Sorry if this is disorganized....
For the past several months, I've been feeling like something is really "off." After finishing graduate school three and half years ago, we relocated to South Florida to be closer to family. Even though we were shocked by the cost of living, I had found a good job as a professor and my husband was making very decent money as a restaurant manager. We were renting a house, saving a decent amount of money, and adjusting. Last year we bought a house, and I feel like everything has changed. Even though we love our home, we are realizing that we HATE south Florida, and we are struggling financially. It's too hot, the people are frequently rude, the traffic is terrible, the "keeping up with the Joneses mentality" is exhausting and dangerous, etc. And the house, simply put, is just too expensive for us. We bought it to compensate for not really liking the area we were in, feeling like it would help us tolerate the area. All of the family we moved to be closer to has since moved away with the exception of my husband's parents, who we love tremendously and who would be devastated if we moved away after finally "coming home" (we have two young children, their grandkids). My husband's work schedule is killing him at 60+ hours a week of restaurant work (sometimes overnight shifts, sometimes day shifts or mids...no consistency of sleep patterns). When he's home, he's not really "home"--his brain is at work, where he basically lives. The kids barely see him. Our savings is dwindling rapidly, and if something doesn't change, things could get serious.
This is NOT how we want to live. We want to be together, spend time with our kids, go outside and enjoy life. We put a new roof on the house and all new floors, money we would lose if we sold it; we'd also lose a huge chunk in closing costs and realtor fees. We feel so stuck--unsure if we should just sell the house and downsize here in Hell, sell the house and move to the Pacific NW (in a lower cost of living area) once we could secure work, try to stick it out to see if these feelings are temporary (I've been picking up extra courses as an adjunct just to make ends meet). I'm so lost. I don't want to crush by in-laws, and I *love* my current job....it's just everything else. Any advice or encouragement would definitely be appreciated!