That really depends on her parents and her. Not all families operate the same way.
I think they all operate pretty much in a similar way. A 'spendy' budget and a family loan does not make for good family and personal relationships generally. If it is a gift, fine. Otherwise...
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I agree with you.
No one likes to see someone spending money on wants, when they haven't been paid back.
Pay it back asap, that way if you need to borrow money in the future, it wouldn't be a concern.
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I'm a father of 5 adult children. I cringe every time they buy a latte or take an expensive vacation. We dumped tons of money into them (not loans --gifts). Yeah, parents want to see their children be wise with money.
Bottom line it is very hard to advise adult (stepchildren) children about money. So I will advise you instead.
But in the case I agree that Dad would be happy and proud when you paid him back the 8K.
So my advice on this issue is that you do whatever it takes to get 8K together in the next 4 months. Get and extra job, cut everything! Then pay the 8K in one check. Easter dinner will taste a whole lot better when you hand them the 8K check on that day. (Is that Dave Ramsey enough?)
You should also thank your lucky stars that you have family that loves you and has enough money to loan you 8K. That is very rare.
So, I'm back peddling on my original post and suggesting that your family loan of 8K is indeed a hair/house/car on fire emergency. Get out the biggest hose you have and put that baby out asap!