Thank you, everyone! I know my financial situation seems a bit shaky with the decision to go back to school. To answer a few questions:
I did apply for the joint RN/NP programs, and didn't get in to the few I targeted. However, I feel like this could be a plus financially because once I start work as an RN (between the programs) it's possible that my employer would pay for the NP program, although I'm not at all counting on that, of course.
I haven't been accepted to a program yet and therefore don't know which city we might end up in. However, I am targeting programs in cities similar to what many of you describe-- smaller, college towns, low cost of living. I would attempt to not get a car and would take public transport. For when I needed to get to clinicals in random places, my SO would take public transport.
We will probably move our stuff, because SO has a car, so we'll drive to new city. Many of the programs start in January, I'm targeting those first so I don't have to wait until next September (I missed the deadlines for this upcoming September already).
Yes, my SO will support me. He is obviously wonderful for doing this.
With regards to how many months current savings would get us through... our cost of living will be drastically lower. We currently live separately in the highest COL city ever, and would be living together in a lower COL city on a tiny, tiny budget. If he doesn't get a job? Well, honestly, I'm an optimistic person, but we're also lukcy that one or both of our parents would probably help support us. If something happens to him, god forbid, I guess I would have to drop out of the program.
I know student debt sucks. However, my salary will be significantly higher and I will pay that debt aggressively, out of the way in 4 years. Obviously I will apply for every/all scholarships and grants, and would work in public sector if that would forgive some of my debt (though it seems that policy is in the midst of changing)
Anyways, your responses have really motivated me to start saving even more money right now. I already don't go out to eat and try to be frugal with groceries ($160 a month for every breakfast, lunch, dinner), don't buy clothing of course. Living in NYC is just expensive! But I am going to try even harder to save more money!