The trip happened. The trip was both very successful, and a disaster.
So, got to London. I was in ROUGH shape due to motion sickness. Resolved with food and a nap.
Everyone had a good time in London. Dad didn't much care for London itself, but did well. Mom's mobility it started to become apparent was worse than expected. London hotel was the Bedford Hotel near Russell Square - recommended. Clean, comfortable, friendly.
Went to Bath. There was a train accident which then resulted in all the other trains getting messed up, so getting on the train was impossible without assistance. We learned that the UK has very helpful assistance and they got us on a train. No idea which train we got on, but we got to Bath.
In Bath, mom's mobility was even worse. Dad did well. Sister started to not feel 100%. Bath hotel was the Abbey Hotel, very near Bath Abbey. Rooms were comfortable, wonkyness with hvac but manageable, staff were friendly. We had to tell them each night what time we were going to eat breakfast which I wasn't a fan of but I think they had a very full hotel making it necessary.
Got rental car, drove to Buckinghamshire. Sister did quite well driving. We were a bit slower than other cars preferred, but not terribly so.
In Buckinghamshire, sister got sick. She basically disappeared into her hotel room for the duration of that leg. Hotel was The Bell Hotel in Winslow. LOVED LOVED LOVED it - really old building, complete maze I got lost pretty much every time I tried to go anywhere, but it was awesome.
I went back to London. Sister also attempted to rent wheelchairs for upcoming cities, because mom walking was becoming more and more difficult. Sister gave up and bought a wheelchair. Mom and dad also got sick.
I was very happy in London doing my thing. Then discovered that I'd bought my train tickets to Scotland for the wrong day, one day later than planned. After research and consultation with sister, we decided that I was just going to show up in Scotland late. Honestly, probably the best decision in retrospect that we could have made.
Mom, dad and sister took train to Scotland. And the wheels fell off the bus. All three were sick, mom was not getting better. Sister and dad got better but plateaued. They cancelled all tour plans for Aberdeen and just stayed in the airbnb trying to recover. I show up finally, then we do a driving tour from Aberdeen to Edinburgh. (Airbnb in Stonehaven, I was just there one night and it was fine.)
In Edinburgh, we checked into the hotel (Frederick House Hotel, I heard they were not going to be a hotel much longer, but it was comfortable), ordered and ate pizza for dinner, then dad took mom to the A&E (ER), where after many hours she was admitted to the hospital with what turned out to be bacterial pneumonia. Plans for Edinburgh got really messed up at that point. Sister, dad and I spent one day doing a bus tour of the city, some shopping, and went to Edinburgh Castle.
Dad and I went home Thursday as planned - we have cats and the pet sitter was unable to extend. Sister and I also wanted to get dad home. We didn't think just her trying to manage both mom and dad would be successful in the airport, as dad can get a bit confused. Even though another person to help carry stuff would be helpful. Sister stayed in Scotland with mom, who was still in the hospital. All plans were reworked so that sister and mom would come home Sunday, as we thought that would be ok. Once home, dad went to urgent care and was diagnosed with bronchitis. I got sick while on the flight home.
Mom was released from the hospital on Friday. They did some sightseeing on Saturday, basically sat on the Royal Mile for 2 hours and did 30 minutes of shopping. They come home tomorrow (Sunday). Cross your fingers mom tolerates the flight ok.
I'm now sick and am basically waiting to see if I'm going to get better or if I'll need to see the doctor. Early indications are I'll need to go to the doctor.
Other things the trip highlighted:
First, dad has cognitive decline, but he tends to respond by just following instructions. You have to be very clear with the instructions, but as long as we are sufficiently clear and simple, he's fine. Physically he's pretty good, he does get tired and once that happens he doesn't do well.
Second, mom has some cognitive decline. It shows up more as regression to childhood. Her getting sick made it worse. Towards the end, we were quite literally providing the same level of supervision and instruction that we would to a 10-12 year old child. Also, while her mobility isn't great, her mindset makes it worse. Her mobility is also worse than we realized. She simply can not walk any sort of distance. It's not a matter of lack of exercise, her knee is bone on bone and just doesn't work. But her mindset also makes her not want to try to do things, even when she can.
Third, we are NEVER doing anything like this again. We were thinking of sending mom to Florida this year to visit some relatives, and that isn't going to happen. It just isn't possible. I think that once they're home and healthy and back into the routine they will probably regain normalcy, but for travel we would have to plan for this level of disaster.
In conclusion, we're glad we did it, it wouldn't have been possible in future, and we're never doing it again.
Oh. I've spent around $6300 so far on everything related to the trip. Doesn't include whatever I'll send my sister though.