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Re: Mustachian People Problems (just for fun)
« Reply #4500 on: December 18, 2017, 02:49:47 AM »
The only time I go to a pro sports game is when i get free tickets and my friends laugh (they never know about the tickets) but deep down inside i know at the end of the night when they realize how much they have spent on bear, tickets, parking and snacks I am the guy they love to be mad at.  I am willing to walk a mile to save 25$ on parking and stop at the dollar store for me and my kids to pick up some items to snack on as they just keep opening there wallets up. 

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« Reply #4501 on: December 18, 2017, 11:38:42 AM »
The only time I go to a pro sports game is when i get free tickets and my friends laugh (they never know about the tickets) but deep down inside i know at the end of the night when they realize how much they have spent on bear, tickets, parking and snacks I am the guy they love to be mad at.  I am willing to walk a mile to save 25$ on parking and stop at the dollar store for me and my kids to pick up some items to snack on as they just keep opening there wallets up.

In the (long long) past, I went to a sports game and brought my own water and snacks and fruit. The guard at the gate said I couldn't bring my food in. I claimed I was hypoglycemic and needed to eat this. I don't think they knew what hypoglycemic was, looked a little scared, and just let me bring it in. It wasn't a total fabrication because at one point in time, I was fainting in certain situations and thought I might be, but I am not. It worked though.

Now I don't go to sports games. They bore me. Problem of overpriced parking and snacks solved!

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Re: Mustachian People Problems (just for fun)
« Reply #4502 on: December 18, 2017, 11:44:56 AM »
The only time I go to a pro sports game is when i get free tickets and my friends laugh (they never know about the tickets) but deep down inside i know at the end of the night when they realize how much they have spent on bear, tickets, parking and snacks I am the guy they love to be mad at.  I am willing to walk a mile to save 25$ on parking and stop at the dollar store for me and my kids to pick up some items to snack on as they just keep opening there wallets up.

Well if they spend money on a bear, then they should make sure they get snacks, so they don't end up as a snack.  Seems reasonable to me.

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Re: Mustachian People Problems (just for fun)
« Reply #4503 on: December 18, 2017, 11:47:02 AM »
The only time I go to a pro sports game is when i get free tickets and my friends laugh (they never know about the tickets) but deep down inside i know at the end of the night when they realize how much they have spent on bear, tickets, parking and snacks I am the guy they love to be mad at.  I am willing to walk a mile to save 25$ on parking and stop at the dollar store for me and my kids to pick up some items to snack on as they just keep opening there wallets up.

Well if they spend money on a bear, then they should make sure they get snacks, so they don't end up as a snack.  Seems reasonable to me.
Let the bears pay the bear tax, I pay the Homer tax.

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« Reply #4504 on: December 18, 2017, 01:06:12 PM »
Today's MPP:

I realized that VTI has gone up so fast that I can't really say that the dividend yield is 2% anymore when discussing it with people. It's now just below 1.75%.

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« Reply #4505 on: December 18, 2017, 05:57:42 PM »
The only time I go to a pro sports game is when i get free tickets and my friends laugh (they never know about the tickets) but deep down inside i know at the end of the night when they realize how much they have spent on bear, tickets, parking and snacks I am the guy they love to be mad at.  I am willing to walk a mile to save 25$ on parking and stop at the dollar store for me and my kids to pick up some items to snack on as they just keep opening there wallets up.

In the (long long) past, I went to a sports game and brought my own water and snacks and fruit. The guard at the gate said I couldn't bring my food in. I claimed I was hypoglycemic and needed to eat this. I don't think they knew what hypoglycemic was, looked a little scared, and just let me bring it in. It wasn't a total fabrication because at one point in time, I was fainting in certain situations and thought I might be, but I am not. It worked though.

Now I don't go to sports games. They bore me. Problem of overpriced parking and snacks solved!

And that's why when someone claims they have a condition, are lactose-intolerant, gluten-intolerant, etc. no one gives a fuck anymore.

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« Reply #4506 on: December 18, 2017, 06:53:13 PM »
Today's second MPP related to VTI... I keep checking the stock market, like DAILY due to the funny "Top is IN!" thread!

I used to go months between checking the market, sometimes over a year. No longer.

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« Reply #4507 on: December 18, 2017, 09:37:53 PM »
The only time I go to a pro sports game is when i get free tickets and my friends laugh (they never know about the tickets) but deep down inside i know at the end of the night when they realize how much they have spent on bear, tickets, parking and snacks I am the guy they love to be mad at.  I am willing to walk a mile to save 25$ on parking and stop at the dollar store for me and my kids to pick up some items to snack on as they just keep opening there wallets up.

In the (long long) past, I went to a sports game and brought my own water and snacks and fruit. The guard at the gate said I couldn't bring my food in. I claimed I was hypoglycemic and needed to eat this. I don't think they knew what hypoglycemic was, looked a little scared, and just let me bring it in. It wasn't a total fabrication because at one point in time, I was fainting in certain situations and thought I might be, but I am not. It worked though.

Now I don't go to sports games. They bore me. Problem of overpriced parking and snacks solved!

And that's why when someone claims they have a condition, are lactose-intolerant, gluten-intolerant, etc. no one gives a fuck anymore.

I'm not sure what you are getting at with here, but I find the unhealthy and overpriced food at stadiums ridiculous. There was nothing wrong with me bringing some fruit, water, and snacks with me to the game, but the guards weren't allowing that. I'm not sure why buying tickets to a game means that you have to eat their stadium food and can't bring your own.

Oh well, over priced parking and food, in addition to boring games, means that I will not attend any more of their games.
« Last Edit: December 18, 2017, 09:40:32 PM by Daisy »

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« Reply #4508 on: December 19, 2017, 12:43:02 AM »
The only time I go to a pro sports game is when i get free tickets and my friends laugh (they never know about the tickets) but deep down inside i know at the end of the night when they realize how much they have spent on bear, tickets, parking and snacks I am the guy they love to be mad at.  I am willing to walk a mile to save 25$ on parking and stop at the dollar store for me and my kids to pick up some items to snack on as they just keep opening there wallets up.

In the (long long) past, I went to a sports game and brought my own water and snacks and fruit. The guard at the gate said I couldn't bring my food in. I claimed I was hypoglycemic and needed to eat this. I don't think they knew what hypoglycemic was, looked a little scared, and just let me bring it in. It wasn't a total fabrication because at one point in time, I was fainting in certain situations and thought I might be, but I am not. It worked though.

Now I don't go to sports games. They bore me. Problem of overpriced parking and snacks solved!

And that's why when someone claims they have a condition, are lactose-intolerant, gluten-intolerant, etc. no one gives a fuck anymore.

I'm not sure what you are getting at with here, but I find the unhealthy and overpriced food at stadiums ridiculous. There was nothing wrong with me bringing some fruit, water, and snacks with me to the game, but the guards weren't allowing that. I'm not sure why buying tickets to a game means that you have to eat their stadium food and can't bring your own.

Oh well, over priced parking and food, in addition to boring games, means that I will not attend any more of their games.

We went to a concert on Friday and I bought a bottle of soda at a local grocery store for a much lower price than at a kiosk in the center. I had thought to bring it inside. DH pinpointed that they were body-searching coats and that we couldn't bring the drink. So we drank the bottle while standing in the queue. It turned out that the search was not that bad. I could have put the bottle somewhere without being noticed.
But we were fine for the rest of the evening. The others people in the audience were buying expensive beer all the time.

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Re: Mustachian People Problems (just for fun)
« Reply #4509 on: December 19, 2017, 07:49:43 AM »
The only time I go to a pro sports game is when i get free tickets and my friends laugh (they never know about the tickets) but deep down inside i know at the end of the night when they realize how much they have spent on bear, tickets, parking and snacks I am the guy they love to be mad at.  I am willing to walk a mile to save 25$ on parking and stop at the dollar store for me and my kids to pick up some items to snack on as they just keep opening there wallets up.

In the (long long) past, I went to a sports game and brought my own water and snacks and fruit. The guard at the gate said I couldn't bring my food in. I claimed I was hypoglycemic and needed to eat this. I don't think they knew what hypoglycemic was, looked a little scared, and just let me bring it in. It wasn't a total fabrication because at one point in time, I was fainting in certain situations and thought I might be, but I am not. It worked though.

Now I don't go to sports games. They bore me. Problem of overpriced parking and snacks solved!

And that's why when someone claims they have a condition, are lactose-intolerant, gluten-intolerant, etc. no one gives a fuck anymore.

I'm not sure what you are getting at with here, but I find the unhealthy and overpriced food at stadiums ridiculous. There was nothing wrong with me bringing some fruit, water, and snacks with me to the game, but the guards weren't allowing that. I'm not sure why buying tickets to a game means that you have to eat their stadium food and can't bring your own.

Oh well, over priced parking and food, in addition to boring games, means that I will not attend any more of their games.

There is nothing wrong with lying because it was what I wanted to do.

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« Reply #4510 on: December 19, 2017, 10:07:48 AM »
My MPP is that I feel an inadequate Mustachian for not using any kind of app, software or excel sheet to track my spending. I'm actually a bookkeeper, logging spending is what I do for a living. I just can't make myself do it at home too.

I'm still pretty confident I can tell you the exact amount of money I spend in nearly every category though. I try to spend as little as possible so I don't have to keep track of a large amount of purchases.

My Mom was a very early MMM ...

She passed away last year and when we were going through her stuff, I found itemized detailed hand-written spreadsheets tracking all of the expenses for me, my brother and sister from birth to when we moved out!!!

I had quite a good time reviewing the expenditures and highlighting the fact that my frugality was in my DNA, since she spent about 1/3 less on me ( I have had part time jobs since 13) than my brother or sister.

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« Reply #4511 on: December 19, 2017, 10:44:49 AM »
@WoodSpinner that is awesome!!

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« Reply #4512 on: December 20, 2017, 05:45:44 PM »
I had a few moments of serious angst tonight when I spotted a nickel on the floor. Nobody else was nearby, so fair game. But it was in a public bathroom in a midtown Manhattan medical facility, so a very high germ/ick factor. I decided to leave it for the janitor... might have gone for a quarter, but it's not worth catching Ebola over a nickel ;-)

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« Reply #4513 on: December 20, 2017, 07:10:05 PM »
I offered to bring trifle to Christmas dinner at my aunt's house - only to realize that I had donated my serving bowl in my mass decluttering event this fall, so I had to go to the thrift store to buy one. Unfortunately, the one that I had donated was long gone,  as I would have enjoyed the humor in buying my old bowl back.

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« Reply #4514 on: December 20, 2017, 09:27:47 PM »
I had a few moments of serious angst tonight when I spotted a nickel on the floor. Nobody else was nearby, so fair game. But it was in a public bathroom in a midtown Manhattan medical facility, so a very high germ/ick factor. I decided to leave it for the janitor... might have gone for a quarter, but it's not worth catching Ebola over a nickel ;-)

You do have standards after all...

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« Reply #4515 on: December 21, 2017, 12:35:21 AM »
Being a Mustachian I use a smart phone that is some years old, a Samsung S4 active. At work we moved into a new building this week and my phone simple doesn't have any coverage at all. My colleague advised to turn on Wifi-call. But my phone seems to be too old to have this option.
I am currently updating to the latest phone software in the hope that some solution will appear.

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« Reply #4516 on: December 21, 2017, 07:30:21 AM »
Our rent is going up 10%, and likely to increase again in six months. This felt like a gut punch. Then I did the yearly math and it doesn't seem like that much. Then I literally cried for our neighbors who live on the edge (theirs won't increase quite as much, as part of the increase is a per resident fee). Then I remembered that they eat out more than we do. And drink a helluva lot more than we do.

Still, I sure hope we can get a waiver to move into our back up plan early!

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« Reply #4517 on: December 22, 2017, 01:19:05 PM »
I told my wife I've almost reached $150k in my 401k. She responded with: "That doesn't seem like much..." Our Mustachian mindset has made even $150k feel like a rather small milestone.

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« Reply #4518 on: December 28, 2017, 07:50:00 AM »
We were on a road trip last week, and I accidentally grabbed a medium coffee cup at the convenience store instead of the small coffee cup I wanted. (Seemed like they purposefully placed the smalls and mediums apart from each other so people would make this mistake.) The mistake cost me 20 cents, and I became irrationally angry with myself. In fact, I am still bitter.
Bitter like the coffee? Hope you're over the pain now.

Hahaha! I am slowly getting over it.

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« Reply #4519 on: December 28, 2017, 08:54:42 AM »
I have a handful of REIT stocks, many of them go ex dividend the 28th and 29th of this month.
The stock price usually drops about the same amount as the dividend, but I don't get the dividend until the middle of next month.

My MPP, I'm eagerly looking forward to my a NW calculation on 12-31-17, but the prices of my REITs dropped on ex dividend day and my account won't be credited with the dividend until next month. It's about $7,500 that won't show up.
 For my written record it won't be recorded, for my gratification, I'll mentaly add it in.

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« Reply #4520 on: December 28, 2017, 09:38:46 AM »
This is kind of a problem problem, but exaggerated by frugal habits.

Partner came home today to shower and dress for a work Christmas event only to discover all of his shirts, except the one he was wearing were in the washing machine. 

Of course we donít have a dryer.

I suggested that maybe if we iron his button down for a long time it might be dry enough to wear...

He ended up wearing my ribbed sleep tank top (the only thing that could stretch enough to fit him!) under an older, but reasonably nice turtleneck sweater that was a bit warm for the weather, but not so much as to look usual. 

Now, of course he could have mentioned this event when I asked him yesterday if he had any preference when I did the next load of laundry.  We really should buy him another shirt, even a T-shirt would help...


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« Reply #4521 on: December 28, 2017, 09:53:37 AM »
People keep buying me drinks when I go out with groups (eg. coworker today at pub) and I never ever pay them back because they dive in to buy the first round every time and all I want is a single Diet Coke and I'm good for the whole night, while they get through several beers. They don't seem to mind (obviously I'm a cheap date!), but I find it very awkward. I'd rather just buy my own drinks but insisting would be even more awkward.

Familiar one. I'm not unwilling to pay someone a drink, but they just always seem to want them sooner/more frequently than  me.

I just don't see the need to buy rounds/meals now. I get in the past where you paid by the round to make it easier or it was harder to split bills. But now it is so easy to either split the bill up in the system, keep tabs, or venmo someone later it just drives me nuts. Its a combination of tragedy of the commons and showing off money.

I was at dinner last night with my wife's friends (couple) and her dad. Bill came and I said something along the lines like just split 3 ways (with my card in hand)? It was basically even with the exception of my wife's dad who would've paid a little extra, but he wouldn't of cared. The other guy made a big deal saying it was his treat because he was staying with us. (He made the same show at breakfast when we stayed with him last fall because we were the guests).

 Like how am I supposed to react in that situation? There was no reason for him to pay the bill and it was all for attention showing what a great guy he is. He wanted a little resistance and he would do the awkward thing where he would quickly shove it to the waittress when we would object (this happened the previous time). Just don't like the feeling I owe him something or throwing money around.

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« Reply #4522 on: December 28, 2017, 09:54:36 AM »
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« Reply #4523 on: December 28, 2017, 12:11:33 PM »
Today's MPP: Over the last ~18 months, we have accumulated enough credit card reward points (ie, Chase UR, hotel points, etc) that it exceeds 1% of our net worth and really should be included in doing my annual calculation. But that's more work, and we will blow it on free travel instead of actually cashing it out.

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« Reply #4524 on: December 28, 2017, 01:15:51 PM »
People keep buying me drinks when I go out with groups (eg. coworker today at pub) and I never ever pay them back because they dive in to buy the first round every time and all I want is a single Diet Coke and I'm good for the whole night, while they get through several beers. They don't seem to mind (obviously I'm a cheap date!), but I find it very awkward. I'd rather just buy my own drinks but insisting would be even more awkward.

Familiar one. I'm not unwilling to pay someone a drink, but they just always seem to want them sooner/more frequently than  me.

I was at dinner last night with my wife's friends (couple) and her dad. Bill came and I said something along the lines like just split 3 ways (with my card in hand)? It was basically even with the exception of my wife's dad who would've paid a little extra, but he wouldn't of cared. The other guy made a big deal saying it was his treat because he was staying with us. (He made the same show at breakfast when we stayed with him last fall because we were the guests).

 Like how am I supposed to react in that situation? There was no reason for him to pay the bill and it was all for attention showing what a great guy he is. He wanted a little resistance and he would do the awkward thing where he would quickly shove it to the waittress when we would object (this happened the previous time). Just don't like the feeling I owe him something or throwing money around.

I really hate that too. I have a couple of (incidentally, all male) friends (I'm female) who do this all the time up to the point where I now sometimes hesitate to meet up with them outside the home. It just feels extremely awkward. We are all in long-term relationships / married, so there are no expectations of something else on either side. They just seem to have this deep rooted feeling that they shouldn't let a woman pay. Sometimes they'll say "oh, I'll let you know how much you owe me when I get home" and then they never do. I'll remind them, but I do feel awkward sending a dozen reminders.

Right now I owe a friend about Ä25. I know it's not a lot of money and he has a good income, but still, to me it feels different than owing someone a drink or a coffee. We bought a friend a gift for a his birthday. We decided on the gift together (it's a practical item that the friend really needed at that point) but as he has a car and I don't, he was the one who went to buy it. It's been 6 weeks since the birthday and he still hasn't let me know how much I owe him / his bank account details so I can transfer the money. I sent him a reminder and he replied with something vague like 'oh, i'll check that out later'.

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« Reply #4525 on: December 28, 2017, 01:29:12 PM »
People keep buying me drinks when I go out with groups (eg. coworker today at pub) and I never ever pay them back because they dive in to buy the first round every time and all I want is a single Diet Coke and I'm good for the whole night, while they get through several beers. They don't seem to mind (obviously I'm a cheap date!), but I find it very awkward. I'd rather just buy my own drinks but insisting would be even more awkward.

Familiar one. I'm not unwilling to pay someone a drink, but they just always seem to want them sooner/more frequently than  me.

I was at dinner last night with my wife's friends (couple) and her dad. Bill came and I said something along the lines like just split 3 ways (with my card in hand)? It was basically even with the exception of my wife's dad who would've paid a little extra, but he wouldn't of cared. The other guy made a big deal saying it was his treat because he was staying with us. (He made the same show at breakfast when we stayed with him last fall because we were the guests).

 Like how am I supposed to react in that situation? There was no reason for him to pay the bill and it was all for attention showing what a great guy he is. He wanted a little resistance and he would do the awkward thing where he would quickly shove it to the waittress when we would object (this happened the previous time). Just don't like the feeling I owe him something or throwing money around.

I really hate that too. I have a couple of (incidentally, all male) friends (I'm female) who do this all the time up to the point where I now sometimes hesitate to meet up with them outside the home. It just feels extremely awkward. We are all in long-term relationships / married, so there are no expectations of something else on either side. They just seem to have this deep rooted feeling that they shouldn't let a woman pay. Sometimes they'll say "oh, I'll let you know how much you owe me when I get home" and then they never do. I'll remind them, but I do feel awkward sending a dozen reminders.

Right now I owe a friend about Ä25. I know it's not a lot of money and he has a good income, but still, to me it feels different than owing someone a drink or a coffee. We bought a friend a gift for a his birthday. We decided on the gift together (it's a practical item that the friend really needed at that point) but as he has a car and I don't, he was the one who went to buy it. It's been 6 weeks since the birthday and he still hasn't let me know how much I owe him / his bank account details so I can transfer the money. I sent him a reminder and he replied with something vague like 'oh, i'll check that out later'.

There are people who feel successful and powerful because they pay for other people's meals and drinks. I don't get it.

Personally, as an extremely independent woman, I have a problem with that because dammit, you're not in charge of me and hell no I am not going to "owe" anyone anything. I can pay my own way.... And then they get all offended and don't know how to deal with me. When it's really quite simple - treat me as an equal. But they seem incapable of doing that.

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« Reply #4526 on: December 28, 2017, 04:02:17 PM »
My "problem."

DH built me a new excel to account for our 2018 spending. It is a HUGE upgrade from all previous excels.  It has all the drop downs I want with graphs and categories etc etc.  Very exciting!!!!! 2018 we are really dialing in our spending to match our retirement numbers to see if they are feasible. 

The excel went though its last testing at the beginning of December and I really want to start using it, but need to wait until Jan. 1st to move the remnants of 2017 into it and get it running for 2018.  So excited.  And so few understanding how exciting it is!  Tracking the end of November and December in the old excel is like driving a very old, sad, backfiring car while a nice (used) car is waiting for you in the driveway.

SOON!

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« Reply #4527 on: December 28, 2017, 09:54:01 PM »
Here's mine: having to shuffle funds around a bit in order to free up cash to pre-pay our property taxes for next year, so we can maximize our deductions for 2017.

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« Reply #4528 on: December 29, 2017, 03:23:25 AM »
People keep buying me drinks when I go out with groups (eg. coworker today at pub) and I never ever pay them back because they dive in to buy the first round every time and all I want is a single Diet Coke and I'm good for the whole night, while they get through several beers. They don't seem to mind (obviously I'm a cheap date!), but I find it very awkward. I'd rather just buy my own drinks but insisting would be even more awkward.

Familiar one. I'm not unwilling to pay someone a drink, but they just always seem to want them sooner/more frequently than  me.

I was at dinner last night with my wife's friends (couple) and her dad. Bill came and I said something along the lines like just split 3 ways (with my card in hand)? It was basically even with the exception of my wife's dad who would've paid a little extra, but he wouldn't of cared. The other guy made a big deal saying it was his treat because he was staying with us. (He made the same show at breakfast when we stayed with him last fall because we were the guests).

 Like how am I supposed to react in that situation? There was no reason for him to pay the bill and it was all for attention showing what a great guy he is. He wanted a little resistance and he would do the awkward thing where he would quickly shove it to the waittress when we would object (this happened the previous time). Just don't like the feeling I owe him something or throwing money around.

I really hate that too. I have a couple of (incidentally, all male) friends (I'm female) who do this all the time up to the point where I now sometimes hesitate to meet up with them outside the home. It just feels extremely awkward. We are all in long-term relationships / married, so there are no expectations of something else on either side. They just seem to have this deep rooted feeling that they shouldn't let a woman pay. Sometimes they'll say "oh, I'll let you know how much you owe me when I get home" and then they never do. I'll remind them, but I do feel awkward sending a dozen reminders.

Right now I owe a friend about Ä25. I know it's not a lot of money and he has a good income, but still, to me it feels different than owing someone a drink or a coffee. We bought a friend a gift for a his birthday. We decided on the gift together (it's a practical item that the friend really needed at that point) but as he has a car and I don't, he was the one who went to buy it. It's been 6 weeks since the birthday and he still hasn't let me know how much I owe him / his bank account details so I can transfer the money. I sent him a reminder and he replied with something vague like 'oh, i'll check that out later'.

There are people who feel successful and powerful because they pay for other people's meals and drinks. I don't get it.

Personally, as an extremely independent woman, I have a problem with that because dammit, you're not in charge of me and hell no I am not going to "owe" anyone anything. I can pay my own way.... And then they get all offended and don't know how to deal with me. When it's really quite simple - treat me as an equal. But they seem incapable of doing that.

In the case of the birthday present, I would consider giving them a date. "Hey [friend], I still owe you money for [present]. I know you said you'd check the amount and send me your details but I haven't heard from you. If I'm going to pay you back I need to know by [date], or we'll have to let this one go forever!" Then if they haven't let you know by the date, they had their chance and you can obliterate it from your mental register. I'm a hardass about the owing of actual money (both ways!) as opposed to drinks or dinner.

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« Reply #4529 on: December 29, 2017, 04:00:39 AM »
Here's mine: having to shuffle funds around a bit in order to free up cash to pre-pay our property taxes for next year, so we can maximize our deductions for 2017.

+1. I’ve had to do the exact same thing. When I asked a friend who lives in the same town if he was going to prepay, he said, “Why wouldn’t you just take that as next year’s deduction?”’ We have similar incomes,’so like us he’s going to be hurt by the SALT limit, but he wasn’t even aware of the fact the governor had passed emergency legislation so people could do just that.


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« Reply #4530 on: December 29, 2017, 07:44:26 AM »

In the case of the birthday present, I would consider giving them a date. "Hey [friend], I still owe you money for [present]. I know you said you'd check the amount and send me your details but I haven't heard from you. If I'm going to pay you back I need to know by [date], or we'll have to let this one go forever!" Then if they haven't let you know by the date, they had their chance and you can obliterate it from your mental register. I'm a hardass about the owing of actual money (both ways!) as opposed to drinks or dinner.

I would be more likely to say "... If I'm going to pay you back the exact amount I need to know by [date], or I'm just sending $25 and we'll be done with it"

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« Reply #4531 on: December 29, 2017, 08:58:18 AM »

In the case of the birthday present, I would consider giving them a date. "Hey [friend], I still owe you money for [present]. I know you said you'd check the amount and send me your details but I haven't heard from you. If I'm going to pay you back I need to know by [date], or we'll have to let this one go forever!" Then if they haven't let you know by the date, they had their chance and you can obliterate it from your mental register. I'm a hardass about the owing of actual money (both ways!) as opposed to drinks or dinner.

I would be more likely to say "... If I'm going to pay you back the exact amount I need to know by [date], or I'm just sending $25 and we'll be done with it"

Another excellent option, but relies on you having been given their bank details. Though I suppose you could give or post cash.

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« Reply #4532 on: December 29, 2017, 03:26:39 PM »

In the case of the birthday present, I would consider giving them a date. "Hey [friend], I still owe you money for [present]. I know you said you'd check the amount and send me your details but I haven't heard from you. If I'm going to pay you back I need to know by [date], or we'll have to let this one go forever!" Then if they haven't let you know by the date, they had their chance and you can obliterate it from your mental register. I'm a hardass about the owing of actual money (both ways!) as opposed to drinks or dinner.

I would be more likely to say "... If I'm going to pay you back the exact amount I need to know by [date], or I'm just sending $25 and we'll be done with it"

Another excellent option, but relies on you having been given their bank details. Though I suppose you could give or post cash.

No bank details needed if your bank can send money via Zelle. If so, you only need the recipient's cell# or email address.

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« Reply #4533 on: December 29, 2017, 03:32:14 PM »
I spent all year tracking all of our medical expenses and entering them into a spread sheet so come tax time I could easily summarize and deduct them.  Due to higher than expected income, and the unexpected sale of a rental property (resulting in about $65k LTGC), we are unable to deduct any of our medical expenses anyway.   72 rows of data complete with mileage and notes for no reason.

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« Reply #4534 on: December 30, 2017, 09:09:34 AM »
I spent all year tracking all of our medical expenses and entering them into a spread sheet so come tax time I could easily summarize and deduct them.  Due to higher than expected income, and the unexpected sale of a rental property (resulting in about $65k LTGC), we are unable to deduct any of our medical expenses anyway.   72 rows of data complete with mileage and notes for no reason.

Do you have a HSA account? If so, that spreadsheet is very useful anyway for tracking reimbursable expenses for future HSA withdrawals.


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« Reply #4535 on: December 30, 2017, 05:39:32 PM »
I spent all year tracking all of our medical expenses and entering them into a spread sheet so come tax time I could easily summarize and deduct them.  Due to higher than expected income, and the unexpected sale of a rental property (resulting in about $65k LTGC), we are unable to deduct any of our medical expenses anyway.   72 rows of data complete with mileage and notes for no reason.

Do you have a HSA account? If so, that spreadsheet is very useful anyway for tracking reimbursable expenses for future HSA withdrawals.

Not for 2017 we don't.  We will starting in 2018.

I don't play to use money from the HSA and will just pay out of pocket and keep the HSA as an IRA account. 

Am I allowed to pay for 2017 expenses from an HSA that didn't start until 2018?

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« Reply #4536 on: December 30, 2017, 06:15:35 PM »
I spent all year tracking all of our medical expenses and entering them into a spread sheet so come tax time I could easily summarize and deduct them.  Due to higher than expected income, and the unexpected sale of a rental property (resulting in about $65k LTGC), we are unable to deduct any of our medical expenses anyway.   72 rows of data complete with mileage and notes for no reason.

Do you have a HSA account? If so, that spreadsheet is very useful anyway for tracking reimbursable expenses for future HSA withdrawals.

Not for 2017 we don't.  We will starting in 2018.

I don't play to use money from the HSA and will just pay out of pocket and keep the HSA as an IRA account. 

Am I allowed to pay for 2017 expenses from an HSA that didn't start until 2018?

Unfortunately, no :(

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« Reply #4537 on: December 31, 2017, 07:55:06 PM »
Today's MPP:

I have gotten into the habit of updating my net worth tracker approximately 1 week into the month. Didn't actually think about this in context of new year's, and now if I do it early then it'll be slightly wacky as compared to the rest of the data. Guess I'll have to wait a week.

In other MPPs, I just switched jobs. Am in the process of rolling over my 401k from previous job into my Vanguard account, which will make everything much easier for tracking. Except that there's a 1 month hold period before the rollover can actually happen, so it'll be about 2 weeks still. My next net worth update will still involve manually going to the website and typing in the numbers, since I can't link it to Quicken.

And Friday was the first paydate for new job. I had set up direct deposit for 2 accounts. One is a savings account, the other my checking. The money hit the savings account (Ally) Friday. Finally showed up today as pending at Chase. I really hope this goes a little faster in future, because I do my banking over the weekend and it would really suck if my paycheck was stuck in processing over the weekend all the time. Just makes it messy.

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« Reply #4538 on: January 01, 2018, 11:50:50 AM »
I have a handful of REIT stocks, many of them go ex dividend the 28th and 29th of this month.
The stock price usually drops about the same amount as the dividend, but I don't get the dividend until the middle of next month.

My MPP, I'm eagerly looking forward to my a NW calculation on 12-31-17, but the prices of my REITs dropped on ex dividend day and my account won't be credited with the dividend until next month. It's about $7,500 that won't show up.
 For my written record it won't be recorded, for my gratification, I'll mentaly add it in.

I feel this one, but FWIW I would definitely add it back in as an accrued asset to boost my 2017 numbers.  At this point itís kinda silly to worry about a few hundred/thousand in my spreadsheet since Iím already FIRE but I just canít help myself.  For example, mortgage payment is deducted every month from main account at the end of the month but it isnít technically paid until the 1st.  So even though my NW drops the same amount each month, I consider it happened on the 1st for spreadsheet purposes even though I lose access to the cash a few days earlier

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« Reply #4539 on: January 01, 2018, 11:52:31 AM »
Here's mine: having to shuffle funds around a bit in order to free up cash to pre-pay our property taxes for next year, so we can maximize our deductions for 2017.

+1. Iíve had to do the exact same thing. When I asked a friend who lives in the same town if he was going to prepay, he said, ďWhy wouldnít you just take that as next yearís deduction?Ēí We have similar incomes,íso like us heís going to be hurt by the SALT limit, but he wasnít even aware of the fact the governor had passed emergency legislation so people could do just that.


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Luckily I put mine on a CC to meet minimum spend so thatís a problem for ďnext year meĒ.  2017 me is a real jerk though

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« Reply #4540 on: January 02, 2018, 06:59:04 PM »
Finally made through all these posts! During the journey I had my own MPP -- I got the following in the mail:



They are about 23 years too early sending me this, though, as I'm 32 XD

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« Reply #4541 on: January 03, 2018, 12:27:41 AM »
The Dutch train company has changed their policy for group tickets, which makes it A LOT harder to use them (before you didn't have to take the same train, so you could just group up with strangers on the same trajectory, now you have to). Now I found a deal with 11 euro one way tickets, opposed to the 7 euro tickets I'm used to. Big drama, spending 8 more euros each time I visit my hometown :').

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« Reply #4542 on: January 03, 2018, 05:17:10 AM »
Having to reclassify my recent uses of Uber eats as Business Miscellaneous on my spending tracking site.  Actually having to do it for use at a restaurant or grocery store on any business trip. 

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« Reply #4543 on: January 03, 2018, 11:56:37 AM »
Couldn't get my SIM card out of my iPhone (switching to another, cheaper SIM-only contract) because we don't have any paperclips in the house because we never bought them "just cuz that's what you do" and have never actually needed a single paperclip. Turns out we've never received anything paperclipped either! Tried many many different implements and eventually managed it with a stitch ripper, but not until after much swearing.

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« Reply #4544 on: January 03, 2018, 12:45:58 PM »
Couldn't get my SIM card out of my iPhone (switching to another, cheaper SIM-only contract) because we don't have any paperclips in the house because we never bought them "just cuz that's what you do" and have never actually needed a single paperclip. Turns out we've never received anything paperclipped either! Tried many many different implements and eventually managed it with a stitch ripper, but not until after much swearing.

Iíve used a hair pin and a thumb tack. If you still have the box there is a special tool included in the papers.

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« Reply #4545 on: January 03, 2018, 02:48:41 PM »
Between having a toenail removed the week before Christmas, traveling to my parents for four days and catching this year's plague being passed around by the kids,  I almost forgot to increase my 401k for the new max limit.  I got my update in just under the wire for the first January paycheck.  Sheesh, that $500 had me in a bit of a panic for a little bit. 

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« Reply #4546 on: January 04, 2018, 02:03:35 AM »
Couldn't get my SIM card out of my iPhone (switching to another, cheaper SIM-only contract) because we don't have any paperclips in the house because we never bought them "just cuz that's what you do" and have never actually needed a single paperclip. Turns out we've never received anything paperclipped either! Tried many many different implements and eventually managed it with a stitch ripper, but not until after much swearing.

Iíve used a hair pin and a thumb tack. If you still have the box there is a special tool included in the papers.

Further MPP: we don't own any drawing pins (thumb tacks) because we don't own a corkboard and we both have short wash-n-go haircuts so no hairpins required either! All these "life essentials" we have never needed! A millionaire is made one paper clip at a time!

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« Reply #4547 on: January 04, 2018, 04:00:45 AM »
Further MPP: we don't own any drawing pins (thumb tacks) because we don't own a corkboard and we both have short wash-n-go haircuts so no hairpins required either! All these "life essentials" we have never needed! A millionaire is made one paper clip at a time!

Hah!  The struggle is real!

I had a paper clip dilemma this summer when I needed to mail a huge assortment of documents for a Visa application.  They canít be stapled but they needed to be organized somehow!  I was not going to buy a box of hundreds of paper clips just to use 5!  So I sorted through all my filing (one small bin...) and found enough to make it work. 

Hair pins has been another dilemma recently! When I was exiting my teenage years I realized that I had odd piles of hair accessories that I was really careless with because they came in large quantities.  I put away the excess and just kept a reasonable portion out for daily use.  Iím only now coming to the end of that stock pile of elastics and pins. For the past several years Iíve kept long hair and wear it up. Right before I left the States on my current adventure I lost my 10 year old wooden hair stick.  I searched everywhere.  Gone.  So I was using my dwindling assortment of metal pins (only one of which is narrow enough to remove an iPhone SIM card).  I was down to 6, I had to add in one of the last elastics (the elastics wear out quickly now because of age). I was checking all the shops but couldnít find any bobby pins, just wide hair pins! Then I had an aggressive massage therapist/chiropractic appointment.  Down to 4 pins! Then I found bobby pins for $5 for 8!!  What?  8 was enough, but I couldnít spend $5 on them! I just couldnít believe they were that difficult to find or that expensive.  This week, quite by accident, in a store I look at thoroughly before, I found a packet of 20 bobby-pins for about $1.  Hopefully I wonít need any for another 15 years or so.

TL/DR:  Hair pins have been ridiculously hard to find and surprisingly expensive.

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« Reply #4548 on: January 04, 2018, 10:00:27 AM »
Dang, I think DH threw out the pin tool that came with the new phone...

MPP: You can only do so many "clear out the pantry" challenges. More often than not, you just have to go grocery shopping.

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« Reply #4549 on: January 04, 2018, 11:14:36 AM »
I have straightened a staple and used that to remove a SIM.