1.My father bought me a (used, but reliable) car when I was a freshman in college, only because the vehicle I had saved all through high school to buy ended up being a lemon, and I lacked the income to repair or replace it. For my first two semesters of college, he gave me a $150 a month allowance for gas as well. Everything else was my responsibility. I took Pell Grants to pay for my classes, until the community college decided to cut those off (I took several years off, now they're saying they can't give me my aid because I took too long to finish my associates degree) I lived frugally, kept my expenses low, and worked as much as I could stand while still maintaining my GPA, sometimes upwards of 45 hours a week on a full time class schedule.
2. Most of my friends parents were less well off than mine, and some of my friends resented me even for the modest amount of help I got from my parents. I ended up either involuntarily cut off from, or found myself distancing from, a large number of close friends that made me feel less worthwhile as a person for accepting my parents help. It still amazes me how such trivial things can affect friendships. I'm very grateful to my Dad for his help, and while I don't intend to have children of my own, I hope to set up a modest college fund for my nephews when I'm more set financially.
3. If I could do it over again, I would have delayed going to college until after I turned 24, and no longer had to claim my parent's income on the FAFSA. Paying for my classes out of pocket, even at community college, was stressful and I ended up dropping out. When I returned, the college made claiming my financial aid very difficult because even though I had good grades, I hadn't completed a degree in X number of years. If I'd just worked and saved money until then, I wouldn't have had such a hassle to deal with.