I agree with the notion that it doesn't seem like you are Financially Independent. Sure, you have money. More money than you objectively need by most standards. But you aren't *independent* of your job because you still rely on it. Not only would you not feel okay without a job, you are actually considering taking a *more* stressful job. So I don't see how you are independent. It sounds like at best you have F* You money. You have enough to walk away from a bad situation, but not enough to be okay not having an income tomorrow.
Spouse and are are probably FIRE, in the sense that if jobs dried up tomorrow, we'd be okay. But he is still working full time and I'm semi-actively scaling up my very tiny freelance situation. His is because he still find his work rewarding and fulfilling. He feels like he does good things, and it is also an interesting challenge. For me, it's been a while since I worked and it is satisfying to have My Thing. I enjoy writing and while the subject matter and voice aren't always what I love, it still scratches a creative itch. Writing is my hobby and now I'm getting paid for it.
To be fair, the extra money we both get is certainly nice. And I like that my freelance gig is semi-scalable, while still being amazingly flexible (set my own hours, work from anywhere, can work ahead a couple months, etc.). It is nice to have that so that if something unexpected comes up, we can have a small amount of income coming in.
So I don't think you have to 100% not be interested in money in order to be FI. But while it is low on your list, it seems like money is your primary motivator. You are entirely uncomfortable not having additional income, and you are willing to take on more work stress, rather than scaling back. So I'm not sure you are being honest with yourself about how important the money is, or how "independent" you are.