Heh. YMMV, eh?
But Pete loves to work. Everyone who's met him remarks on it: he just loves to be up and doing. More power to him: I think that's wonderful. But it's not me. Very few of the things I really like to do are even faintly remunerative :-)
I don't think the point here though is for everyone to be just like him. I think the point is to be aware of the trade-offs, aware of the resources you're plowing through -- to really pay attention to whether your consumption gets you the happiness it promises.
You say you're willing to work forever to support your wife's spending habits, but I'm not sure that you are. And now that MMM has brought you to the point of formulating the situation that way, it's uncomfortable, so you'd like to discredit him somehow. That's perfectly understandable, and I have that impulse too, but I don't think it's a fruitful response. Really the discomfort has been there all along, and it's just been brought into focus. And that's a good thing, because as long as it was vague you couldn't address it.
Marriage is a noble estate and I honor you for valuing it above free time. But every good marriage entails clarifying and renegotiating its terms, sometimes. We go into it pretty rashly and find out, sometimes years later, that our partner has assumed commitments that we don't quite remember making. That always happens, and it's not anyone's fault. You didn't promise to work forever so she could spend a lot of money, and she didn't promise to take up some goddamned frugality cult you found on the net. So you've got some work to do -- you've already done some of it -- to arrive at a place where you're both genuinely comfortable.
Really, Pete's good fortune and authenticity are neither here nor there. Who cares? It's the happiness of you and your wife that's important. To stick with the cricket metaphor -- keep your eye on the ball :-)
Lots in there that got me thinking, some things that are spot on and others that might be misunderstandings. First, I have never met Pete, so I really don't know much about his IRL personality. I figured that he really just loved being outdoors, building things, biking, helping out with raising his son (which are all things that I enjoy). So I figured being in front of a computer was the last thing he really wanted to do once he 'ER'ed' from his job (I find that I am happier when I don't spend too long in front of a screen (YouTubing, MobileGaming, Wiki-reading), and certainly chafe at 'having' to put in free time in front of a screen doing something I don't enjoy).
Might have been a misunderstanding on my part, but thinking about Pete as a hard worker maybe helps frame that he just can't help himself. He gets a chance to do different, bigger than life things as a trade-off for giving up some of his personal time. I still don't think I could do it post luxurious FI. The thought of being responsible for a business after tasting Full-FI freedom would not work for me because I wouldn't be able to let it go. Even with my little bit of blogging, I found myself composing posts as I went about my day....
One thing I like about my work is that once I head home or on vacation (and delegate my messages to others), I can forget about it completely. When I'm at work, I do the work, but once I head out, my phone is off (well, technically, usually playing EconTalk or an Audiobook on my drive home, then turned off). I'm guilty of checking it sometimes, but it's a guilty pleasure / bad habit that I need to break.
I did find myself 'enabling' my wife's consumption more than I would like, especially when I first found MMM, and it bothered me. But over the years, as we weaned off the 'invisible credit card spending' and use separate bank accounts (a hold over from when she was a teacher) I think we have come to a healthy balance. It's probably outside the Mustachian guardrails (~24k/yr for groceries, kids, and then anything else she wants), but we are both pretty satisfied. I could get fired today and we'd have a sustainable lifestyle (~40k/yr excluding mortgage), both maritally and financially (not sure of my net worth since we don't plan to sell the house and I don't track things very closely anymore, but we have over 2M in liquid, income producing assets, excluding the 100k or so in cash to pay off the mortgage or invest in a rental if need or opportunity were to come along).
But even the prospect of buying a rental property, for me, sounds like too much work for income. I'm pretty satisfied with collecting dividends and interest, and re-balancing to capture capital gains. I guess I'm just lazier than Pete at the end of the day, but I still love running long distances, trying new hobbies like SCUBA, travel, camping... so lazy is not exactly the right word either. But I can't say that I value freedom more, because he's 'retired' and I'm working. I think that's where I get confused, I don't think that I'm lazy but if Pete is what early retirement looks like, then I don't know if I want that either. Obviously more for me to think about!