Copy/ pasted from the 2019 thread, as I only made it to 2023...
Unfortunately a lot of life happened. Back in 2022, my wife told me she didn't want to live in Australia, but Indonesia. Fine - I have lived there six years and love Java. She then told me it was without me - I would be too much hassle. Some therapy later, she filed for divorce, and ensured it was in Indonesia where the split for various reasons was more like 70/30, not 50/50 (basically what was hers was hers, and what was mine/ ours got split)
If it had just been me - I would have taken it much worse. But she cut off friends and family - she genuinely wanted to start life with a tabula rasa at age 50. We are still in touch once every 6 months or so for admin reasons. I hope she finds the happiness and peace I wasn't able to give her (and as the therapy showed, probably wasn't able to)
I had to leave Australia, as the investment visa was no longer viable. A colleague got in touch, and I spent 2023 as a contractor in Delhi, which I loved. I had an idyllic childhood in India, and being back there was being in a 'happy place' - btw if you get the chance, go to Kolkata/ Calcutta. Now one of my favourite cities in the world.
That turned into a permanent job in Dubai, which I have disliked intensely. The job is interesting - but shortly after joining I was baited/ switched into a role meaning I have sales responsibility for all Asia. Yes, I have met the targets and then some, but being back in a 50-60 hour week with hectic travel and continual deadlines has been stressful. I just don't have the personality to half-ass it - the clients are paying good money. But being here has allowed me to reset tax/ investment position.
Current plan is to leave when my flat rental expires (end April), put stuff in storage, and do a few bucket list travels, (travel down the whole east coast of India, walk the length of Java, and chill out in Perth) Then move to the UK for early retirement II, electric boogaloo. Won't be as fat fire as originally hoped for, but my time in Perth showed me that I am cool with being 'nobody' and pottering around happily- volunteering, casual work (to get out of the toxic environment at home, I got a job picking up supermarket trolleys) cheap hobbies.
So, fingers crossed. Still a risk I might fall to OMY syndrome if by some fluke I start really enjoying the work. If they offered to go back to a contract basis on site with clients - would be a tough thing to say no to, as I genuinely enjoy that side of it.