My parents immigrated to the US from China in the 1980s and I spent the vast majority of my life in the US. They had a "plan" for my career and life that I followed until I gave up on it a few years ago:
Step 1: Do really well in High School, get a 3.7+ GPA, 700+ on all your SATs, etc.
Step 2: Go to a decent college.
Step 3: Go to grad school and get a PhD.
Step 4: Find a job and start working. Do not work until you get to this step or else it'll derail your education (those were their words, not my opinion.)
Keep in mind my parents paid for college and even grad school. I even brought the possibility of choosing my own path in life and not taking their money but let's just say those conversations never ended pleasantly and I just reluctantly chugged along whatever plan they had. I got through Steps 1 and 2 fine but at step 3, I failed out of a PhD program for Engineering despite 2 years of hard work and parents were not pleased. Unfortunately, the career track I picked wasn't something I was naturally interested in nor were there many opportunities for anyone with less than a PhD so I decided this was my once in a lifetime chance to pursue my passions: Finance. So I went to pursue another MS but this time in Finance. This was in 2007 and I graduated in 2009. Needless to say, the job market for Finance was a mess when I graduated.
I eventually found a job in Finance (in 2010) which is still the job I have in the present. Although the pay isn't too glamorous, it at least leaves enough money to be saved (about 1/3 of my take home pay) after a carefully planned budget (I save about $1000 - 1500 a month and take home about $3000). Right now, there are a few things I'm having trouble getting over with:
- The fact that many of my college friends are light years ahead in their careers while I'm still at entry level in my early 30s.. retiring in my 30s seems like a pipe dream now.
- My parents have spent about $250,000 on my education (1 bachelor's degree and 2 Masters) and have yet to see any substantial return from it.
Some of my friends think I should be grateful that my parents paid for my education since theirs didn't (which I am grateful for.) Others say they did a disservice for misleading my career and life (I'd rather blame myself for not taking responsibility much earlier in life.) What do you think?