Quick version: How often do you communicate with your partner about finances and how they relate to your goals? Have they helped?
Backstory: My partner and I had lots of discussions about our thoughts and attitudes towards money prior to getting married (we were on the same page). Fast forward 7 years – now when I talk to my DW about our finances, I have about 15 – 30 minutes before she shuts down. Fact is, she hates thinking about this stuff. She does budget and talks about needing to save more, but she really only saves the $5500 max in her IRA (she does not, however, spend above her means). I have taken on the job of securing our financial future and planning for retirement (I’m close to hitting the 50% savings mark but don't earn a huge salary).
She has decided she wants more adventure in our lives (we don’t have kids). That may involve moving, or just traveling more, or who knows... I told her I’m game for anything but have been working too hard on savings just to say “screw it, let’s quit our jobs and move and new jobs/finances will figure themselves out”. We both enjoy other activities and have a decent social life, but she is still not fulfilled (our relationship is good – we’re pretty open about everything).
I do agree that we have a certain amount of freedom to do things and that work needs to stop being the center of our lives (we don't have a horrible work week, but stress and just thinking about it takes up more time than we both were willing to admit).
I'm just trying to figure out how to approach all this while maintaining (or even increasing) our savings rate, especially when she shuts down while talking finances. Right now I am on pace to retire, or have both of us work minimally, in about 10 years - I'll be 52 and my partner is 6 years younger than me. If I retired completely, she would probably need to work until about the same age - 52. That's still retiring early, if not much.
So, anyone else have / having the same issues with their partner?