It's been a long time since I was dating (and hopefully I won't need to ever again), but most my dates (and all of the successful ones) came from dating people I met through common interests. My date and I would both be members of an organization that supported some of our interests, so we immediately had something in common to enjoy. I tended to get to know someone a bit thru our shared clubs (and vice-versa) before asking them out. Some of those clubs had weekend-long activities so the chance to get to know someone well and see how they handle themselves in adverse situations typically arose.
So, they already knew whether they liked me or not and I established enough credibility via my useful and pleasant activities in the club that they wouldn't consider me a lazy bum.
For what it's worth, there's only one person I regret dating that I started off with this way. And that's only because she fell for me hard and I didn't end up feeling that way towards her, so she got hurt. No drama queens, no Gawd-awful ex stories, just good memories and, for those I was able to stay in touch with over the years, friendly and affectionate feelings going both ways.
I don't think the "what do you do" question would seem so important to the people I started dating because a lot of their concerns would have already been laid to rest. For that matter, a lot of my potential concerns would also have been addressed. Are they good natured and fair minded? Are they sweet and kind? Do they have a sense of humor? Are they intelligent, competent and capable? Are they knowledgeable? Have they mastered something in their life? (If someone can master something they can usually master whatever they need to in the future.) Do we have enough common interests? Are they attractive to me? (Only important for dating, not friendship.)
If I had to date again I would follow the same method to start with.
The other thing I would recommend would be to really think and feel deeply about what kind of person you are attracted to and then look at yourself from their point of view. Would someone like that want to spend their life with you? If the answer is yes (and you're correct about that), then all is well.
If not, then you've got a problem. Either settle for another kind of person that will want to stay with you, or consciously change yourself into (a) a person you would be happy being and (b) that your target type of person would want to be with. You have to do both or at least one of you will end up unhappy in the relationship.
Hope that helps.