We can definitely “afford” the nice house by everyone else’s standards, but to me it makes us invest less a month than I would like. Anyone here buy probably too much house but not regret it in hindsight, or regret it lol?
I heard a quote on ChooseFI the other day and it is resonating with me a lot: Build the life you want, then retire into it! Having a nice home is definitely part of the life I want.
We bought our starter home in 1992, after the implosion of Savings & Loans banking. Got a great deal on an ugly probate house. We thought we'd rehab, and move in 5-7 years.
We stayed for 19, because the location, space, and amenities worked. Also because re-setting our property tax basis in CA would have cost ~ $300 more per month (in addition to an increased principal & interest payment). We decided that stuffing money in retirement accounts and buying DH a business was a better use of our money.
After nearly 20 years, DH was getting out of his physically punishing job (after he had spinal surgery). So we finally pulled the plug and moved to our "maybe forever" home. (It has stairs, the only downside).
Again, with our "new" place, we bought an ugly house, at near the bottom of the market (2011). The house is now worth nearly double what we paid for it.
Two things made moving to our "maybe forever" home possible:
1) We saved a lot for retirement in that first home phase, and the compounding will make semi-RE possible.
2) We never treated the former home as an ATM - we pulled cash out once but reinvested it right back into the house at very cheap rates. We still had a 40% DP on the "new" house, which means the PITI difference per month is noticeable, but not impossible. And yes, that PITI is higher, which initially meant less for investing. But our early investing has really paid off. And in the 10 years we've been in the "new" house, I have had two SUBSTANTIAL bumps in pay - so we are now saving more than ever.
We are DELIGHTED with the "new" house, even though it's still ugly and some areas need work (e.g., rusted-out master bathroom sink, and kitchen shelves that the rollers are failing on).
It has a huge shop area for DH, which means for the first time ever, all of his tools can be stored in one area. He has floor space for a table saw and a panel saw, so he can do real work. We have space for guests, and for them to have their own bathroom. We have a deck and outdoor kitchen, which means we are flooded with friends and family in the spring, summer and fall. With Covid, and being unable to travel, we have delighted in the space even more.
Did it set our FIRE date back a bit? Yes, absolutely. Perhaps by 3-5 years. But for the 10-13 years that we still HAD to work before FIRE, it has engendered a deep satisfaction in our home life.