...decide what "well-educated" means to you...
This is so important. Most parents default to the "best" that they can afford without really examining what that means to them. What is the "best" to you? How do you want/expect schooling to shape your child? Are you hoping to throw money at the issue with the expectation that it's your best shot at a good outcome? The best that one can afford is not necessarily the best for the child. What are your specific fears when you think about sending your child to a "poor"/lower performing school? What do you hope to be gained at the end of a private school career vs. a not so great public school? Are your expectations reasonable? Are there other layers to this decision that you could peel back and examine?
If you give public school a try for a year, what would be the harm in that?
Thank you, these are the exact questions I needed someone else to ask of me. Yes, I do not want this discussion to be about the merits of public v. charter v. private schools because it does not answer the questions above and everyone has such a different set of background and exceptions about schooling. The testing part of it is to make sure that a school is providing at least an "average" education to the students, i.e. at least half the students cover common core (which is a very low bar anyway).
So yes, we have a very well defined idea of what academically a "well-educated" person is and that stems from our experiences, and that is expressed in high academic rigor (think Singapore or Finland). It does not mean hours or homework, and hours spend in school. But it means proficiency in math, and exposure to a wide and deep reading material and writing expectations. When we were growing up, doing algebra in 6th grade was standard for all students, and not incredibly challenging with the right instructor, and now due to common core, algebra is taught in 9th grade! The wirting I had to do in 5 and 6th grade is HS level now. I did not think that impossible.
Of course, a well educated person to us is someone who has also been exposed to many different people and situations, and in addition to academics, has build a system of solving problems no matter the matter of the problem. A well educated person should know about relationship buidling and marketing themselves. So it is not about academics only.
Those are things that can be though and passed as "wisdom" to anyone no matter their innate academic potential but it needs the environment to foster it.
That is why I am flip-flopping and cannot decide what to do - it is hard to judge any of those schools on the non-academic items, but many fail our bar not by a little, but by a lot, even on the academics.
So I guess all these responses are helping me crystalize this, and it is not the "type" of school, but what we want the outcome to be and how much effort it would take to get there.
HomeschoolingI have seriously though about homeschooling also, but in our community there is outright hostility to homeschooling, and a very small community of home schoolers. From what I have read, a good homeschooling coop is really almost a requirement so there is the socialization and making friends piece. We also have only one child so no build in socialization with siblings.
Charter Our charter is high achieving academically but it get there through very strict homeroom discipline so that the 30 odd kids do not create a chaotic environment. So the discipline is directly responsible for the good academics. But that discipline (and I have talked to many parents from that charter) is almost akin to boot-camp, where the teacher is the drill sargent and the students learn the code and abide by it. The issue is not the style but rather, how my child when ready to transfer to middle school will transition from a strong teacher directed and mandated code to a more regular school. If you are familiar with KIPP academy our charter takes the same approach.
Private and PublicI am very aware of the social issues that can arise, but this particular private is catholic, and many are not ultra rich - they have 20% of the class on financial aid. I am not so concerned with the social aspect because I have gathered info that you can definitely find your group, even if not rich. The issue I have with the school is the money even though we could probably "afford" it. If the school was half of what the tuition we have to pay was, I would enroll there in a minute because it represents a some balance between academics/extras/social exposure.
I just have a hard time justifying the money if we have a free option (public or charter) but that would have to be heavily supplemented with other things that other public schools in better districts have such as instrument, orchestra, language, stronger academics, etc.
Anyway, a long rant mostly to get all those thoughts out of my head.
Comments welcome.