Wondered what you all think about how self esteem affects your finances.
I'm in my late 30s, intelligent, capable of hard work, friendly, widely recognised in work as being capable of more than I do. And yet... I don't.
I dropped out of university at the age of 21... rather unfortunately, after being there for three years, so my CV looks like I did a full degree and just didn't bother graduating. After that I fell into an office job (had already applied for a summer job at my dad's office and got offered it at the right moment) that I stayed in for two years as I loved the people there. (Not a great reason... I know....)
My career path has been about 95% reactive. 'Want to move to City A; take any job there.' 'Want to move to City B; take any job there.' 'I hate this job, I'll take anything to get away.' I've always worked in the public sector and IMO I've always been really well paid for what I actually do (which has mostly been secretarial work). But I am so frigging BORED. I have been bored for most of my career. Within days of starting at my current job I know I'd made a mistake taking it (I had managed to take a step away from secretarial work at my previous job but they had messed around with my pay scales and it seemed unlikely that I'd ever get a job at the next grade) but I loved the woman I worked for so stayed anyway... then I loved the team I worked with so hey, I stayed. And as a bonus I think my organisation does great work, and it's nice being a cog in that machine. And for various reasons it's been a good place to be through a tough period in my life. But I've been there SEVEN YEARS now!
Anyway. Now our financial situation has got really precarious, and I find myself wanting to bring in some more money. I've checked out the threads on here about side gigs, I've read the MMM articles, I've read
this article, and there is nothing that I feel I can do. Some of it is about timing; I only work part time but I have a two year old and he is very clingy, not very self sufficient when it comes to playing, and he takes an awful long time to get to sleep at nights, which cuts into my spare time.
But seriously: is there really
nothing I can do? I highly doubt it.
I think I just have seriously low self esteem and self belief and as as result I can't see myself as actually bringing in any money other than what my organisation is contracted to pay me.
Just wondered, really, if that rung any bells with anyone else, and if anyone had any ideas of ways that I can combat this thinking.
{For the record: the ways of bringing in extra money that seem possible/realistic to me are
- Data entry
- designing and selling greetings cards
- blogging
- possibly leaflet distributing - I'd find it really hard to make myself do something so wasteful, but I could fit it round DS
And that's it. There is also fiction writing (short stories etc) - I do have a diploma in creative writing, and I've sold one story to a magazine previously, but I also know a lot of writers and even the successful ones work really hard for a pretty low hourly wage.}