Do you prefer to go car-free and live near things and have access to good public transit or would you prefer to live in a smaller city where traffic isn't bad and driving wasn't a hassle?
I know there are many in-betweens, like being in a smaller city with decent public transit or being in a larger city with a car, but I wanted to keep it simple and ask what the "ideal" scenario would be.
I prefer having a car in a low-traffic city but still being close to everything I need. That way, I'm not spending much time in the car, my errands are more convenient and faster, and I don't have to deal with weirdos on the train/bus. I've found that even when you're only a mile from a grocery store - it's still a pain to get those groceries home on a regular basis, unless you're biking of course. I don't know - I'd still rather just use my car very sparingly and get my exercise in a safer, more enjoyable way. I just got to thinking about this because I used to think I would want to live in a high-density area where everything is convenient to get to. Then I started to see all the downsides to that - noise, more influence/control from the city, hassle to get groceries, etc.
The only city in the U.S. with world class public transport is NYC in my opinion - and I seriously don't understand how people get their groceries - or really anything. I mean you could have them delivered - but that adds up fast. Or you could go to the store and get an Uber back, but same story really, and still not as convenient as just driving in a less hectic place.