I'm just coming out of a ten year low point.
December 2005 my dad, who had kidney failure for the previous decade, died of a heart attack. My mum, who was a narcassistic alcoholic, and my brother, a heroin addict, leaves me to organise the funeral.
Mum proceeds to spend thousands of pounds on QVC, stops eating completely and goes downhill rapidly.
April 2006 Mum dies. I arrange the funeral, there is no will so we go through 6 months of probate, with my brother asking for money constantly and saying he should be the executor (even though he was out his head most of the time). Finally the estate is settled, we each get £20k.
I buy a larger flat, renting out my old one, as my partner was by then living with me. My younger partner, who was in a band, and worked for free on app development for a start up. Proceed to spend £15k renovating the flat [it was a wreck].
May 2007 I sell the rental for £10k profit.
Feb 2008 Partner & I split up. Turns out the start up has been bought over, he has been offered an exciting new job in the States on the back of it, so he emigrates.
I ran away. I quit my job, took a mortgage break and spent all the money I had travelling. I went on a Nile cruise, I volunteered to work with elephants in the jungle in Kenya, I went on a road trip in California. Turns out, heartache goes with you.
Jan 2010 I come back, broke, single and jobless. Temp for the next 2 years, drink a lot of alcohol, eat crap, make some very poor men decisions and wallow in self pity. Oh, and get in £15k credit card debt.
2013 I Get grief counselling. Get a pretty good job as a Project Officer, find MMM, Marks Daily Apple and realise I don't want to live like that anymore.
For the last two years I have been working on myself. I don't drink often, I eat clean 90% of the time, I am in a good job with a good retirement plan and benefits, I am still single, I budget, I save and pay down my debt. I'll be debt free in about a year. It's been a long, hard road, but I have had the support of some great friends, and while I have many regrets I try to be positive - running away allowed me time to process all the shit that had happened, and I had some amazing experiences. I know my future will be good and I've realised I'm strong.
PS My brother is now clean, married and has 3 kids!