I'm much more interested in "what now." Solutions like teaching body consent from a young age. Solutions like integrated Scouts instead of Boy Scouts and Girl Scouts to get kids interacting without a gender barrier. Reducing economic anxiety by reducing education costs due to student loans and the possibility of medical bankruptcy. Focusing on individual's needs instead of "male presenting child = toy truck"--what if that kid enjoys fashion and wants to be a fashion designer later? Individuals, not generalities.
All this comes down to teaching men (indeed, everyone - but men have this worse than women) that nothing in life is guaranteed to them; you have no entitlement to a 'good' job, nor to social respect, nor to a subservient partner, nor to a fawning community. Women and minorities have known this for centuries as they have had to skulk around the shadows of men. Welcome men to the real world. Enjoy your stay.
And then of course is how do we teach this?
Movies are horrible examples. So many where the man's persistence pays off. That is from the guy's perspective. From the woman's he hounds her, won't take no for an answer.
Co-ed schools do help apparently, but by school it is almost too late. Pre-schools? Daycare?
We know social/cultural attitudes can change. I've seen it in my lifetime. No-one used to think anything of partying and having a few (or more than a few) drinks and then driving home. We don't now.
Smoking - watch old movies, and they don't have to be that old. So much smoking.
Going back further. In many places wealth was the land, trade was middle class to lower class. Now the rich business-man is acclaimed. And so are predatory tactics. The only difference between now and then is that legislation prevents all those good practices like chalk added to milk and filthy slaughterhouses and who knows what in your sausage and rivers running brown or green or whatever else from what has been dumped in them. And we have seen how vulnerable protective legislation is when people who think it interferes with their business get into power. (I'm not just thinking Trump here, Stephen Harper really messed up Canada's environmental protection laws when he was PM).
But other behaviours are still accepted. All the misogyny in movies is still here. All the misogyny of public men is still there. I know, not all men. But enough to make it seem like acceptable behaviour.
But the other thing is that some people still go for the now-socially unacceptable behaviours. We all read of someone who just killed people while driving drunk, who had been caught driving drunk so much that they had lost their license, but were still behind the wheel We still see a few people who are heavy smokers. We still see road rage - in fact road rage is a relatively new one, it had no name when I was young.
So ?????????
There isn't really one solution, methinks.
As a father of three young boys, I see it as my responsibility to snuff out all of the sexist, racist, classist, and other 'bad' societal norms and to replace them with positive examples of how to treat everyone with dignity and respect.
But that's just me, and I can't be a decent male role model to many more than my own kids.
I can encourage friends and family who are parents or who spend time around kids to do the same as me, but in their own houses, I have no say in what gets taught (or worse, what doesn't).
I could (when my life's schedule allows) become a coach, or mentor, or community figure and lead by example - but in doing so I have to worry about becoming a martyr to those who would seek to undermine my good intentions.
And that's just me. I know there are other guys out there who would have a similar approach, but culturally it's never going to happen from a top-down approach. The change, especially changing the attitudes of men toward their role in society and how to positively view and interact with anyone who is not a man (and more crucially for much of the US, a middle class white man), is fundamentally a grassroots thing. It has to happen at the dinner table, on the sports field, in the car, and at a holiday meal.
Perhaps the biggest hurdle to overcome is evident in this thread. This forum is fundamentally progressive even though its members cover a spectrum of sociopolitical views, and yet we still can't come to a consensus about just about anything that's not money related (and even then, usually not). I still learn something here just about every day, including in this topic. So many would-be role models don't have the luxury or the exposure to discussions that help them orient themselves to be norm-breakers.
RetiredAt63 - your examples are mostly slow-simmering/didn't-happen-overnight shifts, and I think this one is just like those for better or worse. Our culture has been seeded with the notion that it's acceptable for men to be non-conforming to the previously entrenched cultural ideal. Now those seeds must grow.