Dear Amy: We have a family issue that is causing resentment, and I hope you can offer some advice. It's about money.We are baby boomers who worked hard, handled our money well and saved. We started out with nothing over 46 years ago and now find ourselves with a nice nest egg. We do not live large or extravagantly, but we have financial security.There are other family members our age who did not follow the same path. Now that we are all at retirement age, resentment has reared its ugly head. At most family occasions, a relative will openly express resentment toward us in a blaring way in front of others.It's difficult to plan or attend any kind of family gathering without some nasty, sarcastic comment or nosy question directed our way.We have done our best to change the conversation and turn the other cheek, but it's getting to the boiling point. My husband and I are modest people, and we do not know how to handle this, as we want to keep peace in the family, especially in our golden years.Any suggestions? — The SeniorsDear Seniors: To some extent, your ability to ignore this without having it affect you would be evidence that you have reached your goal to be not only financially but also personally secure.Bullies often act out by marshaling aggression to cover up for insecurity.You should adopt a stance of: We have nothing to defend or apologize for.So the next time someone makes a rude statement publicly to you, you should respond with a version of, "What's the problem, Bernice? You seem very unhappy."Read more: Ask Amy - The Denver Post http://www.denverpost.com/askamy#ixzz32SQWwlQY Read The Denver Post's Terms of Use of its content: http://www.denverpost.com/termsofuse Follow us: @Denverpost on Twitter | Denverpost on Facebook
