My spouse and I came from extremely different financial circumstances, I've been FIRE since I've known him, he's probably got another 20 years to go. He doesn't seem interested in MMM or retirement, and I've come to the conclusion that that's ok, it's his life.
The place that's difficult is that it's also My life. My experience is basically that having a working spouse means my choices are seriously curtailed by that work. My husband's work schedule continually defines mine; the extreme perk of retirement, being able to sculpt one's time into a totally personalized and mindful creation, is not reality. I'm still 9-5, M-F, 2 weeks of holiday, even though one would think that what I bought with all my hard work was control of my time. I get a lot more of the crap domestic work to do, because his time is committed and mine isn't. And of course, who gives a rat's ass but yeah, everyone I know basically thinks that's totally appropriate because after all, I'm "not doing anything".
I'd say some of this is up to me / you, but you Will wind up dealing with the reality that a job is your boss, even if it's not your job.