I put this in Welcome & General Discussion rather than Mini Money Mustaches because it's really about making frugal friends rather than about making parent friends, although parents with similar-aged children would be ideal.
TL;DR: Moved to a new area, finding it hard to make friends who are free during the day sometimes but don't want to do activities that involve spending money.
We moved to a new area a few months ago, partly choosing here because we have one pair of good couple friends who live here. It's been great living so close - they come for dinner (we alternate who cooks but it's always at ours because toddler bedtime), we play board games, we text for spontaneous hangouts. They work full time but slightly odd schedules so are sometime available during the day during the week. #livingthedream
London is BIG and we don't drive, so it's hard to see our other friends when we have to organise ourselves around a toddler. It's mean to always haul them 1h-1h30 over to ours, but it's expensive to meet in the middle for dinner and we have to do it individually because we don't want to get a babysitter (expensive and I think it would freak ToddlerSLTD out). I would like to make just a few more local friends who are compatible with having a toddler and a frugal lifestyle - happy to hang out at our houses, free during the day, tolerant of children (ToddlerSLTD is pretty quiet and chill as far as toddlers go, so I'm happy taking him to other people's houses without worrying that he'll break stuff).
I've made local parent friend at the park and he's cool but he keeps suggesting we go out to do stuff that involves spending money. We can meet at the park, but as autumn's arriving we need an option for rainy days as well. I'm really happy to have them over to ours, but I don't feel like I can insist! And I think maybe he finds it stressful to supervise his two active girls in someone else's differently-babyproofed house (e.g. all our plug sockets are just hanging out because ToddlerSLTD has zero interest in them, but his little one went straight for them!). I'm OK chatting to people at stuff, but find it hard to get over the 'hump' of making actual friends.
To compound the problem, I'm pregnant and tired, and my energy for new activities is only going to get lower as I get more pregnanter (sic) and actually having a newborn. I work part time from home but am winding that up at the end of this year for a while, so I'm going to want to have friends more at the same time as being less able to make the effort.
I know that's kind of long and complicated but... help?