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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #550 on: October 04, 2024, 10:33:05 PM »
Littler thing: used my time in line at Costco to arrange the groceries in the cart in a single layer, barcode up. It saves time and effort for the person scanning, and it always seems to come as a pleasant surprise that they get to take a little break from handling all the products.

Most people do this at my current Costco; which is where I picked up the practice (I pay attention to bar code positioning when shopping for more efficiency). Saves everyone having to load/unload the cart an extra time, probably less wear on the clerks wrists over time, too.

But I got scolded for doing this one time! I guess the manager had been coming down on the practice. Not sure what the objection was.

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« Reply #551 on: October 06, 2024, 04:23:47 PM »
@oneday - I find that some cashiers really like & some absolutely do not. Not sure if it's a location thing, or individual preference.

I picked up all of the soccer game equipment, and returned it to the shed. We were the first game, but also the last, as it's 100 degrees here & the refs cancel at that heat. I did not enjoy returning all of the equipment, but felt a little guilty, since my 17 year old played the entire game & that was just a *little* more exercise than what I did. ;-)

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #552 on: October 06, 2024, 07:12:31 PM »
@oneday , I've gotten scolded about it on rare occasions, too. Maybe someone has found that it's more likely to lead to mistakes, or is worried that it's easier to hide or miss something underneath, even inadvertently.

I'd signed up to volunteer at an event today. It was cancelled because of the heat. I stayed in, reading and napping. I should make my donation to the organization whose fundraiser the event was.

I did drive someone around a bit yesterday, in an ultimately fruitless (so far) quest to find a tool they needed to complete a repair. This is was much a moral support effort as an errand. The person is struggling with this repair and very frustrated, and it's beyond my capacity to help perform the task.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #553 on: October 08, 2024, 11:44:16 PM »
Paid back a friend who brought a bag of surplus bagels, which we proceeded to eat most of, in her absence. I deliberately paid a bit too much and "didn't have change." She can always use a little extra cash, and she resists my attempts to provide any for its own sake.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #554 on: October 10, 2024, 01:36:48 PM »
Picked up a couple of pieces of plastic-based litter. I'm about to report the too-full public trash can near there.

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« Reply #555 on: October 14, 2024, 05:11:44 AM »
Yesterday we went to visit our former neighbor and help him with his ballot. He's perfectly sharp, knows exactly what he wants, but has a severe hand tremor that makes paperwork difficult. We helped him fill it out and dropped it in the mail for him. I used to do this for him when we were neighbors, and he doesn't have any family in the area to help, so I reached out a few weeks ago to see if he needed us this year.

He also got to meet the baby, which seemed to make his day even more than voting. He almost forgot why we'd come over!

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #556 on: October 14, 2024, 07:38:07 AM »
My granddaughters had outgrown their car seats.  As you may know, you can't re-sell these (although sometimes Target will take them in return for store credit) and you can't donate them, so I decided to put them on the curb.

I put a Free sign on them with a note that they'd not been in any accidents (which is the reason they can never be resold according to gov't regulations.)  They were picked up 10 minutes later by a guy in an old truck.
I'm glad to see someone can re-use them, and also glad my house location is so convenient and reliable for discards.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #557 on: October 14, 2024, 09:13:43 AM »
I have a friend who is quite shy so she has only two friends, and I'm one of them. I persuaded her to come to a volunteer event with me, and also arranged for her to catch a ride with another volunteer who is super nice.  They hit it off, and now she may have three friends!

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« Reply #558 on: October 16, 2024, 02:08:48 AM »
Recommended grants out of my DAF for a couple of the orgs I support, including the one whose main fundraising event was recently cancelled due to the heat. The same org is down a couple staff members and in the process of moving across town.

Suggested that a person who is visiting California from abroad for work should maybe see the place while he's here, and offered to suggest places to see. This may or may not turn into showing him around one of these weekends, which wouldn't be the first time I've played tour guide for a visitor.

Offered to evaluate and edit someone's book draft on a subject I care about, and even started on the process a little. Let's see if I can continue to make progress for him.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #559 on: October 19, 2024, 10:28:36 AM »
Lol, @crocheted_stache, are we twins?

I ran a huge food drive last weekend. The cash donations were a tad anemic, so yesterday I ordered $1k from our DAF. Once it hits the virtual food drive scoreboard, I hope it will spur more giving.

Donations are still straggling in, so we loaded up DH's old truck with about 25 more bags of food and delivered them to the food bank.

Two days ago, on my regular thrift shop shift, someone donated "Fruitominoes". It's a cute bag of dominoes with fruit instead of dots. I grabbed them for $3 and gave them to my contact when we delivered.

The FB is doing their first Gala-type fundraiser. I'm noodling on an idea for that event. I ordered a couple of rolls of fruit stickers, but they were way too small. When I tried to return them for not being as advertised, Amazon issued full credit and didn't want them back. Those went to the FB, too and they were tickled with them.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #560 on: October 19, 2024, 10:37:33 AM »
Right after the event described above, I hosted a board meeting for a related group. We raise funds, then offer grants to local non-profits. This was our annual meeting to sift through and rank the applications. We granted a total of $25k to 12 local NP's. It's fun giving away money to good causes!

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« Reply #561 on: October 19, 2024, 03:06:54 PM »
@Dicey not quite. I'm holding off on a couple of the larger donations until the December donation drives, when they're trying to make some goal for a matching grant. December is grant matching season through my employer, too. I fully approve of seeding the tip jar, though!

I don't usually get involved in event planning. I'm happy to show up and set out/pack up chairs or sign people in, but I'm not who anybody wants booking the room or ordering the food.

If I did half as much of the organizing and orchestrating as you do, I might see about making the acquaintance of any of the local printing/sign-and-trophy shops, and ask if they'd offer an in-kind donation or at least a friends-and-neighbors/volume discount for printing any posters, banners, oversize checks, etc. They'd get a gracious acknowledgement in the program, of course, and perhaps a ticket to the event. You and the organization get a day off from assembling themed decorations, and you just might get an extra supporter in the community, in the process.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #562 on: October 20, 2024, 11:21:13 PM »
Today, I met a young fellow working retail. He did his best to help me and partly managed. (The other part, nothing they had was fitting me quite right. It wasn't for lack of trying. I don't think they do commissions there, anyway.) I found out the retail thing is just a job to pay the bills while he studies engineering at a university nearby. I left him my contact information, and hope he takes me up on getting his internship application to the right people inside the place where I currently work.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #563 on: October 21, 2024, 01:37:21 AM »
I'm not planning on getting involved in their event in any big way. This idea is a riff on an something I've done before. It's hand made and somewhat tedious, so not easily outsourced. However: I like the creative process. I also look for small lap projects I can do while we're driving in the RV and this fits the bill.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #564 on: October 27, 2024, 10:24:46 PM »
We're camping in the Redwoods, with very little signal. This happened yesterday, but I'm counting it. DH and I were walking along the highway from our campground to the Visitor's Canter. Just before we got there, I looked down and saw one of those neat little packages people make with baby diapers. I guess this person figured that would make it magically disappear, so they tossed it out their window, in a damn National Park! I carefully picked it up by one corner and toted it to a trash can at the Visitor's Center. Why the fuck do people do this?

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #565 on: October 27, 2024, 11:21:34 PM »
My mom's birthday is this week and it was shaping up extra-shitty - my brother decided not to visit because he is a self-centered twit, and her favorite sister canceled her visit because their not-so-favorite sister dropped dead on Friday and she went to go deal with that :-(

So I went ahead and visited (as I always was going to) but I put some extra effort into it - got a little extra gift for her, brought a little something nice for my dad, too. Brought a bottle of Veuve Cliquot (not for today but for whenever she feels like it). And I carved them a jack-o-lantern. She wanted "something political" which I have to say is not that easy with a paring knife and no art skills. What I would give for a candidate with a nice 3 or 4 letter name! But I figured something out and Mom was happy with it :-)  In 2020 I did something similar and they had people taking pictures of it all night, so I think she wanted that good energy again.

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« Reply #566 on: October 28, 2024, 08:53:37 PM »
Good work everyone in making days brighter! I hope the ripples spread!

After some weeks of inaction, I did pretty well this weekend.  Made 15 nice bags of food for Midnight Run and donated several packs of socks, and also offloaded a bunch of sleeping bags, umbrellas, and backpacks that decluttering friends had offered (they get small good deed credits too!)  The big win of the night was laundry pods... we packaged 3-4 each in ziplock bags. The homeless love them, because laundry soap is so expensive in laundromats.  It seems silly to keep offering new clothes when many people just want to be able to wash the clothes they like and that fit them.

I got teen volunteers lined up for the senior knitting circle that I run.

Ran a table for my child's Scout group at a Halloween parade. Donated the leftover candy and decorations to my friend's club for the mentally ill (per her request), and also dropped off a pair of dress pants for her son, pots and pans and flatware, and ingredients for a pot roast to her.

I got a new printer cartridge, so I can print out photos of another friend who always comes to us on his birthday for a cake and a present. He asked if we could put some photos of him with those of our family; he says his mom threw him away because he has a slow learning disability.

Sometimes I worry because I'm not strong enough to support so many people in the way they need. What they really need is to belong to large, functional families of their own. But I can at least put a bit of good luck in their otherwise unlucky lives.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #567 on: October 29, 2024, 01:54:01 AM »
Put in a good word for a long-ago former coworker who's now interviewing at my current employer. I hope it makes the hiring manager's decision easier and gets the person the job, if he wants it.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #568 on: November 02, 2024, 01:50:47 PM »
Played pickle ball with DH at the local court. Someone left beer cans on the chairs. Brought them out the entire 10 feet to the recycling container on our way out. Not sure why the original owner didn't do that, but it's cleaned up for the next folks. 

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #569 on: November 02, 2024, 04:45:45 PM »
Today was my day with beer cleanup. I went to DS17's soccer game, and someone left four glass beer bottles (empty) right next to the field. They were inevitably going to break, getting glass in the turf, and potentially hurting someone. I cleaned them up. No recycling, but i figured the trash was a lot better than glass in a poor kid's leg.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #570 on: November 02, 2024, 09:09:12 PM »
I'm trying to hook up a friend who has been out of work for a while with a small freelance job that is very specifically tailored to his unique skills. He is too nice and immediately offered to do it for free even though I said several times "I don't want you to do it for free, I want you to get paid something, they can definitely afford to pay you." I don't quite know how to handle it without being too pushy. Advice welcome from good deeders!

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« Reply #571 on: November 02, 2024, 09:50:43 PM »
The seed of this good deed was planted a long time ago, and it is bearing fruit I never imagined. I've had a longstanding correspondence with a friend from an international community online. I eventually met him in his country in 2009 and in the US a couple years later. The rest has been pen pals.

All that chatting leveled up his English and my Spanish. I can get myself through an airport or restaurant if I can persuade the person to talk a little slower. He ended up getting the high score on some English exam and it got the attention of his school. He's teaching now, in a place where having a real job is a game-changer and not at all a given.

He's been busy. I've been busy. I'm ashamed to say I hadn't kept in touch enough to know he'd had a third child. His wife was pregnant with the first in 2009, and she didn't accompany him on the US visit.

We chatted a bit yesterday and today and I tried to sign off with, "Say hi to everyone for me, even if the kids have no idea who I am."

He said, "Oh, they know who you are. Every night, I read them the books you gave us."

Books, especially in English, are hard to come by in his country, so I sent a package (back when there was such a thing as surface mail) and loaded my suitcase with books to give both times I saw him in person. I guess I knew there were kids in the picture and included some kid books, but I no longer recall which.

If I can figure out how to send some more, I'm going to. For sure, the oldest has outgrown Dr.Seuss by now.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #572 on: November 02, 2024, 11:54:17 PM »
I'm trying to hook up a friend who has been out of work for a while with a small freelance job that is very specifically tailored to his unique skills. He is too nice and immediately offered to do it for free even though I said several times "I don't want you to do it for free, I want you to get paid something, they can definitely afford to pay you." I don't quite know how to handle it without being too pushy. Advice welcome from good deeders!

If you know the freelance employer, ask them to insist on paying. They can blame their policies or insurance or "it's not fair to our other employees" or whatever.

Is it possible your friend is some kind of money-avoidant? (I don't deserve it/nobody deserves money/money is dangerous or dirty, etc.)

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« Reply #573 on: November 03, 2024, 01:25:23 AM »
If you know the freelance employer, ask them to insist on paying. They can blame their policies or insurance or "it's not fair to our other employees" or whatever.

Is it possible your friend is some kind of money-avoidant? (I don't deserve it/nobody deserves money/money is dangerous or dirty, etc.)

It's for a family member of mine (who is very well off). Just kind of a hobbyist thing that they needed to outsource a very niche skill. And a wild coincidence that a good friend of mine is an expert.

I don't think he's money avoidant... he honestly seems to be one of my wiser friends with money. He really is just super nice - the friend who always tries to pick up the check, who always gives you a ride home, etc. He offered to drive my mom to the hospital when she had cancer even though he lives in the next state over. So it's not a shock that he would say "oh, I'm happy to do this as a favor since it's your family..." But it's a little different to give a friend a ride home as a favor vs. doing literally a day of your office job for free.

Although I guess I'm a hypocrite since I've definitely done many hours of my office job for free for my friends, haha. Proofreading, graphic design and page layouts. Oh well.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #574 on: November 03, 2024, 04:48:26 AM »
A woman in a nearby neighborhood accidentally left her wallet behind at my garage sale yesterday.  It contained her license, credit card and cash.
I checked the address on her license and drove over to her house to return it.  She had been out looking for it and pulled into her driveway just after I'd arrived.  She was thrilled to get it back and I was happy to help. 

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« Reply #575 on: November 03, 2024, 08:06:04 AM »
@LaineyAZ - I'm sure that's such a huge relief!

As for me, DS17 & his friends trick or treated as a huge group, and he ended up with an enormous bag of candy that is supposed to be divided up. Except, now no one wants it (they are all teens, but also reasonably healthy athletes & have discerned that maybe they don't need absolutely insane amounts of candy). I'm dropping it off with a woman who collects it for a homeless shelter. They use it to add to holiday treat bags & put out a request for leftover Halloween candy, so it was perfect timing.

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« Reply #576 on: November 03, 2024, 09:53:00 AM »
@Dollar Slice any chance this gig leads to a job or a contract for your friend, or at least more freelancing? Or contacts being made that lead to a job? Could you persuade the family member to tip, in spite of the friend's protests?

I've basically never done anything but my day job for pay* since high school/early college. Not editing and proofreading, not tutoring and homework help, not fixing bikes (and occasionally drawers, appliances, toilets...), not advocating for bike lanes, not helping a friend get packed and moved and the old place cleaned. That's mostly because I haven't needed to. Some of my volunteer activities, I absolutely could take pro, but I worry I wouldn't enjoy them as much with quotas or deadlines.

*I don't usually turn down T-shirts and tacos if they're part of a volunteer gig, but that's about as far as the "pay" tends to go for these activities.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #577 on: November 03, 2024, 11:21:28 AM »
@Dollar Slice any chance this gig leads to a job or a contract for your friend, or at least more freelancing? Or contacts being made that lead to a job? Could you persuade the family member to tip, in spite of the friend's protests?

Unfortunately just a one-off thing, no chance of a long-term gig. He did tell me that he has a good lead on a job this week, though, so I'm hoping he will be working soon :-)

We could maybe just send something that comes across as more of a "thank you gift", especially since it will probably be December, and that's gift season. Things would just be a lot simpler if I could give them an invoice. ;-)

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« Reply #578 on: November 06, 2024, 08:34:53 PM »
Ran into a delivery person who had gotten lost in my building's extremely confusing elevators (he was on the wrong floor and had been on the wrong elevator) so I showed him which elevator he needed, how to call it, and where it would display the floor number. And I waited until it came to make sure he was headed in the right direction.

Whoever designed these elevators deserves some sort of reverse design award. Like a demerit for bad design.

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« Reply #579 on: November 07, 2024, 08:56:37 AM »
Ran into a delivery person who had gotten lost in my building's extremely confusing elevators (he was on the wrong floor and had been on the wrong elevator) so I showed him which elevator he needed, how to call it, and where it would display the floor number. And I waited until it came to make sure he was headed in the right direction.

Whoever designed these elevators deserves some sort of reverse design award. Like a demerit for bad design.

Donald Norman wrote The Design of Everyday Things about how design makes people get basic things wrong, like turning the wrong knob on a stove. A door with no clear indication of whether to push or pull is sometimes called a Norman door: https://99percentinvisible.org/article/norman-doors-dont-know-whether-push-pull-blame-design/

I don't know if your elevators are this kind of ambiguous design or something a little different, but if you have to name a bad design "award," this could be a candidate.

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« Reply #580 on: November 07, 2024, 09:01:53 AM »
Introduced two of my friends. One needs some guidance on a topic that another friend has expertise in, and offered to help out. Both are amazing, so I'm glad they are "meeting" (virtually).

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« Reply #581 on: November 07, 2024, 09:03:23 AM »
I don't know if your elevators are this kind of ambiguous design or something a little different, but if you have to name a bad design "award," this could be a candidate.

The elevators don't have buttons inside them to say which floor to go to (like every other elevator in the world), plus there are two elevators and only one takes you to the top half of the building. The other stops halfway up. It is incredibly non-intuitive.

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« Reply #582 on: November 07, 2024, 09:38:57 AM »
Ran into a delivery person who had gotten lost in my building's extremely confusing elevators (he was on the wrong floor and had been on the wrong elevator) so I showed him which elevator he needed, how to call it, and where it would display the floor number. And I waited until it came to make sure he was headed in the right direction.

Whoever designed these elevators deserves some sort of reverse design award. Like a demerit for bad design.

Donald Norman wrote The Design of Everyday Things about how design makes people get basic things wrong, like turning the wrong knob on a stove. A door with no clear indication of whether to push or pull is sometimes called a Norman door: https://99percentinvisible.org/article/norman-doors-dont-know-whether-push-pull-blame-design/

I don't know if your elevators are this kind of ambiguous design or something a little different, but if you have to name a bad design "award," this could be a candidate.

My biggest pet peeve.  I recently had to go to a large government medical facility.  I entered in by the back entrance, where most of the parking lot is, only to find myself in a hallway with no clear signage to get to the room I needed.
I eventually found my way to the elevators where the one and only building map was located which indicated the correct floor.
When I exited the elevator I was still looking around when a kind soul guided me to the actual department.

Sheesh - all that could be avoided with some clear, basic signs.  Or, in the old school way, an actual Information Desk in the main lobby. 

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« Reply #583 on: November 07, 2024, 10:34:38 AM »
I'd be tempted to install some guerilla/volunteer wayfinding in a facility I visited often and, if it worked, bring it to the attention of someone in charge to make permanent. One laminated paper sign (put there by someone else) lasted at least three years marking a non-obvious turn to take to continue on a local bike trail. Eventually, the trail was altered, not the signage.

I am actively involved as a volunteer in the design of bicycle and transit facilities-to-be and upgrades in my area, and I often push for wayfinding. I recently made the acquaintance of some volunteers who spend time near the train station we're expanding, and I encouraged them to attend the community meetings and share stories and insights about all the lost passengers who end up asking them for directions. They're happy to give directions, but they're there limited hours, and that's not why. Also, lost in our train station can mean a long wait if they miss a train or bus, and it's about to get even more complicated. At least one of the volunteers attended a meeting since then—yay!

For one proposed bike bridge, I also suggested naming the bridge, and the staff I said that to lit up. For bicyclists, it means the GPS says, "Turn right onto the So-and-so Bridge," rather than just, "Turn right." It should mean that the bridge has a sign. Some of the ramps don't look like much. For the designers and builders, it's a chance to give a little more heft to a project and possibly honor someone or something of local significance. Plus, a name and a sign are about the least expensive part.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #584 on: November 07, 2024, 02:30:08 PM »
My biggest pet peeve.  I recently had to go to a large government medical facility.  I entered in by the back entrance, where most of the parking lot is, only to find myself in a hallway with no clear signage to get to the room I needed.

Oh gosh, signage in medical facilities is the worst! I have a ton of doctor appointments due to chronic illness issues and every time I exit the exam room, I have no idea how to get back out to the reception because there are three different emergency exit signs going in different directions. Why don't they have a sign saying "EXIT TO RECEPTION --->"?

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #585 on: November 08, 2024, 01:16:07 PM »
I'm very interested in doing more to help others, post-election. I'm less looking for political volunteering (although, will likely pick that up as we get closer to the next election), & am more looking for ways to help those most likely to be negatively impacted by policy changes. This group does a lot of awesome stuff, so thought you all might have recommendations.

I'll also continue to donate money to causes that align with ways I think people need the most support (Planned Parenthood, etc).

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #586 on: November 08, 2024, 10:32:32 PM »
@MaybeBabyMustache I'm pretty sure you're local to me. There's a program nearby for incoming refugees that tends to need household goods, volunteers, and very likely money. I don't know a ton more about that, but I do know whom to contact, so DM me if you would like me to put you in touch.

During Tr*mp 1.0 there was an ongoing thread in Off Topic dedicated to activism and counter-measures. I imagine that or its successor (which may not exist yet) would be the better place for your question and all the answers.

Honestly, carrying on being blatantly, loudly, and genuinely nice to people may be one of the best means of resistance we have.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #587 on: November 09, 2024, 06:48:04 AM »
@MaybeBabyMustache
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During Tr*mp 1.0 there was an ongoing thread in Off Topic dedicated to activism and counter-measures. I imagine that or its successor (which may not exist yet) would be the better place for your question and all the answers.

Honestly, carrying on being blatantly, loudly, and genuinely nice to people may be one of the best means of resistance we have.

This is about where I'm at too - focus on our little part of the world and do everything we can.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #588 on: November 15, 2024, 01:05:49 AM »
I biked a different way than usual, spotted a pothole, reported it, and it's been filled.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #589 on: November 15, 2024, 10:21:32 PM »
I spent part of my evening picking up and dropping off a Paxlovid prescription for a friend who just tested positive for COVID. I really hope it works for her. She's vaccinated and current, so hopefully that will lessen the impact and duration for her, too.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #590 on: November 16, 2024, 04:38:23 AM »
There was an elderly person asleep in the cold, sitting on a bench. They had a coat but no gloves... did not look safe.  I happened to have an old quilt in the car so I put it over them. They stirred but didn't wake up. Then half an hour later I got worried, and I called the police non-emergency line to check on them, emphasizing that this was a senior asleep in the cold who might just be waiting for someone.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #591 on: November 17, 2024, 08:50:09 AM »
Today, I met a young fellow working retail. He did his best to help me and partly managed. (The other part, nothing they had was fitting me quite right. It wasn't for lack of trying. I don't think they do commissions there, anyway.) I found out the retail thing is just a job to pay the bills while he studies engineering at a university nearby. I left him my contact information, and hope he takes me up on getting his internship application to the right people inside the place where I currently work.

Maybe midterms are over and he finally did laundry and found the scrap of paper, but he's in touch, yay! He even took my suggestion to remind me why I know him. I guess one of my things for today will be figuring out where to connect him about a prospective internship. I've helped out a few interns along the way, but I haven't had much to do with recruiting or selecting them. I know who to ask.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #592 on: November 17, 2024, 11:37:02 AM »
This one is really small.  I go to a  12 step meeting every Saturday morning.  Someone from a previous gathering had left a half a cookie on the floor.  I picked it up and threw it i the trash rather than let it get ground into the carpet. 

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #593 on: November 19, 2024, 05:24:30 PM »
This one is really small.  I go to a  12 step meeting every Saturday morning.  Someone from a previous gathering had left a half a cookie on the floor.  I picked it up and threw it i the trash rather than let it get ground into the carpet.
That totally counts.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #594 on: November 19, 2024, 07:55:26 PM »
Someone's dog wandered over and did his potty business right under the sign saying "Please clean up after your dogs".

The guy saw it and turned and walked away. It was early in the morning so I didn't feel like engaging and just used the spare dog poo bag in my pocket to clean it up.
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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #595 on: November 20, 2024, 08:03:54 AM »
I picked up some more litter from the park while on my walk.

I continue to be frustrated with efforts to help a friend; I invited her and her son to come to a youth group event. Dinner was paid for by a grant so I thought she and her son could get a free meal out of it too. However, she didn't seem to understand, so her son refused to eat all evening because he was afraid of the expense... even though I kept urging them both to order and said it was free, mom kept saying her son already ate and wasn't hungry. All the other kids (some of whom come from very privileged backgrounds) were eating and drinking well, but the one child with food insecurity went hungry!  :~(

I guess the good thing is that he did have fun, and was smiling during the event, though during the downtime he was only looking at his phone and not interacting with the other kids.

I probably spent 80 hours last week working for my various volunteer groups, so hopefully I did some good deed to someone somewhere at some  point. Though often I'm not sure.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #596 on: November 21, 2024, 09:50:49 AM »
I'm trying to hook up a friend who has been out of work for a while with a small freelance job that is very specifically tailored to his unique skills. He is too nice and immediately offered to do it for free even though I said several times "I don't want you to do it for free, I want you to get paid something, they can definitely afford to pay you." I don't quite know how to handle it without being too pushy. Advice welcome from good deeders!

Two and a half weeks later, the job is done and persistence has moved the needle to where he might be willing to let me pay for the next round of drinks. I think I have to give up and will just try to pay it forward/look for an opportunity to do a favor.

If I'm being honest I would have done it for free, too, but here I am in the good deed thread trying to do nice things for people every day...

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #597 on: November 21, 2024, 01:29:09 PM »
I reported some piles of trash in the creek, which I'm hoping they can remove before the rain starts and rearranges it all. I also reported a hole in a fence that's supposed to keep people off the railroad tracks.

I continue to be frustrated with efforts to help a friend; I invited her and her son to come to a youth group event. Dinner was paid for by a grant so I thought she and her son could get a free meal out of it too. However, she didn't seem to understand, so her son refused to eat all evening because he was afraid of the expense... even though I kept urging them both to order and said it was free, mom kept saying her son already ate and wasn't hungry. All the other kids (some of whom come from very privileged backgrounds) were eating and drinking well, but the one child with food insecurity went hungry!  :~(

I guess the good thing is that he did have fun, and was smiling during the event, though during the downtime he was only looking at his phone and not interacting with the other kids.

This sounds like the making of an eating disorder or at least unhealthy attitudes toward food for the kid. Probably money, too. I hope Mom gets help both with food/money and with whatever is making her so anxious about it. Thanks for trying, anyway.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #598 on: November 24, 2024, 10:02:18 PM »
We were at a historical estate today and there was a short set of wooden stairs leading to a little bridge that had one very outsized wooden stair, which absolutely everyone in our party tripped on (even after I tripped on it first and then told everyone "watch that one stair, it's too tall" - they still ALL tripped on it one by one). When we were coming back I noticed there were some older ladies walking a little ways behind us, and one of them looked a little unsteady on her feet, so I held back a bit and made sure to warn them about that one stair in case they weren't aware of it. Coming down the stairs it seemed like a real fall hazard. My mom almost fell even with holding the rail tightly and, again, me reminding her about the one stair before going down.

I should probably write a note to the place.

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Re: One (small) good deed a day 2024
« Reply #599 on: November 27, 2024, 03:54:01 PM »
I live on the second floor of a two-story garden apartment. My downstairs neighbor and I share a common entrance, so we have the same address.

FedEx left a package on my stoop that was almost for my address, but with the wrong name and an incorrect digit. Imagine my address is 123 Oak Street and the package said 143 Oak Street.

The house it was supposed to go to was just down the block, so I took the package over. I figured it'd be my good deed for the day. And when I got to the right address, guess what was sitting on their stoop?

A package for my address, with my neighbor's name on it.

Clearly, the delivery guy had a brain fart and left each package at the address for the other. I left the misdelivered package at the correct address and brought my neighbor's package back to our place, so it was two good deeds for the price of one.