My story isn't unique or special so I'll spare you the long and wordy post.
- 35 y/o man. Married 10 years. One child, six y/o son. No other children planned.
- $158k a year gross household income. This hasn't always been the case. When we got married, our gross was $56k a year. It has gone up substantially in the past 4 years. We got married with no money to our name.
- We both work 40 hours a week with excellent benefits. We both work for a wealthy, established companies that offer the comfortable illusion of job security and upward mobility.
- We live in Lexington, SC. Cost of living is extremely low. My mortgage on a 2200sq ft. house in a nice neighborhood (HOA, pool, etc) with great schools is $1k a month. House was $175k, 30 year fixed, 4.x% interest rate. No HELOCs etc. Owe $157k.
- $120k saved between 401k, 529, investments, and cash. $10kish in assets that I could easily dispose of for cash. Professional grade DSLR equipment, firearms, automotive tools, aquarium setups, etc etc.
- $34k in credit card debt
- $36k owned on two vehicles.
- 735 credit score.
- Our family is in good physical condition and health.
Life is easy. We bring home ~$8300 a month, pay all of our bills on time, don't care when gas prices go up, go on vacation and mini trips several times a year, etc.
I'm also bored. Is this it? We service our debt, send our son to college, retire in our 60s, and then watch our bodies age and our time on earth dwindle.
I am not convinced that the answer to my boredom is to sell our cars, ride a bicycle, and save every dime I can. But, on the other hand, why the hell not?
Now that I have typed more than I meant to, has anyone else been in a similar situation? What was the tipping point for making a change? Do you ever regret it? How has your life improved since?
Welcome to the forums, Average Joe!
I think you are in a great position to transform your financial life into whatever you desire for it to be! Yes, $34K of CC debt and a clown car habit are nothing to sneeze at, but with a few minor tweaks you will solve those problems in no time (if you want to).
A few questions to consider about quality of life:
1. Do you or your wife have any passions/desires outside of work that you really enjoy?
2. Are you guys the type that might "need" work for the structure, social life, etc?
3. Are you able to spend ample time with your son or would you both want more of that?
4. What do you mean by "bored?" What would make you "not bored?" I've worked enough jobs before I came into my current profession to understand that work is just work sometimes. Most people in this world WILL NEVER BE PASSIONATE about their work, and there is nothing at all wrong with that. In my social circle, maybe 5% of the people are "passionate" about their work. YMMV, but my point is that it is fine to not love your job. Join the crowd...
5. If you have many personal hobbies and interests and work is a slow, boring grind, I think that is the biggest motivation for FIRE. Or at least have enough FU money that you don't have to take anyone's crap if you don't want to. My job has improved greatly simply from knowing that I can lose my job and not really have to worry too much about the financial outcomes.
6. "Is this it?" Yes, your life is far from average, but most everyone in the world goes to work, spends time with their family, does chores, spends time in the community, etc. The only difference is everyone in the west has it better than 99% of the rest of the world. And for your area, you're probably in the 90th percentile for income, etc. Your on top of the fuckin' world, but you just can't see it. The advertisers have done a masterful job of creating that exact mindset in this country: "Is this it?" Yes, this is it, and it is a beautiful life. You have health, a family, great jobs, a healthy son, etc.
Don't get me wrong, I struggle with "enough" and contentment just like you do. But when I go home at night and my 2 year old son tells me how much fun he had with my wife cooking dinner and swimming in a friend's pool, I realize that my life is bad ass even when it doesn't feel that way.
Suggestions for your financial affairs:
1. How long til the CC debt is gone? What is the interest rate like? If a long time and the interest rates suck, consider a HELOC if you have enough equity. If you go this route, make sure you are determined to pay this off just like you seem to be with the CCs.
2. Assuming you guys are maxing 401(k), but if not, $35,000 should go to both of those each year.
3. Sell your clown car. After you've reached FI, buy whatever clown car you want. Take money and pay off CC debt. Could you survive on one car until CCs are gone?
There are a million other ways you can optimize, but the happiest people I know spend money on things they cherish and enjoy. Sounds like you need to think about and act on your "why" and most everything else will fall into place!
Best of luck!