Ah yes, to be 39 again. How did I look then? I was in a dysfunctional marriage (she wanted to live paycheck to paycheck - it was bad), maybe $25,000 in my retirement account, and a house with a few thousand in equity. In the coming year I would start 1.5 years of unemployment, and followed that with a two year battle for a divorce. 14 years later (I'm 53) I have $500k in investments, am vested in a pension plan, have a paid off house & car, and a GF with more in her investments than I do (we surprised each other when we started looking at our finances). It wasn't always easy, and I learned a lot on the way, but it can be done.
This site is the perfect place to learn a lot of tricks to get your financial life in order. I was a mustachian before it became popular. But even I learn things by reading the blog and forums. The first few years were the hardest for me, but then it became easier and easier. If you stick with it, you can turn your life around.