In 18 months, I can either continue to work, leave my job altogether, or go part time. My household will not be FI as my leaving my job is dependent upon my husband continuing to work.
The facts:
1. Our house will be paid off (I know, there are people smacking their heads right now, but we never owed very much on the house, anyway)
2. There will be more than enough in retirement accounts to just allow them to sit and grow until my husband quits working in 20-30 years (he's 32)
3. I make over $100k/year
4. My husband makes $50k/year today, but he becomes self-employed on Monday (he will be farming and driving a semi truck locally)
5. We have net rental income of about $18k/year
6. With the removal of day care costs and mortgage payments, our expenses would be $40k. I can get them much lower as we have a lot of fluff due to eating out and attending expensive events
7. The meat that we consume is nearly free: we raise our own beef and have friends who raise hogs
Obviously, I'm burnt out. I work a ton of hours at my paying job and do all of the house work and most of the child care. I pay the bills, do the grocery shopping, budgeting, appointment-making, managing the rental (6 unit property), etc. If it's not outside, my husband doesn't do it.
My husband has no desire to quit working. He loves farming, and he enjoys driving a semi truck. He also can't imagine that I will actually pull the trigger and leave such a high paying job, and I fear that he will resent me if I do. He's never felt the pressure of supporting our family. In fact, my income and steady state of employment has allowed him to quit multiple jobs due to burn out, annoyance with management, etc.
Has anyone faced anything similar? Does anyone have any advice? If I work 8 more years, we are probably completely FI. If I work for 2 more years, the children's education funds are probably fully funded; however, we can continue to put money into them each month at $40k of expenses so saving won't stop if I quit my job.