... the point of this particular web site and forum is being extremely frugal and retiring very early/young. There are some frequent posters on here who are not on board with that so I'm not sure why they hang around other than to give advice on other topics as a way of passing the time.
My personal experience (likely shared by at least some others) is that I first started hanging out here when I was (much) younger, even more frugal than I am now, and trying to stay motivated and on track to not allow too much lifestyle creep and meet savings goals.
My husband and I were never going to retire super early b/c we didn't even start adulting until he was almost 40 and I was almost 30, so we have been in frantic 'catch up' mode the entire past 20+ years, many of which I've hung out here.
So now my husband is looking at trying to retire at typical retirement age and I'll work part time (so partial retirement 'earlier than normal' but not early by FIRE standards).
I hang out here b/c I'm familiar with the community and I assume that my advanced age doesn't make me ineligible to participate in either the mindset or the forum.
Sounds like you’re on board with mustachianism to me! Somehow I don’t think you or other “later-life” converts to the ways of badassity were who Giles was talking about. (C’mon - you were “almost 30”? Sure, that’s not the day you turned eighteen, but it’s still way ahead of the curve, give yourself credit!)
Imo, MMM’s hope was to catch as many young folks as possible before a lifetime of hedonic adaptation could snowball, but it takes even more resolve to pull yourself away from the brink as you or your partner are reaching midlife with engrained habits. Plus you can advise from experience with regard to things you look back on as not worth the life-energy of wages you put into them, which I’ve always appreciated. (Your username always made me think we might have run in the same circles once.)
I was frugal by nature & found the blog in my 20s, & MMM’s “secret” environmental aims weren’t lost on me despite the glittering golden carrot of early retirement, aka financially-independent self-determination at a youthful age. I more or less followed the same plan (not enough bikes, plenty of barbells, an exultation of salads) & arrived before my 30s were out, so I
am in some ways the stereotype, though I started later than MMM, in deep debt, & earned below & spend way below this community’s average - including my partner, we have lifestyle spending on par with what MMM used to, just with an extra ten grand toward housing (his was paid off) because neither of us are carpenters or software engineers.
As a subculture we get plenty of alternative attitudes & examples from the entire rest of the known universe, so it’s beneficial to have a congregating space that actually shares those frugal-by-choice values. It’s good to see others on this board who haven’t gone totally soft -
choosing soft is fine, but it’s so overwhelmingly popular as the default & so loudly proclaimed by its adherents that it makes it hard to find others making those different self-challenging choices, even here.