Sort of relevant to the dishwasher/hand wash discussion: Charles Long, in one of his books (I think How to Live without a salary, but not sure) tells about the time he and his wife almost bought a clothes dryer, because in bad or humid weather the clothes on the line were not dry fast enough and they would run out of clean clothes. They realized the real issue was not enough clothes - they bought more clothes (thrift store of course) and that meant they had enough clean ones while the rest were on the line.
If you can almost get to a full dishwasher, and only need a few things out of it, maybe a few extras would be appropriate? I hand-wash my non-stick pans and good knives, but have enough of everything else that I can fully load the dishwasher, and I am only one person. A quick scrape and rinse means no long-term issues, and I would do the same if I were hand-washing so that my wash water didn't get grotty.
Of course everyone needs to analyze their own situation, YMMV.