I love my wife (in mid-40's), but she is lazy, unmotivated, and addicted to carbs and unhealthy food like a drug addict.
My wife has always had a weight problem, but I've been supportive and tried to get her to eat healthier, go exercise, etc. None of that has worked out so far.
My wife is on high blood pressure medicine. Despite that, she was suffering from a sinus infection so she went to the walk-in clinic to get checked out and get some anti-biotics. The nurse took her blood pressure and was shocked at how high it was (i believe 180/200), and advised my wife to go to ER or urgent care and lower her blood pressure. My wife blew it off, and said she knows she has high blood pressure and is dealing with it via meds. I think the nurse's reaction was a little bit of a wake up call for her though.
Some more back story - my wife's father passed away recently from a heart attack in his late 60's, and her mom is deathly ill, constant in and out of the hospital from diabetes and a myriad of serious health issues. I don't even want to say it but I'm seriously afraid of what might happen to the mother.
Despite these recent events, my wife continues to lead a very unhealthy lifestyle. She stays up late watching Youtube / TV, goes to work but eats very unhealthy fast food, and eats a lot of carbs at home, like bread, rice, pasta, etc, with very little veggies.
In contrast, I'm extremely lean and fit, I go to the gym 4-5 times per week. I eat organic chicken, lots of green leafy veggies, hardly any carbs, and I also practice intermittent fasting to keep my blood sugar stable and insulin response high.
I've tried for 15 years to get my wife to follow my lead. I'll make healthy food for her, and she refuses to eat it, calling it "yucky". I paid for years of gym membership, thousands of dollars in fees, and personal training lessons. It's a chore to drag her to the gym. She claims she's "tired" after work, or just not feeling like going to the gym, etc.
She got motivated for a few weeks to go to the gym once per week after her father died, which was a wake up call, but then she went back to her normal routine and stopped going to the gym or trying to eat healthy.
At this time I'm deathly afraid she will have a heart attack, stroke, or some other serious health issue. I've sent her internet information on healthy eating, why intermittent fasting is good for her, why she should avoid unhealthy carbs and fast food. Nothing seems to take. She ignores what I share with her, and prefers to watch reality TV like Project Runway, Dance moms, crap like that, instead of the nutrition and healthy lifestyle information I send to her to watch.
I've sort of given up over the years, and I told her "it seems you really want to die, the unhealthy lifestyle is literally suicide for you. I'll be extremely sad if you die, but it might be better than you being a vegetable and need 24/7 care from me to take care of you." It's extremely sad thing to say, but I need to support the family and the kids, and there's no way I could give up my job to take care of her if she is unable to live a self-sufficient lifestyle.
I'm really just venting in this post. It's upsetting to see someone not care about their own health at all, and ignore all my attempts to show them and support them to a healthier lifestyle. In a way I've thrown in the towel... I guess I need to chill and figure out how I'm going to protect myself and the family financially and emotionally if she decides it's better to eat crap food and live an completely sedentary lifestyle while taking meds for all the symptoms.