I know the worlds not always black and white, but sometimes from my perspective it sure looks black and white on a lot of issues.
I am going to say this in the kindest way I know how, and it honestly isn't meant as a personal attack, but after reading other threads that you are involved in, have you ever considered that you just may not have very much empathy?
I used to see things as very black and white too, until I started truly understanding that others had different lives, experiences, biology and thoughts that made my experiences irrelvant to their experiences.
As far as addiction goes, we can talk until we are blue in the face about it without truly understanding it because the science isn't there yet. Why do some people drink until they black out? Why are some people able to realize they have a problem drinking and use non-AA programs to continue drinking in a non problematic manner? My parents were both alcoholics, but their behavior around alcohol was dramatically different. My father got happy and relaxed when drinking, and was tense when he wasn't. My mom got very quiet and sad when drinking.
At an early age, like 10 years old, when I realized my dad was an alcoholic, I vowed to never drink alcohol. I don't think I am a fundamentally better person than my parents were. I just am very risk averse, and didn't think it was worth the potential risk of becoming an alcoholic to mess around with booze. But most other kids of addicts don't make that choice, but I don't feel like I am a better person than they are.