Thank you everyone for your helpful replies.
Re: Private Sale
I don't think I can go the private transaction route without losing my mind. I've picked up freelance work in addition to my regular job. So now I work 60 hours a week, I have a 6 month old child and an elderly, infirm dog that needs extra attention. Adding the stress of trying to find a car buyer on my own might break me. It's possible I'm overestimating the amount of stress this will add. My finances aren't a total dumpster fire. I'm on track to have all debt paid off by the end of this year (trading down in car would accelerate this), except my rather modest mortgage. So, I think I'm just going to eat the $2000ish penalty for selling to a dealer. I'll save roughly that much in fuel in a year.
Re: Replacement vehicle choice
I've been pricing out cars. The Ford Fusion Hybrid seems to offer a good value. I can get a newer model year with fewer miles than the hybrid versions of camry, sonata, prius for the same price. Does anyone have an opinion on the Ford Fusion?
I'm wary of buying any car that has like 90k+ miles. Am I being silly?
Huge kudos for realizing you made a mistake and for being willing to take action. You'll go far. Ok, here's what I'm thinking...
Regarding private sale, I kinda see your perspective on wanting to just take it to a dealer. If it were me, I'd still go private sale, but I won't judge you on that one.
Regarding your statement of a 90k+ miles car...you're not only being silly, you are costing yourself a small fortune over time to be silly.
My wife and I have about 650k net worth, we have a gross income of 160k/year, and we are 35 years old. We can afford any care we want. Neither of us have EVER owned a car worth over 6k, and have no intention of starting soon.
Insurance savings. The main thing is to buy a car that's cheap enough to justify getting PLPD insurance. I pay $360/year to insure my 2007 Prius (bought in 2016 for 5k with 165k miles on it at the time). My wife pays $360/year to insure her 2008 Prius (bought in 2016 for 6k with 160k miles on it at the time).
We pay $720 per year combined to insure 2 vehicles!We can do this, because we can justify shelling out 5k to buy another Prius if one gets totaled.
If you bought a car with let's say 60k miles, could you afford to pay cash for it AND have enough reserves to justify not getting full coverage insurance? If not, you are going to pay dearly.
Repairs. I've had $300 in repair bills for my Prius in the 2.5 years I've owned it. My wife has had about $700 in total. This is a drop in the bucket. Certainly not a reason to not get an older car.
Depreciation. The just don't depreciate much. I can buy it for 5k, drive it for 7 years, and sell it for 2k. That's about 400 in depreciation per year.
Investing the difference. Because I have so little cash tied up in cars, those extra thousands are in VTSAX earning compound interest.
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loan payments. Enough said there.
There are so many pros to buying a cheap reliable gas sipper. We aren't buying cheap cars DESPITE being worth over 600k. We are worth over 600k BECAUSE we drive cheap cars.
If you do your homework and buy a long lasting car that has been taken care of well, 150k miles is a BABY.
Good luck!