Yes, you're asking the right questions. I'd suggest that you sit down with an insurance agent from that company if you have one (call the office where your relative worked and ask to meet with someone) or, find another life insurance agent locally that you can work with on your various options and explain them to you.
they said that the cash values and death benefit will last until 2066, when i'm 85 years old.
So, now you know that you're under-funding the policy a bit if you want it to last forever. If you want your policy to last until age 100, you should increase the premiums to the level necessary to sustain the policy forever. Work with an agent to figure out what that number is. You are young; it won't be that much higher than you're currently paying.
the representative i spoke with didn't know if the account was a variable policy or general account.
Open the contract and read it. It will be very clear in the contract. The contract will either talk about various sub accounts that you can invest in (sub accounts will sound similar to a mutual fund) or it will talk about the general portfolio. If it's a variable policy, you received a prospects with it. If it's not a variable policy, you didn't.
i wasn't sure how to phrase the question 'how the amount of funding will impact the cash value growth" so when they asked what i meant by that i didn't really know what else to say. so no answer there either.
You should ask this question of a good local life insurance agent. In many companies, the front-line customer service reps are not experts or agents; they're merely customer service reps. An agent will be able to explain this to you clearly.
he also said that if i were to stop my premiums the place would only last until 2029, when i'm 48 years old
So, now you have a baseline to compare your options. If you desire to have insurance but don't want it to last forever, you could choose to stop paying the premiums and you would effectively have a term life insurance policy in force until you're 48 years old. Would this be cheaper than cashing in the policy and purchasing a replacement term policy? You would have to get quotes. The nice thing about keeping this policy and effectively turning it into a term policy is that you would be able to continue your premiums in the future if you decided that you wanted the life insurance coverage for longer.
This is about the limit of how I can help. I'd suggest you contact a local agent or financial advisor.
Here are the decisions you should make:
1. Do I want life insurance now? If yes, consider keeping the policy. If no, consider surrendering. Consider your parents/siblings/charities/etc. in your planning. The multiplication effect of life insurance death benefit can be substantial as you're building your net worth.
2. Might I want life insurance in the future based on changing financial situation / family situation? If yes, consider your health conditions and find out if your current health conditions will impact your ability to get a policy and the rates. You're probably better off keeping this policy. If no, consider surrendering.
3. If I don't want the death benefit, am I better off keeping the policy for the cash value (investment) component? What are my opportunity costs either way? This is where you should review your portfolio, understand the advantages and disadvantages of life insurance as compared with your other investment options.
If your policy is a variable policy, you should compare the expenses of the portfolio with expenses of your other investment options. If it's variable, it's an investment and you can rationally compare it to stock and bond investments. Consider then your tax situation. (Life insurance cash values grow with no current income tax.) In the same way that you would prefer to own bonds and bond mutual funds inside IRAs and other tax-deferred accounts (because income is taxed as ordinary income; higher rate) and to own your stocks outside (if there's no more room in the tax-deferred accounts; stocks are taxed at capital gain rates upon realization of gain; capital gain rates are currently more favorable), consider keeping the policy for your bond funds. This depends on your asset allocation.
Consider creditor protection and bankruptcy planning of cash values in your situation based on your state law. In many states, cash values are exempt from the claims of creditors in the same way as your tax-qualified retirement plans are.
If the policy is not a variable policy, you can't rationally compare it to your stock portfolio. Life insurance companies are required by law to invest their general accounts in very conservative investments. So, it would be an invalid comparison to compare the returns of the policy to, for example, an S&P 500 Index Fund. They're apples and oranges and have dramatically different risk/return rates. In that case, compare the policy to the fixed income portion of your portfolio and consider if it can fill that need in your allocation. For example, could you position your other investments more heavily into equities knowing that you have this money in reserve?
You also need to consider the opportunity cost of keeping the policy. Should those funds be invested more strategically in other investments? (FYI, this is generally the only line of thinking that most people use in their analysis. Their line of thinking is: "Stocks = higher return than life insurance, so cash in life insurance and buy stocks." It's important, but it's not the only valid line of thought. You need to consider your situation and your goals carefully.)
Also, consider your cash reserve needs. Most people prefer to have some liquid cash on hand for reserves/emergencies/etc. If it's invested in the company's general account, this could fill that goal and it's likely that the returns are higher than you're getting in a savings account or CD at the moment. This policy would have the added benefit that those returns are sheltered from current income tax and they might be safe from the claims of creditors (depending on state law) as opposed to savings accounts and CDs. (If you were using the policy for that purpose, you could access the cash values through a policy loan. Most insurance companies will electronically deposit the cash into your account within a few days.)
Finally, if the policy no longer meets your goals and you don't want to own it anymore, consider if you have unrealized gain in the contract. If you have tax-deferred gain, you might be able to keep the gain tax-deferred by doing a 1035 exchange into another financial product that will help you in your quest for FI.
I hope this helps. Unfortunately, all I can do is help you consider various aspects of your plan. I'd recommend that you consult a local professional who can understand your situation and what you're trying to do.
At the end of the day, it's a decision that will depend 100% on what your specific financial goals are and what you're trying to achieve. Your goals will be different from mine and from any other person's on the forum.