, unfortunately.

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« Reply #2049 on: October 10, 2015, 11:29:33 AM »
Wow! I'm shocked by this! A bit shocked that someone could not believe you could save up £75,000 by age 30, pretty shocked that 90 days is the furthest they check back, and TOTALLY shocked that you bought a house for £75k! (Presume in UK because in £.) WHERE???
It's mostly idiots who had a 30min mandatory training  video on "know your customer/money laundering" and believed it.

We owed a £10 fee to the estate agent (realtor) for a copy of a lost key or something trivial - they wouldn't take cash because  "it's against the law" we had to write a cheque !