I wonder what you're taking away from this, that you posted about it?
It's an interesting article. I thought I'd share. Isn't that enough?
I guess I wanted more info on why you found it interesting. I'm wondering if you fear death, or think others should. didn't intend to sound snarky!
It's interesting to me, although not surprising. At least in my small circle, I see a lot of media that talks about the impending retirement crisis or talks about how much one needs to have to fund a retirement. Inevitably these articles tout large numbers that I think adds to a general sense of unease and helplessness towards retirement in general.
This article is interesting to me because it gives a look into that general feeling of unease, although I don't find the article particularly helpful beyond that.
I would think that for the average person, death is the standard for fear. I've only known one person who had actually made peace with death before it came, and I've known quite a few people who have passed away through the years.
So to say one fears anything more than death, in general, either reflects a real palpable fear or demonstrates that people engage in hyperbole to make a point. Either way, the point is made.
As for myself, do I fear death? Fear is perhaps the wrong word to describe my thoughts toward it, but I'm in no hurry for it to come about. I am very happy with my life today, and I wish to enjoy it while I can.
That is great food for thought. What really is someone's biggest fear? Personally, just because death isn't my #1 fear does not necessarily mean I've made peace with it but maybe I have based on someone else's terms? Hard to say and I also draw a distinction between dying and death. I view dying as one relatively small aspect under the "death umbrella". Dying will probably suck and something to endure once and then it's over, but that's just a part of the journey and if all the idiots in the world can do it, so can I. Overall, death is much more profound than just the struggles related to last few moments of a human life IMO. Nearly every aspect of how a human encounters and deals with death will be different from person to person. I've thought about death and death-related consequences for many hundreds of hours over the years and while I wouldn't call how I think of it as "peaceful", it's better for me to process and think about it and use the baseline tension that comes with thinking about death to motivate to get on with living and pursuing goals rather than bury my head in the sand.
At times thoughts related to death can be quite stressful and/or scary but when viewed in totality, it's a net positive while being somewhat mentally stimulating and certainly nowhere as bad as the thought of being alone or having to date again or fertility-related fears or not being able to provide financially/emotionally/physically to my household as the result of some action/accident or accidentally seriously injuring or killing someone else (dropping a small child when going down stairs, hitting someone with car, etc.). Everyone (out of those that devote mental energy to thinking/categorizing/contingency-planning about and with fears which is certainly not ALL humans!) will have a unique list and there is no correct or incorrect prioritization. And I expect my own list to vary over time and that some things I consider the most terrible may indeed come to pass and I'll have to deal with it in some way.
With death from a single person's POV, there is a finality to it whereas with other non-death fears, you still have all of the uncertainty afterward of how you're going to pick up the pieces and move on. That to me is more stressful and scary than death. Also, I recognize my own mental limitations as like many humans, I tend to discount things in the more distant future compared to what's in front of my face (good survival mechanism though). Maybe as my own death becomes increasingly likely on a shorter timescale, my fear of it will increase. Then again, there have been certain profound experiences where I feel not only prepared to greet/experience death but also am aware of the road map of sorts on how to explore and inhabit that mental space on an as-needed basis. Much of it has to do with humility, reading, meditation, and communication. Maybe some would call this making peace with death but in my view I'm not sure I would ever call it that. For now, my fear of death is in a very manageable place but it takes effort (though this has decreased over the past 20 years) and certain times the maintenance is a little more involved. I don't expect that to change but am open to the idea of being naive/wrong and evolving my strategies should the fear of death become unwieldy.
To each their own, very interesting topic for sure.
"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and above all, pity those who live without love." Prof. A.P.W.B.D.
"It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live." Marcus Aurelius
"When your time comes to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song, and die like a hero going home." Tecumseh