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southern granny

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I buried my sister today
« on: August 09, 2014, 03:34:56 PM »
My sister died Wednesday night.  She was only 52.  She had no insurance, no assets.  She has been disabled for many years.  I paid for her funeral expenses (cremation and urn internment).  I also paid some lodging and transportation costs for her children.  I hosted an after funeral dinner.  The total cost was around $5000.  I feel very blessed that our lifestyle of saving and careful spending allowed me to do that.  I expected that it would all be on me whenever the time came so I budgeted for that like we budget for every large expense.   With all the other emotional and physical stress, it was nice to walk into the funeral home, make the arrangements and write a check for the full amount.  I am blessed.

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Re: I buried my sister today
« Reply #1 on: August 09, 2014, 03:42:06 PM »
So sorry for your loss, frugal confederate. Sadly, not all of the freedoms provided by financial responsibility are happy ones. I'm glad that doing this for your sister and her children will not break you.

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Re: I buried my sister today
« Reply #2 on: August 09, 2014, 03:42:42 PM »
My sister died Wednesday night.  She was only 52.  She had no insurance, no assets.  She has been disabled for many years.  I paid for her funeral expenses (cremation and urn internment).  I also paid some lodging and transportation costs for her children.  I hosted an after funeral dinner.  The total cost was around $5000.  I feel very blessed that our lifestyle of saving and careful spending allowed me to do that.  I expected that it would all be on me whenever the time came so I budgeted for that like we budget for every large expense.   With all the other emotional and physical stress, it was nice to walk into the funeral home, make the arrangements and write a check for the full amount.  I am blessed.

I'm really sorry to hear that. It's nice to hear that you were able to take up some of the financial responsibilities which will have no doubt made such a big impact on the day for your family going through the grief.

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Re: I buried my sister today
« Reply #3 on: August 09, 2014, 04:30:31 PM »
I'm very sorry for your loss. It sounds like you are grateful that while the emotional strain is huge for the loss of your sister, financial stress hasn't exacerbated the emotional strain.

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Re: I buried my sister today
« Reply #4 on: August 09, 2014, 08:01:39 PM »
  i went through a similar situation with my dad a few months ago. i was able to take off from work for 3 months so i could give him everything i could. to me that was priceless. all the years of watching every dollar paid off a hundred times.
  people say money isnt everything but i disagree. illnesses and unforseen tragedies we cant control are always going to pop up from time to time. money however is one thing we can control. it takes a lot of effort and time to build enough that can make a difference in your life but when you do at some point it will be everything. 
   i hope your hanging in. its a painful time filled with many different emotions but be proud of yourself. what you did was a great tribute to your sister and a testament to what you yourself have become. so hold your head up high, keep the cherished memories fresh in your mind but keep moving forward. i wish you strength and luck.

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« Reply #5 on: August 09, 2014, 08:37:12 PM »
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I feel your pain. I'm glad you were able to turn it into a positive.

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Re: I buried my sister today
« Reply #6 on: August 10, 2014, 06:53:08 AM »
So sorry for your loss. So nice you were able to help her children out in this situation.

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« Reply #7 on: August 10, 2014, 07:17:39 AM »
I am sorry for your loss.

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Re: I buried my sister today
« Reply #8 on: August 10, 2014, 07:32:14 AM »
So sorry for your loss. It sounds like you're quite the family man, and I have a tremendous amount of respect or that. God bless.

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Re: I buried my sister today
« Reply #9 on: August 10, 2014, 07:33:09 AM »
So sorry for your loss. One good thing about the MMM lifestyle is that it puts us in a position to be able to help our families when a genuine need arises.

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Re: I buried my sister today
« Reply #10 on: August 10, 2014, 10:36:48 AM »
Thanks to everyone for your kind messages.

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Re: I buried my sister today
« Reply #11 on: August 10, 2014, 06:08:50 PM »
Sorry for your loss and glad to hear you could be there to support your family when you were needed. 

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Re: I buried my sister today
« Reply #12 on: August 10, 2014, 06:26:01 PM »
So sorry for your loss, frugal confederate. Sadly, not all of the freedoms provided by financial responsibility are happy ones.

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Re: I buried my sister today
« Reply #13 on: August 10, 2014, 06:59:04 PM »
This was a very loving thing for you to do for your family. It was thoughtful of you to plan for this, sadly, likely scenario. I am sorry for your loss, but happy that your planning at least eased some of the anxiety and stress for you and your family. $5K is nothing compared to the love and support you provided.