I think it's not wanting to be "that guy" that gets a lot of people into financial trouble. It may be only $20 to you, but that's a lot of money to a lot of people.
I'd prefer the host not be "that guy" and invite people to an event with a built-in entry fee.
Exactly. And as I alluded to before, if it was really just once a year then it really wouldn't be a big deal. But friends are always having birthdays and get-togethers, etc. and we have 3 choices:
1. Don't hang out with them
2. hang out and spend money like the rest of them
3. hang out and don't spend money.
I want to be able to choose option #2, but as I have told people before, there is a word for people who can do whatever they want: Millionaire
If I become one then i won't sweat buying $30 meals whenever I want. Until then, I care more about my financial independence than I do about the opinions of people who are slaves to debt, fads, political correctness, or anything else.
Life is too short to live it for other people. If I want to hang out with my friends at a restaurant and not spend money, then damn it, that's what I am going to do.
we're supposed to drive old used cars and not care what people think, ride bikes and not care what people think, brown bag it to work and not care what people think, skip expensive Christmas gifts and not care what people think, rock old cell phones and not have cable, and not care what people think,
but we're supposed to care what people think if we show up to a restaurant for a friends birthday and don't buy anything?!
PSH