I need to make myself go eat a nice, decently sized, healthy lunch and not worry about the unattainable 130 pounds that I have never been able to achieve in my adult life.
This whole thread is pretty fascinating. I've found weight loss to be a challenge, and go back and forth on it.
On one hand, I have a "number" (doesn't everyone? For me it's 135.)
I have only hit it once since having baby #2 4 years ago. I managed to lose *most* of the baby weight by the time my son was 2.5. Then I stalled a year.
Then when he was 3.5, I decided to hit it hard for a month. I lost the last 6 lbs, but then the whole family got the stomach flu, and I lost 7 more (down to 129). And ... I didn't look very good. When it all settled out I was back to 136. But then in the spring I found myself up at 141 again.
So...I struggle with whether or not I really care. I've been eating healthfully and exercising regularly. My clothing fits. My weight can fluctuate by several pounds EASILY by time of the month, water retention. How important is that damn number? (Which was 139 this week, but I have pms).
The truth of the matter is to hit "that number" requires literal perfection in my diet. That is *no* wine, *no* wheat, *no* sugar...ever. And carefully controlled calories.
Is five pounds really worth it? Because honest truth, those five pounds aren't going to make me suddenly a supermodel. I'm a 5'2", almost-46 year old stocky mother of 2. I'm *trying* to break up with my scale, and only use it as *one* tool. But it's hard because I'm such a numbers geek.
Parents can be tough. Mine are gone, but my mother used to have issues too. When I was about 11, and she was 37, she lost a bunch of weight with my dad on a 1000-cal a day diet. She walked several miles a day. She was 5'5" and weighed 125, which was very hard to maintain. When I managed to lose weight in my 30's, and again after baby #1, she would say things like "well when *I* was your age I was in great shape too, but THEN look at what happened!!" It wasn't very supportive, to say the least (she was 100 pounds overweight and an alcoholic).
I have a good friend who played water polo in HS and was tall and skinny - 130 lbs - you know, like HS kids often are. Then she got up over 200 lbs, but then lost weight after dumping a boyfriend. So now she's late 30's, very healthy, but she's never going to hit 130 lbs again. More like 160-170, but she's tall and muscular and very fit. But her dad - her DAD still says things like "when you were 18..."