Hang on a second. I'm not stating that I or my wife expect to be given a million dollars. Your reaction is way over the top.
I'm not a fan of handouts.
The million dollars figure I named as an example (in part for a simple figure and in part because it's true. With the million in the bank, added to what I have already, we could stop working.) But contrary to you comment about not being a fan of handouts, see below the bold, where you:
1. State you got a handout of 25% of your house
2. Share your wife is pissed that your in-laws spent money on their house and when questioned about why she is pissed, explain:
a. If they gave you the money (implied: that they had spent on their house), neither of you would have to work. aka a handout
b. You get where she's coming from (in other words, you don't necessarily think she's wrong and maybe even agree with her her that she ought to be pissed)
Immigration is fairly high in Sydney and I think some families get a lot of help. My in-laws paid 25% of our house. I'll give a great example of crazy house prices. My in-laws live in Vaucluse (close to Sydney harbour) which is really expensive. Some developer or investor bought 2 houses close together near their house and knocked them down and build a new house. They want I think $60 million and knocked back $55 million. My in-laws who are mustachian had a slip up. They renovated their investment property in the same area and spend $1.5 million. My wife was spewing because we intend to retire on a lot less than that.
Why should your wife be mad? It's their money to spend how they like. As long as they can afford the home and don't come later to you for a handout (which seems unlikely given they gave you 25% of your own home), there's no harm, no foul here to get mad about.
If they gave it to us my wife wouldn't have to work in a crappy job. I wouldn't have to work in my cushy job. She is over it now but I get where she is coming from.
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