233k might sound relatively high to some people, but keep in mind that that's between two people. $116,500 is not a high income for an individual person.
I don't really understand why Americans tend to consider income at the household level, rather than the individual level. A household of two people can easily earn twice as much money as just an individual person. It makes no sense to compare different-sized households without adjusting for the number of people.
As for the OP, I think most people here probably can't imagine how much taxes you have to pay at that level of income, which is honestly not even that high of an income. It's one thing to apply some tax tables but it's quite another thing to actually pay 35-40% of your total income to the government between federal tax, California tax, and FICA. Until you actually have to pay that kind of money to the government, you don't know what it's like.
I'm not sure what the OP is really asking for, other than perhaps empathy. I can offer that since I agree the taxes are high. I'm not sure what else there is to add though.
this post boggles my mind. I make a good amount of money and I'm single with no kids and no mortgage. I'm pretty sure I know what it's like to pay "that kind of money" to the government, but the idea that there is anything "ohhh, poor me" about that scenario is seriously insane to me.
also, income at the household level makes some amount of sense because sharing housing and other costs is an advantage. I don't think either individual or household is an ideal, totally apples-to-apples way to look at it.
America doesn't have social classes, at least not in the formal sense of days past, so when we speak about class we speak almost entirely about economics -- namely income, for the majority of people in this country. You can choose to make up your own definitions for words, but just because you decide that ketchup is now a synonym for automobile does not make it so.
I don't know, I think we kind of have social classes. class is a weird thing. if you look at where I live, you might guess lower-class. I
feel middle-class, I dress middle-class, my whole family is middle-class, and if you meet me and talk to me you would probably think I'm middle-class. but when it comes to financial issues, in no way am I delusional enough to think that my problems are the problems of the middle class. I think with discussion about class you just have to define what you're talking about. people took exception to the OP's description of herself as middle class because she was clearly talking about financial/tax issues, and in that sense I think most of us can agree she's not middle class, even though her lifestyle may be.
Hilarious! Thanks I needed that perspective. I think I'm just having one of those days at work where I feel like I'm working so hard and I just feel like there's no point in working any harder cuz if I make more ill just end up paying more of it in taxes and not seeing much of a difference in lifestyle.
well I think the idea of MMM is that you definitely shouldn't see a difference in lifestyle regardless of any increase in income ;)
*disclaimer: clearly Oklahoma has a vastly lower COL than the Bay Area, but still. put yourself in context, man!
**also not meaning to continue to pile on the OP here, I understand what you mean about feeling as though you have a middle-class lifestyle, and I wish you luck in deciding how to allocate your funds! this was meant to be more in response to Cathy and the conversation on class.