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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3800 on: April 20, 2021, 04:51:16 PM »
I have to wait for the lawsuits to settle before I give any details, but I never thought I'd have a story for this thread.   It's not in my nature to burn bridges on the way out, but the company fired the first salvo.   And it may not be 'epic', but having FU money has certainly given me the safety net to do what is right for my health.

Congrats bluebelle. Looking forward to hearing the story when you can tell it.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3801 on: April 21, 2021, 03:37:28 AM »
I have to wait for the lawsuits to settle before I give any details, but I never thought I'd have a story for this thread.   It's not in my nature to burn bridges on the way out, but the company fired the first salvo.   And it may not be 'epic', but having FU money has certainly given me the safety net to do what is right for my health.

I don't know how it can fail to be epic with lawsuits involved.  Can't wait to hear it.

And it looks like bluebelle is Canadian. We hardly ever sue each other and are not known to be a particularly litigious society. Now my curiosity really is piqued.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3802 on: May 05, 2021, 03:03:48 PM »
This story made me think of this thread.  https://www.bbc.com/news/business-56977650

In a nutshell, a cleaner in a bank in the UK quit and retired after being verbally abused by one of the bankers.  She left a note telling them that she had quit because of the verbal abuse and advising them to be kinder which her son posted online.  Good for her!

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3803 on: May 06, 2021, 03:27:40 AM »
This story made me think of this thread.  https://www.bbc.com/news/business-56977650

In a nutshell, a cleaner in a bank in the UK quit and retired after being verbally abused by one of the bankers.  She left a note telling them that she had quit because of the verbal abuse and advising them to be kinder which her son posted online.  Good for her!

Thanks for sharing this.  The note is totally right - we are ALL no better than the cleaner.  Some people need to have their attitudes checked.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3804 on: May 06, 2021, 10:30:32 AM »
I was going through our local international airport last month. I was struck again by how clean the bathroom was - they are always clean! I scanned the QR code and left a compliment and thank you on the complaint form. This makes me glad I did!

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« Reply #3805 on: May 07, 2021, 03:38:43 AM »
This story made me think of this thread.  https://www.bbc.com/news/business-56977650

In a nutshell, a cleaner in a bank in the UK quit and retired after being verbally abused by one of the bankers.  She left a note telling them that she had quit because of the verbal abuse and advising them to be kinder which her son posted online.  Good for her!

Thanks for sharing this.  The note is totally right - we are ALL no better than the cleaner.  Some people need to have their attitudes checked.

Agreed 100%

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3806 on: May 07, 2021, 06:59:33 AM »
I was going through our local international airport last month. I was struck again by how clean the bathroom was - they are always clean! I scanned the QR code and left a compliment and thank you on the complaint form. This makes me glad I did!

Yeah, a lot of airport bathrooms have the Smile/frown thing (or they did pre-COVID). If the bathroom was clean, I always hit the smile.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3807 on: May 07, 2021, 04:11:15 PM »
I have to wait for the lawsuits to settle before I give any details, but I never thought I'd have a story for this thread.   It's not in my nature to burn bridges on the way out, but the company fired the first salvo.   And it may not be 'epic', but having FU money has certainly given me the safety net to do what is right for my health.

I don't know how it can fail to be epic with lawsuits involved.  Can't wait to hear it.

I'll second that.  This screams "interesting story!" 

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3808 on: May 08, 2021, 03:53:42 AM »
Settlements usually have a non-disparagement clause so you have to be careful what you say.


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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3809 on: May 08, 2021, 06:42:58 AM »
Settlements usually have a non-disparagement clause so you have to be careful what you say.

Here's hoping that our anonymous forum provides just enough wiggle room for the story to be told!

In the spirit of Dickens, character names can be expressive, even while in our forum, they obscure identities. Soon we will learn the secret tale behind this generation's Jarndyce v Jarndyce. Right???

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3810 on: May 09, 2021, 01:24:26 PM »
Settlements usually have a non-disparagement clause so you have to be careful what you say.

Here's hoping that our anonymous forum provides just enough wiggle room for the story to be told!

In the spirit of Dickens, character names can be expressive, even while in our forum, they obscure identities. Soon we will learn the secret tale behind this generation's Jarndyce v Jarndyce. Right???
Well, that was an interesting rabbit hole. Thanks!

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3811 on: May 13, 2021, 07:40:38 AM »
I have declined two pointless meetings this week without giving a reason. No one has asked so far.
I got a promotion so I figure my company likes me enough that I could push harder against useless meetings. I'm on two projects where the project manager likes to hold meetings twice a week to "touch base" (ugh). I'm fine with once a week but apparently I'm supposed to be grateful its not like some other projects where they meet every day... I rarely have much to contribute to these meetings and almost everything could be handled with a few e-mails anyway.

So this week I declined two recurring meetings with barely any justification, all four meetings next week (vacation), and the first two meetings the week after that (no justification at all). That was on Monday and the project manager hasn't said a thing. In fact, he ended up cancelling the other two meetings this week so it looks like I'll be able to avoid ten meetings in a row!

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3812 on: May 13, 2021, 06:34:53 PM »
Bravo, @RWD!

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3813 on: May 14, 2021, 10:48:22 AM »
Nice work @RWD! Behold, the power of FU money. Unfortunately, I took a meeting at 4 p.m. yesterday on a gorgeous sunny day, however, no one knew I already got my Vitamin D that afternoon by playing 9 holes of "medical appointment" golf. Just starting to dip my toes into FIRE life, but hope to officially be there 12-18 months from now.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3814 on: May 26, 2021, 12:49:34 AM »
So this week I declined two recurring meetings with barely any justification, all four meetings next week (vacation), and the first two meetings the week after that (no justification at all). That was on Monday and the project manager hasn't said a thing. In fact, he ended up cancelling the other two meetings this week so it looks like I'll be able to avoid ten meetings in a row!
The CEO of our company regularly sends out emails to the effect of "if you're in a meeting that you don't feel is worth your time, you have my personal permission to walk out". ;-)

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3815 on: May 26, 2021, 10:46:18 AM »
The CEO of our company regularly sends out emails to the effect of "if you're in a meeting that you don't feel is worth your time, you have my personal permission to walk out". ;-)

And does it work? Do people at your company regularly walk out of unproductive meetings? Or are your company's meetings generally productive?

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3816 on: May 26, 2021, 11:28:20 AM »
One firm here in the UK was reputed to have a "money" clock in its meeting rooms - everyone at the meeting had to put in their hourly rate when they entered the room and the clock totted up the cost of the meeting for as long as it continued, as an incentive to finish.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3817 on: May 26, 2021, 12:51:43 PM »
One firm here in the UK was reputed to have a "money" clock in its meeting rooms - everyone at the meeting had to put in their hourly rate when they entered the room and the clock totted up the cost of the meeting for as long as it continued, as an incentive to finish.
That is absolutely brilliant!

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« Reply #3818 on: May 26, 2021, 01:52:04 PM »
One firm here in the UK was reputed to have a "money" clock in its meeting rooms - everyone at the meeting had to put in their hourly rate when they entered the room and the clock totted up the cost of the meeting for as long as it continued, as an incentive to finish.
That is absolutely brilliant!

Brilliant or a way to be penny wise pound foolish.... 

But my employer could legitimately be accused of having to few meetings.  (yes that can actually be a thing.)

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3819 on: May 26, 2021, 02:24:53 PM »
One firm here in the UK was reputed to have a "money" clock in its meeting rooms - everyone at the meeting had to put in their hourly rate when they entered the room and the clock totted up the cost of the meeting for as long as it continued, as an incentive to finish.
you could see that as an incentive to finish... or an incentive to keep watching that tick up while you do next to nothing.
In all seriousness, most meetings should be emails. And most emails shouldn't exist.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3820 on: May 26, 2021, 02:32:22 PM »
One firm here in the UK was reputed to have a "money" clock in its meeting rooms - everyone at the meeting had to put in their hourly rate when they entered the room and the clock totted up the cost of the meeting for as long as it continued, as an incentive to finish.
you could see that as an incentive to finish... or an incentive to keep watching that tick up while you do next to nothing.
In all seriousness, most meetings should be emails. And most emails shouldn't exist.
To be fair, this was BE (Before Email).

It's a wonder we survived at all.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3821 on: May 26, 2021, 02:48:35 PM »
The CEO of our company regularly sends out emails to the effect of "if you're in a meeting that you don't feel is worth your time, you have my personal permission to walk out". ;-)

And does it work? Do people at your company regularly walk out of unproductive meetings? Or are your company's meetings generally productive?
I think it sort of does, it does lead to a strong company-wide awareness that meetings aren't free, and unless people are directly asked to attend a meeting I think there's no pushback if you don't. The principle applies more strongly to large meetings, if you have a one on one with your manager and you walk out, I doubt that would be appreciated... ;-)


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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3822 on: May 26, 2021, 08:53:03 PM »
Settlements usually have a non-disparagement clause so you have to be careful what you say.

Here's hoping that our anonymous forum provides just enough wiggle room for the story to be told!

In the spirit of Dickens, character names can be expressive, even while in our forum, they obscure identities. Soon we will learn the secret tale behind this generation's Jarndyce v Jarndyce. Right???
Well, that was an interesting rabbit hole. Thanks!

Only in law can telling the truth wind you up in more trouble.

Estate battles are epic. Canít divulge too many details but I once worked at a small accounting practice whose ongoing viability was underwritten by a certain estate. The fees charged made up a significant proportion of what one could consider to be the ď4%Ē generated from the estate.

The firm also had on board as a client the lawyer responsible for defending the estate in court, and he would have eaten up the remainder of the 4%.

Conceivably, this is still continuing a couple of decades on, and could go on in perpetuity as the estate had a long track record of generating investment returns significantly in excess of 4%.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3823 on: May 26, 2021, 09:19:53 PM »
More of a "no thanks" story than "FU" story, but I thought I'd post here because having a big stash and not desiring to inflate my lifestyle is what makes answers to questions like these pretty easy for me:

I work as an engineer in product development for a large corporation. The manufacturing side of our business unit has been swamped with demand, and hasn't been able to hire skilled labor quickly enough to meet it. So, today I get a call from my manager out of the blue offering me the opportunity to work an additional 20hrs/wk through the end of August as a machinist. The idea is that I could do something like 6x10hr days: M-Th in my normal engineering function, and F-Sa as a machinist making equivalent of time and a half my normal salary. I did the math, and it would have worked out to about $24,000 worth of overtime. It could be a fun change of pace, but from a work-life balance I'd much rather have my summer free this year and tack a few months of normal work onto the end of my career. So, it was an easy "no thanks" for me.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3824 on: May 28, 2021, 01:48:43 PM »
While we're waiting on something actually Epic and/or FU, I'll share our most recent story.

Wife was offered a job contingent on her getting a bachelor's degree. Turns out they couldn't actually offer that, so she was offered a different position with a verbal promise that the original job would be hers when she did get the degree. She'd have to work nights in the interim, which she hates, but figured it'd be for a year max.

A year passes, she graduates, they post the job listing, and her manager explains that there have been a few other applicants. Basically, prepping my wife for the possibility that she might not get the position. Few days later, wife puts in a PTO request to start burning up the weeks she's accumulated, states she wants to go to days when she gets back, AND asks her manager to fill out a referral form for her because she's started applying to other jobs. She got the official offer (for the originally promised position) within the week.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3825 on: May 28, 2021, 03:12:35 PM »
Bravo, 5.
Well played by your partner.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3826 on: May 28, 2021, 03:14:50 PM »
While we're waiting on something actually Epic and/or FU, I'll share our most recent story.

Wife was offered a job contingent on her getting a bachelor's degree. Turns out they couldn't actually offer that, so she was offered a different position with a verbal promise that the original job would be hers when she did get the degree. She'd have to work nights in the interim, which she hates, but figured it'd be for a year max.

A year passes, she graduates, they post the job listing, and her manager explains that there have been a few other applicants. Basically, prepping my wife for the possibility that she might not get the position. Few days later, wife puts in a PTO request to start burning up the weeks she's accumulated, states she wants to go to days when she gets back, AND asks her manager to fill out a referral form for her because she's started applying to other jobs. She got the official offer (for the originally promised position) within the week.

Sounds pretty darn epic to me!

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3827 on: May 29, 2021, 04:54:04 AM »
While we're waiting on something actually Epic and/or FU, I'll share our most recent story.

Wife was offered a job contingent on her getting a bachelor's degree. Turns out they couldn't actually offer that, so she was offered a different position with a verbal promise that the original job would be hers when she did get the degree. She'd have to work nights in the interim, which she hates, but figured it'd be for a year max.

A year passes, she graduates, they post the job listing, and her manager explains that there have been a few other applicants. Basically, prepping my wife for the possibility that she might not get the position. Few days later, wife puts in a PTO request to start burning up the weeks she's accumulated, states she wants to go to days when she gets back, AND asks her manager to fill out a referral form for her because she's started applying to other jobs. She got the official offer (for the originally promised position) within the week.

Absolutely. This totally fits and is really the best case in my opinion. FU money stories tend to end with jobs over and bridges being burned. These can be exciting and are the best popcorn stories often :-). However, as a non-confrontational person, I'd personally much prefer something where you just say, this is how it is (because you have the sense of freedom to do it regardless of the consequences), and the company fixes the problem (that they should have done already) and makes the situation better. Rock on for her!

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3828 on: May 29, 2021, 07:29:56 AM »
While we're waiting on something actually Epic and/or FU, I'll share our most recent story.

Wife was offered a job contingent on her getting a bachelor's degree. Turns out they couldn't actually offer that, so she was offered a different position with a verbal promise that the original job would be hers when she did get the degree. She'd have to work nights in the interim, which she hates, but figured it'd be for a year max.

A year passes, she graduates, they post the job listing, and her manager explains that there have been a few other applicants. Basically, prepping my wife for the possibility that she might not get the position. Few days later, wife puts in a PTO request to start burning up the weeks she's accumulated, states she wants to go to days when she gets back, AND asks her manager to fill out a referral form for her because she's started applying to other jobs. She got the official offer (for the originally promised position) within the week.

Absolutely. This totally fits and is really the best case in my opinion. FU money stories tend to end with jobs over and bridges being burned. These can be exciting and are the best popcorn stories often :-). However, as a non-confrontational person, I'd personally much prefer something where you just say, this is how it is (because you have the sense of freedom to do it regardless of the consequences), and the company fixes the problem (that they should have done already) and makes the situation better. Rock on for her!

100% agreed! The best kind of FU story is when financial freedom gives you the ability to demand the right thing and see it done. Watching the world burn is fun and all (as long as I'm not standing amongst the flames!), but the better stories are the ones where something wrong is made right.

Thank you for the excellent FU story! Here's hoping it rattles a few more memories from the many, many lurkers :D

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3829 on: May 29, 2021, 07:43:16 AM »
Thanks for the positive feedback! I viewed it as on the low-end of epic and since I'm obviously biased, figured it'd probably be just below the line; i.e. "nearly" epic. Maybe my definition of epic is a bit high, or it's just been a slow week.

It is definitely nice to know you have options.

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« Reply #3830 on: May 30, 2021, 07:19:53 AM »
Didn't think I'd have anything to add to this thread again but while we're waiting for epic stories I thought I'd share my getting a raise story.

I've been doing some extra work with my old boss at $3k per year. She had a specific skill and she was teaching me so that if anything happened to her I knew what needed to be done. I had been assisting her for about 4 years at this rate which is fine. I was learning.

Long story short, old boss left and new boss came in this year and asked if I was going to continue doing said skill. I said I wasn't going to do it for $3k (I used the gratitude sandwich so it was alot nicer than just me saying "No"). He asked me how much? I said $16k. He said ok. Win win.

Side note he said "Ok" so quickly I wonder if I should have gone higher. $16k is fair but it's fun to wonder. :D

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« Reply #3831 on: May 30, 2021, 08:29:44 AM »
Didn't think I'd have anything to add to this thread again but while we're waiting for epic stories I thought I'd share my getting a raise story.

I've been doing some extra work with my old boss at $3k per year. She had a specific skill and she was teaching me so that if anything happened to her I knew what needed to be done. I had been assisting her for about 4 years at this rate which is fine. I was learning.

Long story short, old boss left and new boss came in this year and asked if I was going to continue doing said skill. I said I wasn't going to do it for $3k (I used the gratitude sandwich so it was alot nicer than just me saying "No"). He asked me how much? I said $16k. He said ok. Win win.

Side note he said "Ok" so quickly I wonder if I should have gone higher. $16k is fair but it's fun to wonder. :D

433% raise with 5 seconds of negotiation easily qualifies as epic.

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« Reply #3832 on: May 30, 2021, 08:44:18 AM »
Side note he said "Ok" so quickly I wonder if I should have gone higher. $16k is fair but it's fun to wonder. :D

That tends to haunt me too...lol.

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« Reply #3833 on: May 31, 2021, 01:05:23 AM »
Side note he said "Ok" so quickly I wonder if I should have gone higher. $16k is fair but it's fun to wonder. :D

That's a real negotiation lesson there, thought in classes.  Don't say "yes" too quickly, leaving the other party wondering if they should be unhappy with the results even if they reach their goals.

And just one of the reasons in face to face negotiations where it pays off to just be quiet for five seconds before saying yes.  :)

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« Reply #3834 on: May 31, 2021, 07:07:25 AM »
At my current job, they have given me every raise I've ever asked for or very close to it. Almost everytime, it's no fuss "yep, ok".

Makes me question myself, but I think more likely, the manager just wants to keep me, and there's a range in which he knows they can pay.

I think when a manager wants to keep you, they don't want to leave the impression that you're close to "the line where you're no longer worth it". Keep them happy and satisfied do that they don't look around.

There probably is a number that would be too much (could be that if you said $17k, he said the top he could do is $16k). I've known from managers where if someone said a figure at the top of the range they're allowed to go, they don't fight it and let the person have the top of the range. (Plenty of managers hate negotiating too!)

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« Reply #3835 on: June 01, 2021, 10:26:04 AM »
My Epic FU story is just in its infancy as I have yet to leave.  Background : I have been at this company since college (25 years).  It isnít always an easy transition when one of the owners leaves and I do care about the future of the company and the younger owners who are in the same boat I was in 10 to 20 years ago.  All of my workload will need to be carried by someone else and their workloads are already pretty heavy.  They may need to bring someone else onboard.  So I wanted to give them a say into when I made the move to allow for some transition and to make sure it is seamless (within reason, of course).

About 2 weeks ago I told another owner of the company that I was thinking I would sell my portion of the company and leave in the next year or so.  I mentioned that I would like him to put together a transition plan, let me know what he needs from me before I leave, and the timing that would work best for the company and other owners.  It caught him off guard a bit that I would consider the companyís needs in my decision as I am in my 40s.  Iím not sure anyone my age or younger has given him this kind of news until after they had another job lined up and a date set that they were leaving.  I plan to do something for another year or two after I leave so not quite pulling the ripcord on retirement yet, but just getting away from the stress that is becoming increasingly difficult for me to manage.  I plan to take my time after I leave to look for something that works well for me.  Salary will not be a huge factor in where I go.

That is where we are to date.  Still waiting on a plan from the group.  Will probably be a big topic at our next meeting I'm sure.

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« Reply #3836 on: June 01, 2021, 10:32:13 AM »
That is where we are to date.  Still waiting on a plan from the group.  Will probably be a big topic at our next meeting I'm sure.

Nice.  In my experience, no matter how much notice you give, they wait until the last week to start doing anything about it.

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« Reply #3837 on: June 01, 2021, 10:59:04 AM »
That is where we are to date.  Still waiting on a plan from the group.  Will probably be a big topic at our next meeting I'm sure.

Nice.  In my experience, no matter how much notice you give, they wait until the last week to start doing anything about it.

Agreed!!!

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« Reply #3838 on: June 01, 2021, 11:55:21 AM »
I've really been enjoying the quietly epic stories lately. No big crash-n-burn flounce, just the financial security to ask politely but firmly for what you want without fear of the consequences - and getting it!

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« Reply #3839 on: June 01, 2021, 12:20:36 PM »
That is where we are to date.  Still waiting on a plan from the group.  Will probably be a big topic at our next meeting I'm sure.

Nice.  In my experience, no matter how much notice you give, they wait until the last week to start doing anything about it.

I think that is possible but if so, I'll set a date and leave.  If they give me a plan that looks reasonable and tell me they need me to stay until it is executed, I'll consider it.  I don't feel like I have given up control of the situation, just looking for their input.  Knowing what I know about the other owners, I think they will follow through with what they said they would do.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3840 on: June 01, 2021, 12:26:34 PM »
I've really been enjoying the quietly epic stories lately. No big crash-n-burn flounce, just the financial security to ask politely but firmly for what you want without fear of the consequences - and getting it!

Thanks SLTD.  I have worked with and trained many of the younger owners.  I know they are right where I was 10, 15, or 20 years ago.  I look forward to staying in touch with them afterwards.  I'd enjoy working with them going forward, but I can no longer deal with some of the stresses of the job and clients that I work with.  So it is time to go (or at least the beginning of the process).

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3841 on: June 01, 2021, 03:04:10 PM »
That is where we are to date.  Still waiting on a plan from the group.  Will probably be a big topic at our next meeting I'm sure.

Nice.  In my experience, no matter how much notice you give, they wait until the last week to start doing anything about it.

Agreed!!!

For sure.   After all, you may come to your senses and change your mind.    Like that horse might learn to sing!

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3842 on: June 08, 2021, 09:10:49 AM »
That is where we are to date.  Still waiting on a plan from the group.  Will probably be a big topic at our next meeting I'm sure.

Nice.  In my experience, no matter how much notice you give, they wait until the last week to start doing anything about it.

Agreed!!!

For sure.   After all, you may come to your senses and change your mind.    Like that horse might learn to sing!

A week is even generous in my experience! No joke, when I left my old job my management told me who my replacements would be 2 business days before my departure... and I had given 4 weeks notice. Fortunately I had already identified (mostly the same) replacements and trained many of them, but that's only because I cared about the people I worked with and didn't want to burn any bridges. When my management gave me the list, I merely pointed them to the people that I had already trained... Wasn't my problem anymore.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3843 on: June 08, 2021, 11:32:29 AM »
That is where we are to date.  Still waiting on a plan from the group.  Will probably be a big topic at our next meeting I'm sure.

Nice.  In my experience, no matter how much notice you give, they wait until the last week to start doing anything about it.

Agreed!!!

For sure.   After all, you may come to your senses and change your mind.    Like that horse might learn to sing!

A week is even generous in my experience! No joke, when I left my old job my management told me who my replacements would be 2 business days before my departure... and I had given 4 weeks notice. Fortunately I had already identified (mostly the same) replacements and trained many of them, but that's only because I cared about the people I worked with and didn't want to burn any bridges. When my management gave me the list, I merely pointed them to the people that I had already trained... Wasn't my problem anymore.
I gave two months notice leaving my last job and they didn't even advertise the position until three months after I left. In the subsequent two and a half years I have seen them post that position seven times for a team of three people. They're on their third generation because no one will stay now

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3844 on: June 08, 2021, 12:42:07 PM »
I gave two months notice leaving my last job and they didn't even advertise the position until three months after I left. In the subsequent two and a half years I have seen them post that position seven times for a team of three people. They're on their third generation because no one will stay now

And yet they NEVER learn...

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3845 on: June 08, 2021, 01:32:07 PM »
No exciting bridge-burning, rage-quitting story here, just someone who had the FU-money-confidence to prioritize my time over a paycheck.

I'm having a baby in July (yay!). My company is a big corporation but has a generous (for for the US) parental leave policy: STD paid at 100%, plus an additional 4 weeks at 100% pay for bonding. This coincidentally gets you to 10-12 weeks fully paid of the 12 weeks of FMLA job protected (but not guaranteed to be paid at all) leave. 12 weeks/3 months of maternity leave is pretty standard for the US, but usually most of that is unpaid for most folks. So all in all, my company is pretty solid.

I, however, said F that. I WILL stay home for 6 months with my new baby, and paying me or not during that time is no nevermind to me. Thankfully, my immediate leader was on board with an extended (unpaid, obviously) leave from the get-go, but I was fully prepared to play hardball with him if he wasn't.

This request threw HR for a loop, though. In my huge, long-running company, apparently no one (????) has ever asked for an extended parental leave? My idea was to just tack on a sabbatical/unpaid personal leave at the end of my maternity leave (both leave types exist and I personally know colleagues who have done both leave types at my company), plus maybe burn some personal vacation I've been hoarding as well. But when I asked for the two leaves adjacently, it was like I had grown 4 extra heads, HR had no idea how to handle it and were hemming and hawing over if it were possible or not.

If I hadn't had FU money, I probably 1) wouldn't have even considered taking a multi-month unpaid leave in the first place and 2) would have dropped it right there when I ran into resistance, and just done the normal maternity leave. But since I did have FU money, I stood firm, basically planned my own leave myself by studying all the policies, and basically forced HR to (reluctantly) go along with my plan. It was a lot more work than I was expecting, and I'm annoyed at the comical red tape I had to wade through and the patchwork policies that I had to string together because we live in the US, but in the end I got the full 6 months that I wanted. I call that a FU success!

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3846 on: June 08, 2021, 01:56:56 PM »
^ I say - epic!!

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3847 on: June 08, 2021, 02:37:26 PM »
Well done Lady SA! All the best for you and your baby!

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3848 on: June 08, 2021, 03:13:39 PM »
HR had no idea how to handle it and were hemming and hawing over if it were possible or not.

Uh, yes of course it's possible. The question isn't "can we do this" it's more "learn to do your job and put it into the system".

It consistently shocks me that employers think they have some say over us. Everything is negotiable. Nothing is set in stone. HR's "policy" is just that, a policy which can be altered, adjusted, and bent to meet the current person's needs.

And yet, HR departments always seem blindsided by this.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #3849 on: June 08, 2021, 08:57:32 PM »
I hate to generalise, but it seems that many HR Departments baulk at approving leave that they deem 'excessive' regardless of Company policies.
In 2005 I was able to book a whole year off work using my accrued Annual Leave and Long Service Leave here in Australia. My Manager approved it all and it was not going to cause any staff shortges etc, but HR and senior management still chased me for 'more information' simply because I was getting something they didn't think I deserved😂