One of my buddies constantly questions me on basically every purchase that I don't make right now. Any time I question the utility of something, say it isn't in the budget, or whatever, I am viewed like a miser. It is very perplexing to me because we spend a metric shitton on travel. We just don't buy a lot of things/gadgets/whatever. We also have exponentially more saved. One time he asked me how much I had saved and I told him (this was 5 years ago when I had ~1/6th of the stash we have now), but it seemed like him gaining the information didn't actually help the situation, it just made him more apt to question my decisions.
For example, we were recently discussing the possibility of DW and I moving back to a large city in the next half-decade and I mentioned how I'm excited to do it so we can ditch the car. He said 'wait till you have kids,' you'll change your mind. I said, 'no, we won't. We'll be in the city. Everything is accessible by public transit, walking, biking, uber, buses, or taxis.' He said just wait till you have a sick kid at 2 am and you can't drive to the hospital in your car. I told him a once-in-a-blue moon occurence does not necessitate the purchase of a car.
It is even more confusing to me because they care about things like the environment, yet waste far more than me. They care about poor workers in other countries, yet buy way more e-things and crap than I do (ex: they upgrade their iphones every time). And finally, they care about politics and the plight of others, yet don't give any time or money (I don't want to get into a debate about charity again, I'm making a point here).
Once or twice I've expressed my thoughts in less than ideal ways, but I generally steer clear of discussing this. He's almost always the one that brings it up and his wife sometimes jumps in on the conversation, too.
Any ideas about what is going on here? Is this me inadvertently drawing attention to his situation?