Cloth diapers requires an initial outlay she may not have
Just for curiosity I googled Walmart cloth diapers. She could buy 20 cloth diapers for less than one pack of disposables. If she used the money she saved doing that to wash them one time she would break even.
First, 20 diapers isn't really enough, even if you have a washer/dryer in your own home. Second, people who are living hand-to-mouth usually don't think long-term like this. Evidence: If this family was thinking ahead, they wouldn't be buying diapers of any type.
I admire her for taking care of the grandchild and buying the diapers.
I don't disagree, but I would admire her more if she'd raised her own children to be a little more responsible. You know, to use birth control, find jobs, provide for their own children.
Whether or not he ends up being a skeezebag that you don't want anywhere near your kid, it's the male point of view which pisses me off completely.
Thing is, all too many people -- mostly the poorest and most vulnerable in our society -- have decided to let men off the hook for the children they create in a moment's passion. The girl writes "unknown" on the birth certificate (I'd die of shame to write that), and she gets welfare while the guy isn't persecuted by DSS. Everyone involved allows this to happen because "everyone does it" and it seems like a victimless crime. But the reality is that the guy is walking away scot free, while the girl is given an 18-year sentence raising the child alone, and the taxpayers are footing the bill.
So, yeah, I agree with you that the male point of view is beyond contemptable.
What I don't understand is why the girls agree to have sex with these guys! I mean, they see their older sisters and friends bearing the burden of one evening's pleasure . . . yet they willingly put themselves into the same situation.
The very fact that you cannot get a good quote shows you how much responsibility is put on women.
Blame Biology. If an unintended pregnancy occurs, no matter what choice she makes, the woman will bear the brunt of the consequences. You can rant and rail about unfairness all day long, but a smart woman will take care of her own body instead of worrying about whose responsibility
it should be. Let's face it; if a man is not careful with casual sex, he could have kids that he never knows about, and never pays a dime for if mom can't track him down.
If a woman is not careful with casual sex, she has to deal with it (one way or another) regardless of if there's a dad in the picture or not.
Which is exactly why we need unrestricted access to abortions.
[/quote]I'd say it's why people who choose to have casual sex should be uber-careful with birth control. And the reasoning doesn't stop with concerns about unintended children.
Ummm, I do. Dip, rinse, scrub, dip, rinse. hang to dry. LOST ART? Wow. How difficult.
It actually is pretty difficult physically -- your hands end up red and raw from the wringing, and it isn't nearly as good as using a washing machine. Keeping up with the quantity of wash necessary for a baby in diapers would take hours every week (yeah, the 21 and 24 year old could do that, but we all know they won't). And that's even if you skip the super-icky poop factor.
We do need legit sex ed. We also need to teach PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY to both sexes. And evidently our educational system no longer teaches the basic laws of cause and effect.
I think kids KNOW what they're supposed to do -- what we need to do is ENFORCE doing the right thing. Of course, that's not exactly our greatest strength as a society.