It's entirely possible that your relatives are the sorts of people that will always live up to (and beyond) their income. These people are sadly a dime a dozen, and the reality is they have to pull a 180 later in life. I am a firm believer that people are like wet cement, as they age that cement gets firmer and firmer, big changes become harder and harder. It's easy to make big changes when one is 25, less so when one is 55 and has to break a thirty year cycle of bad habits. It is doable however, the missus and I aren't all that different demographically from your relatives and we made a lot of those changes (we did have a much better starting point in all fairness, it wasn't that radical for us). The biggest question I would ask you is how willing are your relatives to change? Be completely honest here, if these are folks that can see their financial problems but are entirely too set in their ways then they will continue to live with those problems.