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ambimammular

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Anyone caught off guard? Storytime
« on: June 16, 2019, 02:15:57 PM »

For every "A" kids can get a free movie/game rental at our local video store (still a thing!?) When we went in, the woman behind the counter encouraged us to check out all our remaining free movie because today is the last day they are renting out. They're liquidating the day after. She told us there's a good chance we could buy kid games for a song.

I asked if she had plans for when they closed. She told me she only found out last night. They said she can keep her job, if she's willing to commute to the town 40 min. away. My heart went out to her.

On the walk home I kept thinking how fortunate our family was to have a secure job and FU money. I'm imprudent enough to think we are now at the place in our lives where, short of a major medical disaster, we can handle any financial problem.

Anyone have a story of being close to the finish line, only to have everything fall apart? Scare some sense into me.





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Re: Anyone caught off guard? Storytime
« Reply #1 on: June 16, 2019, 06:34:01 PM »
My husband and I had a near perfect life.  We had a beautiful infant married over 10 years.  He had a crazy good job.  We had a successful business and we had just almost enough money to retire.  My parents were divorced but both in a good place with money.  His parents were dead. 

Daughter had a seizure.  She is fine.  Husband started having an affair the same week.  He completely fell off the rails. Fast forward a couple years were are divorced. My father died from a medical mistake--whole crazy story.  My ex husband hired his mistress which was a career ending move.  The business was liquidated.  I am just getting back into the corporate world and my ex can only find part-time work despite 4 graduate degrees (highly employable ones).

He blew a tremendous amount of the money we had saved.  What I was able to retain is now the starting point.  I should be at the finish.  I'm not in a bad place--but it's humbling when I think that if things had stayed on track I'd be done. Oh and dating as an adult, kinda sucks....

Best part is the kid is awesome and lives with me.


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Re: Anyone caught off guard? Storytime
« Reply #2 on: June 17, 2019, 03:54:31 AM »
My husband and I had a near perfect life.  We had a beautiful infant married over 10 years.  He had a crazy good job.  We had a successful business and we had just almost enough money to retire.  My parents were divorced but both in a good place with money.  His parents were dead. 

Daughter had a seizure.  She is fine.  Husband started having an affair the same week.  He completely fell off the rails. Fast forward a couple years were are divorced. My father died from a medical mistake--whole crazy story.  My ex husband hired his mistress which was a career ending move.  The business was liquidated.  I am just getting back into the corporate world and my ex can only find part-time work despite 4 graduate degrees (highly employable ones).

He blew a tremendous amount of the money we had saved.  What I was able to retain is now the starting point.  I should be at the finish.  I'm not in a bad place--but it's humbling when I think that if things had stayed on track I'd be done. Oh and dating as an adult, kinda sucks....

Best part is the kid is awesome and lives with me.

That is horrendous @frugalmom

Good on you for putting your life back together. Hope the good fortune returns for you soon.

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Re: Anyone caught off guard? Storytime
« Reply #3 on: June 17, 2019, 04:20:50 PM »
We had a major earthquake here that destroyed the city. People lost businesses, family members and homes in the space of 10 minutes. Some people are still fighting insurance companies eight years later. Some people are still repaying debt incurred moving their business to a new site. Some people are still paying a second mortgage on a house that's uninhabitable. Some people are still dealing with the emotional fallout - anxious children, PTSD, broken marriages, grief etc. It's not an unusual story in Christchurch, NZ.

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Re: Anyone caught off guard? Storytime
« Reply #4 on: June 17, 2019, 07:46:48 PM »
I've told our story in one way or another in a few threads here, we had a Cat 5 hurricane come through Panama city Florida 8 months ago.
So many homes damaged or destroyed, https://www.apnews.com/2cc6e4ecee694763991f6310fa87569b.
We had about 50 tents at a church just 3/4 mile from my house, for months. It became a real problem and eventually it was closed down.

 My wife and I are very lucky, we had $98,000 worth of damage, but we could live in our home.
We had two vehicles trapped in our garage by a collapsed wall and debris for 4 weeks, we are lucky, we had a third vehicle.
Our mom and pop family business and source of income was destroyed, but we are lucky after 38 years of marriage we are FI.
We are lucky our insurance company was very helpful and let the money flow as needed.
We are lucky we had no mortgage, so the mortgage company wasn't in the middle holding up payments, so many in my subdivision are being pinched by their insurance companies.
  So even though it was physically exhausting and I lost about 14 lbs, during clean up and rebuilding, we didn't have any financial stress.
We are lucky none of the problems we had couldn't be handle with time or money. One potential threat was, both of our hospitals were severally damaged, some of us older guys were worried about having a heart problem and needing to by helicoptered out 50 miles to another city.
 Because of all the additional construction workers in town, it was 4 hours driving that 50 miles. I once drove 2.1 miles in 1 hr 6 minutes.
Many Helicopters were flying over head everyday taking patients from our hospitals to out of town hospitals.
 50% of the section 8 housing was condemned not long after the hurricane and then more later on, I have no clue where the people went.
 Maybe not the story you were looking for, but having savings made this ordeal so much easier to weather.
  You said it, "short of a major medical disaster, we can handle any financial problem" 
That's how it worked out. We are lucky! We also did a lot right in our financial journey.
 



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Re: Anyone caught off guard? Storytime
« Reply #5 on: June 24, 2019, 12:07:10 PM »

 My wife and I are very lucky.......

Agreed. Glad you are well. Hurricane Florence flooded a place I have in the Carolinas. Like you, we're lucky. Didn't live there, had flood insurance, and found a builder who is not as fast as we'd like, but is moving things along.

And I'm also lucky to be finding things out. I told the builder 'hey, I'm making payments every month here!' and he said "your insurance should be paying you the rent you lost." Cha-ching! $$$$$$$