There is a big difference between living without a car and living in a car free place.
I don’t drive. I have never had a drivers license. I have gotten myself around in a wide variety of places without a car, even in places where the infrastructure isn’t designed for that. It’s important to pick your neighborhood with that in mind. I just spent 25 years in a rust belt city where pedestrians are pretty rare, and yet I walked to work, grocery shopped, went the the library and drugstore, etc.
We do own a car, though, which my dh drove to work, and we ran some car errands on weekends.
I actually don’t mind walking the Unscenic Route - over the years I got to know the people at Auto Zone because I cut thru their nicely plowed parking lot every winter morning on my way to work.
I do think that hauling a couple of kids around without a car is a challenge - lugging a toddler and groceries home on the bus when it’s sleeting does not make for a fun morning. It also affected the out of school activities my kids could do, though they seem to have survived.
We have recently moved to Madison Wisconsin and the walking and biking infrastructure here is much, much more developed. There’s an extensive system of separate walking/biking paths, and cars actually stop to let me cross the street. The city is reducing the speed limit to 20mph in most residential neighborhoods. However, the winters are very cold...