Author Topic: Spending: How does word choice affect you?  (Read 2494 times)

wingarcher

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Spending: How does word choice affect you?
« on: May 13, 2016, 12:21:23 PM »
When we stop to obtain more food from the grocery we usually say we're "getting groceries", not "buying groceries".  "Hey hon, can you stop and get more milk on your way home?"

The other day I BOUGHT new shoes (at a nice discount, too!), I didn't "get" them.  Some out there no doubt "get" new shoes.

I feel differently if I say the sentence one way vs the other.  "Buy" puts it in perspective, "get" seems easier to say.

Discuss..

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Re: Spending: How does word choice affect you?
« Reply #1 on: May 14, 2016, 09:03:39 AM »
You could always switch to saying "I exchanged (some part of) my life force for such and such a thing" as Joe Dominguez might have said. That might really drive the point home ;) Or simplify it and say you worked 4 hours to acquire new shoes.

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Re: Spending: How does word choice affect you?
« Reply #2 on: May 14, 2016, 09:10:29 AM »
Early in my journey I found this:

When I said "expense" I subsequently (unconsciously) saw the item as fixed, nothing I could do about it in a given moment.
When I said "expenditure" I saw it as a choice, and something I could change at will.

So I started using the latter more, and shifted my finances dramatically.

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Re: Spending: How does word choice affect you?
« Reply #3 on: May 15, 2016, 03:31:34 PM »
This is interesting!

Today I asked my DD, K, who was going to town to "bring me home" a treat.

Then I said "I'll give you money for it."

And immediately changed my mind.  Getting groceries, brining home a treat - buying groceries, buy me a treat - yep, different emotional/cognitive/spending impact for me.

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Re: Spending: How does word choice affect you?
« Reply #4 on: May 15, 2016, 03:41:24 PM »
Interesting topic! I think "Why We Buy" By Paco Underhill should be required reading for everyone :)

I hadn't actually considered the buy/bring/grab difference when talking about money though. I'll have to pay attention to my terminology.

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Re: Spending: How does word choice affect you?
« Reply #5 on: May 15, 2016, 04:25:56 PM »
I don't "shop".  "Shopping" is aimlessly wandering around picking out things to buy, with little to no specific intent.  The action of "shopping" leads to impulse purchases.

On the other hand I choose to "procure" supplies and necessary items. I only go to establishments with a predetermined list of items.  I buy only those items, period.

The only real exception is when I have an identified need for a function but have been unable to determine a suitable product.  I may then take a recon trip to see what the various options are, to provide a basis for further research before deciding and procuring.

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Re: Spending: How does word choice affect you?
« Reply #6 on: May 15, 2016, 04:39:06 PM »
"Recon" trips - this is good, rather than "shopping".

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Re: Spending: How does word choice affect you?
« Reply #7 on: May 15, 2016, 05:14:59 PM »
"Recon" trips - this is good, rather than "shopping".

Note that even a "recon" trip is with specific intent - to obtain the information necessary to decide, first, on "if" a purchase is necessary (if the cost is over the top, I'll reconsider) and second the "how" to go about satisfying the identified need statement.

Some recent examples from our garden:

There's a knee high retaining wall with a fence on top on the north edge of my property.  There is a narrow bench up there with good sun exposure, perfect for planter boxes for sun loving food plants like peppers.  I could either build or buy - had to check out what was available to buy, before deciding.   I was unsure if there were boxes that would fit.  Found some that did, perfectly.  Cheap plastic planter boxes it is.

S.O. wanted a trellis structure for the cucumber plant to grow up, again, buy or build.  SO was fixated on a "buy" solution at local Big Box Home Improvement store for $12.  I vetoed and bought $1.50 in hardware and a $2 piece of lumber.  15 minutes of work later, a suitable fold up for winter storage trellis was done.

Hoop House.  SO wanted a hoop house on one of our beds so we could start it earlier.  SO was fixated on one in a seed catalog for a ridiculous amount.  I vetoed and promised to make something.  I had a couple of concepts, but needed to check out available material before I could choose the design solution.  As it turned out, the semi flexible small diameter plastic pipe in the plumbing department was inexpensive and easy to dry fit plus duct tape together with appropriate 45 and 90 degree fittings.  Pre-cut 2 foot pieces of rebar provided the foundation to hold up the pipe frames.  Plastic sheeting, plus some rocks and boom....solution implemented with minimal time and money expenditures.  Bonus - it can be taken apart and stored over the winter in minimal space.