Let me get this straight. The health care system where your wife works is an absolute shit-show and has been criminally negligent in forcing front-line health workers (nurses like your wife) to work in unsafe conditions, failing to provide PPE for FIVE MONTHS during a pandemic; obviously this is not your wife's fault and I genuinely feel for her and everyone else who is in her position.
And somehow this leads you to the "logical" conclusion that teachers should also be forced to work in unsafe conditions where the system (administrators and/or the funding bureaucracy) are criminally negligent in not providing even minimal safety measures... and if the teachers raise concerns about it, they are being crybabies; they are getting "above themselves" and have no right to expect anything different; it is definitely their fault and they deserve any hatred that is heaped upon them; of course, why wouldn't everyone be pissed off at them?
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Um, no, I didn't say that teachers should be forced to work in unsafe conditions. What I'm trying (and I guess, failing) to do is explain why a lot of people seem to be angry at teachers directly. Personally, I'm angry at Covid, and I'm angry at the lack of preparedness, and just upset that our kids are caught up in the middle of all this. Also, I'm trying to point out that what sometimes seems the obvious answer isn't.
Just an example. Let's say the teachers push back enough to have classes all online. That's about 20-25 students (we're assuming they weren't going to have overcrowded classes of over 30 students) per teacher that can't be at school during school hours. How many now have to stay at an elderly grandparent's because their parents have to work (and they're working with the public, getting exposed themselves)? Half? A quarter? Let's say it's a quarter, a somewhat unreasonably low number (at least I think so, could be wrong, I'm sure it varies by location). Anyway, that's 4-5 elderly caretakers at risk of exposure, vs one teacher. Yes, it feels good to say "we're doing the right thing and protecting teachers' lives" but unless EVERYTHING is closed...you're saying that those 4-5 grandparents' lives are less important than one teacher's. What I'm saying is, it's just not that simple. I wish it were. On the flip side, if we just open all the schools with no regard for the teacher's safety...it'll be a shit show. So, what's the right answer? No idea!
"Dictate" working conditions? They want a reasonably safe and fair plan for going back to work, not zero risk.
Have the medical personnel at your wife's hospital meekly accepted their working conditions as normal, or have they (justifiably) voiced concerns? If they have decried the poor/unsafe working conditions .... should we hate them too?
They want everything to be perfect, else they want to continue online-only while continuing to be paid. As I alluded to earlier, I'd do the same. It's not really possible for (most) schools to properly social distance, and we have to realize that, but they can certainly put in some reasonable safeguards. Also, as with any negotiation, you often start off with somewhat unreasonable requests so you can "compromise" down to what you actually wanted. But generally the negotiations aren't quite so public.
What the average person is seeing is that they have to accept additional risks due to Covid if they want to continue being paid, but teachers aren't willing to make the same sacrifice. That's the perception. Why do "I" have to continue risking my life to get paid, but "they" can choose not to? And "their" choice can put my loved ones at risk (the case where someone has to watch the kids during the day, so either it's grandma or leave little Timmy at home alone and hope for the best)?
Of course there's also people who are just upset that they're still paying taxes for a crappy system, I didn't really take them into account before. But yeah, I guess I'd be a bit upset if I were paying big bucks in property taxes and all I got was a crappy website that didn't work 1/4 of the time and when it did, my kids didn't actually learn anything from it. I'd direct the resentment at the school system in general, but it's easy for the teachers to get the blame there too (and to be fair, some did just phone it in; others tried their best but again, the system was never meant to be a replacement, just a supplement).