@Greaper 007: I'll try to answer your question, though I don't have the full information to really give you what you are looking for. As a point of comparison, our monthly rent is $2300, which I consider very reasonable for a house in the location we are at. When we do buy a house the mortgage payment will be considerably more than that, but my plan is to find a place with some sort of granny unit/rental so we can bring in extra income to keep our housing costs around the same. Some things like housing are absolutely more expensive. Other things are cheaper such as utilities because we don't have AC, rarely run the heat, etc. It is also cheaper to eat a very healthy diet because everything is grown in CA, though that can be offset by the amazing array of restaurants! But I digress...
The perfectly honest answer about jobs is that I don't know because I have never seriously considered living anywhere else. I have done two job stints (a 2-month and a 7-month) in the Denver metro area so it's not like I have never tried living anywhere else. However, the Bay Area has so much to offer that I don't think I have even tried to cover in my post, that there just is no desire to even look outside. My husband and I are both engineers and though there are tech jobs elsewhere, as soon as you leave such a high concentration of tech companies, you start to encounter the "two-body problem", as they call the dual-career track thing in academia. Here we can both pursue career advancement without having to ask the other to sacrifice anything more than picking up some slack around the household if one or the other of us is heavy into a temporary project. For my colleagues in Denver, about the only way similar couples make that work is by both working at the same company, and that is more risk than I can to take on having both incomes come from the same employer, same industry.
A final thought or two: when living in a high cost area, you adjust your expectations. Some people choose to commute further. I have done this and decided it is not worth it. You can choose to live in a less desirable neighborhood. You can choose to buy an older/smaller property. Most people here do it in stages: 1) buy a small condo and live there for 5 years 2) sell and move up to something more expensive. Wash. Rinse. Repeat. My Denver colleagues seem to buy a (to me) huge house a year or two out of college and then when they have kids, move into an even more enormous house. In the Bay Area people frequently have roommates until they move in with a girlfriend/boyfriend or get married. People here raise kids in a 2- or 3-bedroom house. That makes it an imperfect comparison to housing elsewhere in the country where you can get 2700ft^2 for $150K on a half acre lot or whatever. To us, a 2000+ft^2 house is a ridiculous waste of space that just requires more hours to vacuum! :)