This topic is on my mind. If people read back, I have a long standing issue where my mother only worked part time, but after the divorce (25+ years ago) and all the kids moved out, refused to downsize from her 4 bedroom, 2 1/2 bath house in an expensive suburb. As nature abhors a vacumn, my older parasitic brother moved in(20+ years ago) as well as my sister (10 or less years ago). anyways this has been a topic of debate for many years, which have gotten especially intense after she retired over 2 years ago, making no income and having only a ss of 550 a month. When you realize that she pays 7K a year in property taxes (her entire income) you can see how this situation has been unsustainable, to put it mildly. Anyways, the last couple years, I helped research realtors, got her in touch with them, which she would then talk on phone but then cancel. Then my nephew got his realtor involved. Two times meetings were scheduled, and mom canceled them at last minute. Both my brother and nephew said, we are not going to help any more this is embarrassing at this point. BUT- they did one college try after she begged them to help. She agreed to meeting with the realtor in her home, so she can get an estimate of house worth. And the same day she had a meeting with an interested buyer (that she had canceled at last minute before). I talked to her on Sunday to see how it went. AND- yep she canceled both meetings, while at the same time being upset at her taxes being due, asking me for money, etc. I yelled in frustration and she hung up on me. I had even offered to have her move in with me for a month so my brother and john could handle the sale, but she wont agree to it.
I guess it is particularly galling, at this time in my life, practically speaking I function as a single mom, and work full time. I have no time to myself. At work I'm on projects that add up to 175% of my time (40 hours is 100%) I'm trying to promote a book, and also trying to declutter and downsize stuff in my house, and be there for my kids. She is retired it is her life, and can't handle this ONE thing and asks me for money when she knows my financial/life situation. My Dad is having health issues from the stress of it, because he feels once the crap hits the fan, he will have to let my brother move in with him (1 bedroom apartment). He is literally having cardiac symptoms due to it (arrhythmia) and says when this happens it will be the death of him. I say it is not his problem he doesn't need to take him in, but he says he can't live with himself to see his son be on the street. The whole situation is incredibly frustrating and stressful to me. Anyways not going to talk to them for a month.