I'm new here and wanted to share a little about myself. I'm a middle aged, simple minded.... for the most part,stay at home mom to some not always so simple kids, that are the joy of my life and married to a wonderful hard working man.
We are debt free other than our mortgage and a home improvement loan that has 0% interest for the next two years. We could pay that off with out savings, but I'm not sure it's the best idea.
My parents were horrible with money. My dad worked hard and went back to school at night to better himself and eventually made good money, but he and my mom always spent more than they made. Buying homes, new or old, dumping tons of money into them, landscaping, fences, finishing basements, doing repairs etc. They ran up credit cards to do so. I remember many times them being stressed over finances, fighting and arguing and then going to Beneficial to refinance everything and coming out happy only to do it all over again. Eventually they would need to sell the home to get out from the mess, pay it off, by a cheaper home, start all over again. Other than Christmas, where in the early years they went crazy overboard, they never gave us kids too much, materially or emotionally, and when I was 14 I got a job and would blow through the money on "cool clothes" and hanging out with friends as fast as I made it to feel accepted and fit in.
My dh was raised basically by a single mom, who was frugal to the max.
When we married, I had a lot of bad spending habits and I managed to run up some debt and I managed to erode away some of my husbands frugality through nagging or just spending and him not really trying to stop me. Then I got smart and worked hard to pay it off. (back in those days I worked part time out of home) However this pattern would often repeat through the years, many times.
We had a lovely home that worked for us but of course wasn't perfect, but I got caught up in the materialistic idea that a big beautiful house would make life more perfect. So we bought it. On one hand I really like our home as it works well for our family size and functionally wise, but truthfully I'd give it up in a heartbeat, if the real estate market would let us, because to me the tradeoff in expense for mortgage/ upkeep/ utilities is no longer worth it.
Sadly at the present moment we have lost about 100K (or 25% of value) since we purchased it just before the big crash, which means our equity is minimal. Maybe 10% equity out of what we could sell it for minus any real estate fees.
Since January 1 of this year, I have been very mindful of the money we are spending and made a reasonable budget that we comfortably live on. I've been excellent about sticking to it, and not buying anything we don't need. We have a 6 month EF saved up as well. But most of the monthly income is accounted for. Dh gets a big yearly bonus, but I am no longer counting chickens before they are hatched, so to speak, so it's not part of my budget.
I guess the biggest question I've been constantly mulling over is, should we basically lose everything we have put into this house up to this point with the hope that perhaps long term we would save more on paying less interest on a smaller loan, as well as less upkeep/ fewer expenses on a smaller/less expensive home or, should we ride it out for a few more years and hope the market really does come back?
I'm just not hopeful we will ever get back to anywhere near what we paid for it and I'm not sure how one goes about making this kind of decision.